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Family Issues: My Genotype,my Love by omexy4real(m): 3:28pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Story Title:MY LOVE MY GENOTYPEBy Caleb K. Onuoha Mama has been so fond of me since Baba died. Though Baba died at a very old age of 76, mama still missed him because he was the love of her young age. I became the eldest since we lost the two first children of the family and as a grown young man of 26, Mama has all her hope on me to be successful and give her grandchildren. Hannatu and Nana are my younger ones of twenty two and nineteen years respectively. Anytime Mama remembers Baba’s death and my two elder ones, it breaks her heart and my sisters try to console her but end up releasing springs from their eyes. Though I’m emotional too, I try to get them out of such sorrow as a man, it’s always tough but I do try my best. We barely know the cause of Haruna and Kauna’s death as they both died in two years interval at twenty five and twenty three years respectively. Haruna was a sharp boy right from his primary school days and his teachers always commended his brilliance and said he had a promising future. Kauna as her name, was loving and showed care beyond normal to the family and in the neighbor-hood also. When she was on her sick bed the night she died, she said to me, “I wish I have a chance to love my siblings and Mama again. I wish my dream of being successful and taking the family out of poverty will be fulfilled. But my condition have suffered Mama and I fill so ashamed that there is nothing I can do about it. Mama doesn’t deserve this stress at all because I love her so much.” Tears flowed down my cheeks and hers when she spoke. I never believed when the last words came from her mouth “Mama your suffering is over, Musa take care of the family. I love you all” and she gave it up. I and mama could not hold ourselves as we fill the room with tears and whaling. I have never had a girlfriend because I am a focused person. I have a dream of being a banker of which I achieved last year after I obtained my degree in accounting and finance. I promised myself that I will fall in love only to the person I will get married to. Thank God for making me successful at the young age of twenty six and I am the bread winner of the family. Mama never played with my decision though am sometimes nonchalant on some vital issues I need to know. I was in church oneSaturdayas we prepare for a very special service the next day when I noticed especially for the first time, a descent, beautiful lady who was new but very hard working. A sight of her moved my spirit abnormally and a soft voice from my heart whispered to me “its time “. Every bit of her was just descent and moderate and of course her smile also. I made her a friend, of course casual because my mind was not going for anything beyond. For one year, my family became used to Chioma and loved everything about her. She was always there when Mama’s memories of her lost come, and to my surprise, consoles more perfect and quicker than I did. Nana once said to me “I like Chioma so much because she has a heart like Kauna’s”. Well as friends, we gist, played and share life’s experiences together. I can remember a time I told her when she’s about getting married, she should give me a special handmade card different from the usual which we both laughed it out. When I became twenty nine, as normal I felt something missing in me and Mama intensified her urge for a grandchild Baba never had. Being a nonchalant person, I never attended any seminar on marriage nor read their books. Also my concentration was on my family welfare and success in my carrier. One fateful night, I just couldn’t sleep. As I wonder in my thoughts, Chioma called to chat with me before we slept off. That was the night we couldn’t hide our feelings and our emotions grew stronger. I waited till the morning when I called on her and formally proposed to her. When I told Mama and my sisters the good news, they were extremely happy that our best friend was going to be part of the family. I told Chioma to come over as we celebrate and your guess is as good as it was, the celebration was really off the chain. That was the first day Mama mentioned “at last my son is becoming a real man”. After the celebration that night, Aunty Celina, Mama’s younger sister arrived from Kaduna and was glad I will be getting married soon .I didn’t have to waste time as the plans have started. Chioma is someone I know and she knows me too so no need for too long courtship. Aunty Celina says she’s going to be around for the next two weeks and will help the family in the wedding preparation. I have told my friends, her parents and also my Church knows about it. Seeing how perfect match we are, nobody tend to require any other proof. When Aunty Celina wanted to leave for Kaduna after her two weeks stay, she asked us to visit the doctor for a genotype test. Though she believed it will match, but for formality sake, we should go to visit the doctor. I seriously never want to visit a doctor just for genotype test but Chioma playfully insisted and arranged a means for the visitation. in two days time, we were already in the hospital. We were referred to the laboratory where our blood was taken. The nurses and lab-scientist became fund of us and one lady couldn’t help but asked “I believed you two are engaged?” We replied “yes”. She then said “the way you are free with yourselves and play, the union will be great “.”You can say that again“ we both replied with smiles. Everybody says this union will be great of course I don’t think heaven is saying something different. Moreover both of us are God fearing and will have kept ourselves waiting for that ‘D’ day. While waiting for the result in the consultant’s office, he walked in some minutes later with dim smile on his face. He then said “lady and gentle man, Chioma and Musa, both of you have ‘AS’ as your genotypes and I will advise that you two don’t get married as you have a high risk of having children with sickle cell anemia which is dangerous and you could lose them at a tender age except God intervenes“. That speech from the doctor sounds funny as we stared at ourselves startled. I as a person never took it serious as I was really in Love. We left the hospital as though nothing would ever separate us for life as long as I am concern love is thicker than blood. I told Mama about it, she never really understood and altered “No doctor, no nurse nor any body will stop this blessing.” I am close to Pastor John whose wife is also a doctor. I shared the genotype thing with him and told him how I never fell in love until now and I fell in the deeper part of the love. When pastor heard my story, his face changed. I was so surprised when he said “Musa my friend, the doctor was right .You can’t just marry Chioma unless you choose to be unfair to your unborn children and of course posterity”.” What!!” I exclaimed “pastor John! You too have joined them?” For the first time, I angrily walked out of his office and banged the door behind me. Immediately I left the office, my phone rang, and lo and behold it was Chioma. She was crying on phone telling me nobody wants to support her into marrying me again. I then knew it was a serious issue. I found it so hard to believe and my day turned to night as I couldn’t fathom anything around the world anymore. I called the office to give me a two weeks leave because I wasn’t myself anymore. Though mama was worried, she was no longer surprise. Everybody in the house then looked gloomy as I couldn’t eat and became very sick. Mama entered my room, tapped my back and said “Musa my son, I understand how you feel .But it is going to be ok. What do you think is the cause of both Haruna and Kaunas death? If we had such knowledge of sickle cell, I and Baba wouldn’t have married and Haruna and Kaunas would have still be alive. Now my heart bleeds anytime I remember them. Musa, though you feel pain now, it can never be compared to the one you will feel if you don’t listen to the voice of wisdom and be wise .Think about it.” Mama left my room as tears rolled down my cheeks. To me the world have just ended. Is there nothing be done to reverse this? Should I make up my mind and go ahead with the marriage or quit? All these thoughts flashed through my mind and its time I choose between MY LOVE AND MY GENOTYPE. As I ponder about my thoughts, I heard the bell to the door, Nana helped to get the door and behold she exclaimed “Chioma!!!” I rushed out of my room to welcome her. I offered her a seat and she sat. She looked straight into my eyes and tears flowed from her eyes .Then she began “Musa, all my life I have wished to marry a man I dearly love. When I found you, I felt my prayers were answered. I never believed anything could come between us, not even an angel. But here we are fighting with love and genotype.” As she spoke, I couldn’t stop the stream in my eyes from overflowing. So she continued “love has different perspective and am about taking the greater path“ I felt calm when I heard this. “Musa“ she continued “I love you so much that I never want to leave a scar of everlasting hurt on you. I believe in your dreams, your future and generation and I now understand how genotype can destroy such“ She then went on her knees and said “Musa my love, if I really love you, I must not marry you so I have made up my mind to give it up for the future generation. You and I are not compatible and we shouldn’t be wicked to force ourselves to get married .Am sorry if it hurts because I feel the pain too. i wish you well as you seek for the right person. Just be strong and don’t lose courage.” She stood up to hug me but feeling very pissed, I snubbed her. She cried as she bid farewell to the house and family. I entered into my room to cry my heart out. Hmm, what a day. Chioma relocated and never dropped her contact so we could not find her again. After the sorrow for sometimes, the morning came with joy as life must go on. I fell in love again and got married to Jumoke whose genotype is ‘AA’. We have two lovely kids Jimmy and Joy, seven and four years respectively and we live happily as a family. On a faithful day while I was in Abuja, I was driving and was held up in the traffic when I heard a shout from the car by my side “Musa!!! “ I looked and behold it was Chioma. I screamed and we both looked for a place to park our cars. We came out and jumped on each others body with excitement. “Chioma, were have you been?” I asked. “I base here in Abuja with my husband and three kids ““Wow!” I exclaimed, “That is lovely and what are you doing?” I asked. ”I work with an oil company here as a manager of the marketing department while my husband is a business man who always fly abroad for his businesses” she replied. I also told her about myself and my family. Of course she knows am a banker though managing director now. We exchanged numbers and were happy we never married therefore having children without sickle cell anemia. Dear reader, do you know your genotype and that of your partner you want to get married to? If not, visit a doctor. 1 Like |
Re: Family Issues: My Genotype,my Love by Kingblingz(m): 4:25pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Baby get dah fUcccck up! We are goin 2 see a doctor,b4 it get late I don't want my case 2 be that of musa |
Re: Family Issues: My Genotype,my Love by omexy4real(m): 11:16pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
Kingblingz:that will seriously helpful |
Re: Family Issues: My Genotype,my Love by Nobody: 12:32am On Mar 28, 2015 |
What a story.....this is a very serious issue many religious bodies do consider as a prerequisite before marriage too. More awareness need to be carried out especially among those of marriageable age. Thanks @op ...........................buy MTN 1GB (N1,200); ETISALAT 250MB(N500), 500MB (N800), 750MB (N1000), 1GB (N1300). 30 days duration. Works in all devices (Andriod/iPhone, Phone or Modem). Also Convert Airtime to Cash (20% Processing Fee). Call: 08107873795. Thanks & God bless. |
Re: Family Issues: My Genotype,my Love by omexy4real(m): 4:09am On Mar 28, 2015 |
myhoodlink:you're welcm anytime! |
Re: Family Issues: My Genotype,my Love by Unikcaleb(m): 6:48pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
This is wonderful! |
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