I've been watching the topics that hit FP for the past two weeks and I can say that Rape cases has been so common that it rivals GEJ/GMB topics for news. I'm taken aback with the way some people regard rape.
I will be writing my own experience about rape but I first I want us to understand RAPE and its causes.

According to Wikipedia the term rape originates in the Latin word rapere, "to snatch, to grab, to carry off."
Rape is sexual assault involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration perpetrated against a person without their consent. The act may be carried out through physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or against a person who is incapable of valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the legal age of consent.

In Nigeria, there has been a high rate of rape cases and it has become one of the most endemic social vices destroying the fabric of our society. There are a number of cases where minors and married women are sexually assaulted which makes rapes not restricted to single ladies only. What things have led people to see sex as an all comers affair and a means to satisfy their lust?  

Causes of rape
1. Scanty dressing/indecent and nude dress sense
When you wear a skirt or dress that makes someone think the tailor did not have enough fabric/material to complete the cloth, and then you pass through risky places like alleys with drunkards, what do you expect? To be given a medal?

2. Watching porn and some movies
This raises adrenaline and sends a message to the brain to do what the eyes just saw. Some movies have rape scenes that might get engrossed in a child’s or grown up’s mind such that they think it’s cool.

3. Cults and rituals
In our own Naija, women are raped to be initiated into cults. Some men might also rape for ritual purposes. In such cases, they may be given a substance to rub on their John Thomas before doing the deed. This is believed to bring good luck or transfer the lady’s destiny to the man.

4. Being alone in the dark or in a guy’s room
Do I need to tell you that the “devil” likes darkness? Ladies are generally vulnerable in the dark as the man can do whatever he wants then walk away without being known. Some guys also believe that when you visit them alone you have the intention of being *serviced*.  Or when you are there, konji might catch him and he fails to control himself.

5. Immoral lyrics from artistes and drug abuse
When I listen to some lyrics by some artists, I shake my head. They glorify immoral acts and it induces the youth to cash in and have their uncouth sexual gratification.

Recommendations
1. Dress decently: Know your location and where you are going. When going to the mall, you can wear even bikini sef.  When passing through places with idle men or drunkards, do it at your risk. Don’t say I didn’t warn/advice you.

2. Don’t walk alone at night. Am not saying
ladies have no freedom o! Prevention is better than cure.

3. Be careful when visiting a guy you don’t know well in his house.

4. The security agencies need to do more by prosecuting rape offenders and rape victims should be protected because of how the society views victims.
5. The National Assembly need to make law to make rape a punishment with life imprisonment to deter offenders

We need to stand up and condemn any act of sexual assault on the female sex.

This your write-up is seriously offensive and annoying, what do you mean? seems to me like you are trying to blame the victim.

Royalroy abeg lock this useless thread.

freecocoa:
This your write-up is seriously offensive and annoying, what do you mean? seems to me like you are trying to blame the victim.

Royalroy abeg lock this useless thread.

did you take time to read the thread, I'm trying to mitigate against those things that bring about rape. A lot of factors were enumerated for rise in rape cases

lovat:
did you take time to read the thread, I'm trying to mitigate against those things that bring about rape. A lot of factors were enumerated for rise in rape cases

I'm even more annoyed for taking the time to read it.

You are justifying rape my friend.

Who is to determine what indecent dressing is? How is even walking about nakid a reason to be raped?

Watching porn? My gawd! The more I type the more angry I become, so someone else should pay the price for another watching porn and not being able to control his p*nis?

The ONLY reason for rape is lack of self control and wickedness.

So OP, you mean to say that all the underaged girls that were raped were due to the reasons you gave, especially dressing indecently? Hian!
You need to grow up abeg. This your write-up is sooo childish and immature.

Let me modify.

Rape is a criminal offence. Simple. If a girl decides to dress sexual, should she be raped? Have you read about pregnant women being raped? Toddlers being raped? Dear OP, you mean well with your post, but it's lopsided.
If someone leaves money carelessly, it's not the money that's calling to be stolen, it's the spirit inside the thief that calls for the money to be stolen.

I feel any sex offender both male and female should be punished. People should also do things that would not put them in a position where they would likely to be raped.

Wow! Wowowotzephook?

The cause of rape is never the victims fault.

freecocoa:
I'm even more annoyed for taking the time to read it.

You are justifying rape my friend.

Who is to determine what indecent dressing is? How is even walking about nakid a reason to be raped?

Watching porn? My gawd! The more I type the more angry I become, so someone else should pay the price for another watching porn and not being able to control his p*nis?

The ONLY reason for rape is lack of self control and wickedness.

I abhor rape in its entirety but did you take time to study the reason why there has been a rise in rape cases. The society is depraved with immorality and until we tackle the causes there will be a continuos rise. Let's talk about the causes and not the victim.

SMH

Flytefalls:
Wow! Wowowotzephook?

The cause of rape is never the victims fault.

I never blamed the victim rather there are societal problems which if not nip in the bud will escalate this rape crises. We can continue to send sex offenders to prison but if somethings that promotes it are still there then we are in for another crises. Rape is evil and its never the victims fault.

lovat:
I abhor rape in its entirety but did you take time to study the reason why there has been a rise in rape cases. The society is depraved with immorality and until we tackle the causes there will be a continuos rise. Let's talk about the causes and not the victim.

Are you not listening to me? The only cause for rape is the rapist, end of discussion.

cooljude:
I feel any sex offender both male and female should be punished. People should also do things that would not put them in a position where they would likely to be raped.

that's what I'm trying to pass around until frecocoa turned it around, the bastardaisation of values are the reasons for increase in rape cases

freecocoa:
Are you not listening to me? The only cause for rape is the rapist, end of discussion.

swerve please, the cause of rise in rape cases is the bastardisation of values and tradition. Wake up, the Victim is never to be blamed but how do you stem the tide?

lovat:
swerve please, the cause of rise in rape cases is the bastardisation of values and tradition. Wake up, the Victim is never to be blamed but how do you stem the tide?

You are seriously sick in the head.

What values and tradition are you talking about? Is full or covering of the body a tradition of yours?

Are cults and rituals a thing of the new generation in Nigeria?

Did walking in the dark start yesterday in Nigeria? Did you not know that women used to go to the streams to fetch water or dance at the village square at night?

How does doing any of these make it a reason to get raped or cause an increase in rape?

NifemiOlu:
Let me modify.

Rape is a criminal offence. Simple. If a girl decides to dress sexual, should she be raped? Have you read about pregnant women being raped? Toddlers being raped? Dear OP, you mean well with your post, but it's lopsided.
If someone leaves money carelessly, it's not the money that's calling to be stolen, it's the spirit inside the thief that calls for the money to be stolen.

the rise in rape cases is my aim and how the rot in societal values is contributing to it

lovat:
that's what I'm trying to pass around until frecocoa turned it around, the bastardaisation of values are the reasons for increase in rape cases

Rape is not a good thing to go through it is really traumatic and affect the individual mentally. Some cases of rape were not the victim fault like the case of a 73 years old Indian rev sister who was raped by five men who robbed their convent/school. While some case could have been avoided. My concern with rape in Nigeria and the world is that those that perpetrate such act should be punished. I agree with you to an extent that some lady put themselve in harm way like recently a friend of mine invited a friend he knew from facebook and she came all the way from her state to Lagos. Atleast, my friend was the good type who even refuse sex, but what if she had visited a psycho and she was raped. In as much as rape is bad, they say prevention is better than cure.

Victim blaming on Nairaland??!! OH, the horror!

Why are people acting shocked? Is this not the average Nigerian mentality on r*ape issues?

freecocoa:
You are seriously sick in the head.

What values and tradition are you talking about? Is full or covering of the body a tradition of yours?

Are cults and rituals a thing of the new generation in Nigeria?

Did walking in the dark start yesterday in Nigeria? Did you not know that women used to go to the streams to fetch water or dance at the village square at night?

How does doing any of these make it a reason to get raped?

fool, can you compare the early 9os and today with the issue of rape, stop sounding stupid and take a walk. Has there been an increase? Was porn common in the 90s? How was the issue of indecent exposure taken. Swerve again

lovat:
did you take time to read the thread, I'm trying to mitigate against those things that bring about rape. A lot of factors were enumerated for rise in rape cases

to be fair to freecocoa, there's no justification for rapë. a woman's dressing(stark nüdity or eskimoesque) should not warrant rapë.....

the fact that i am walking with a briefcase loaded with cash doesn't mean i should be robbed. men should learn self control.

and some of your points are laughable. don't walk alone at night? 90% of rapê victims knew their attackers. it's got nothing to do with being alone in the dark.

lovat:
fool, can you compare the early 9os and today with the issue of rape, stop sounding stupid and take a walk. Has there been an increase? Was porn common in the 90s? How was the issue of indecent exposure taken. Swerve again

surely, there must be tonnes of incidents of räpe back then too - social media & mobile phone technology coupled with more effective reporting is the reason we tend to hear more of the horrible crimes lately.

back then, women would get rapëd & they would go home quietly cos of the social stigma attached to it. these days, they cry out & get the culprits apprehended asap!

freecocoa:
You are seriously sick in the head.

What values and tradition are you talking about? Is full or covering of the body a tradition of yours?

Are cults and rituals a thing of the new generation in Nigeria?

Did walking in the dark start yesterday in Nigeria? Did you not know that women used to go to the streams to fetch water or dance at the village square at night?

How does doing any of these make it a reason to get raped?

your moronic brain read only one line and started screaming *Victim* it is said that prevention is better than cure.

cooljude:
Rape is not a good thing to go through it is really traumatic and affect the individual mentally. Some cases of rape were not the victim fault like the case of a 73 years old Indian rev sister who was raped by five men who robbed their convent/school. While some case could have been avoided. My concern with rape in Nigeria and the world is that those that perpetrate such act should be punished. I agree with you to an extent that some lady put themselve in harm way like recently a friend of mine invited a friend he knew from facebook and she came all the way from her state to Lagos. Atleast, my friend was the good type who even refuse sex, but what if she had visited a psycho and she was raped. In as much as rape is bad, they say prevention is better than cure.

during the last yuletide, there was street jamz organised by guys in my estate, d next morning we learnt a girl was raped around 3am, we the residents had to invite the police to arrest the organisers and deal with them, the question on peoples lips was why should a lady be out there with drunks and low lifers knowing the kind of society we find ourself. We ve banned street jamz in our estate now to prevent future occurrence

lovat:
fool, can you compare the early 9os and today with the issue of rape, stop sounding stupid and take a walk. Has there been an increase? Was porn common in the 90s? How was the issue of indecent exposure taken. Swerve again

Oponu(may the gods bless NL for teaching me this word)

How do you know there's been an increase or decrease? Did we have all the technology we do now back then? I ask again, who is to determine what is indecent or decent? Get your head outta ya rotten a$$ and think like a human, you potential rapist, how are we sure you don't even rape people?

lovat:
during the last yuletide, there was street jamz organised by guys in my estate, d next morning we learnt a girl was raped around 3am, we the residents had to invite the police to arrest the organisers and deal with them, the question on peoples lips was why should a lady be out there with drunks and low lifers knowing the kind of society we find ourself. We ve banned street jamz in our estate now to prevent future occurrence

It is a usual occurence in street jamz and it happens everywhere even in my estate. I advice girls to move in cluster or avoid dark corners. Was it the organizer that raped the lady, arresting him for a crime he didn't partake in is injustice to me or what made you guys arrest him.

lovat:
your moronic brain read only one line and started screaming *Victim* it is said that prevention is better than cure.

See you talking, as f00lish as you are, you didn't realize that even babies and children are raped, oldies are not spared, even pregnant women.

As myopic as you are, you don't know that not only young ladies are victims of this, how then does your nonsense of prevention is better than cure work?

lovat:
I never blamed the victim rather there are societal problems which if not nip in the bud will escalate this rape crises. We can continue to send sex offenders to prison but if somethings that promotes it are still there then we are in for another crises. Rape is evil and its never the victims fault.

C'mon now, #4; being in the dark causes rape. Women being in the dark is a societal issue only to a savage society, that doesn't exclude the west. People need to learn of self-control, or get professional help without fear of judgement. There will never be peace as long as the focus is off the perpetrators. We should all be able to walk in the night, without fear, but I realise I may be asking too much of people.

cooljude:
It is a usual occurence in street jamz and it happens everywhere even in my estate. I advice girls to move in cluster or avoid dark corners. Was it the organizer that raped the lady, arresting him for a crime he didn't partake in is injustice to me or what made you guys arrest him.

the organisers were arrested to produce the perperators, @ the end the organisers fished out the idiotss that carried out the shameful act.

lovat:
I abhor rape in its entirety but did you take time to study the reason why there has been a rise in rape cases. The society is depraved with immorality and until we tackle the causes there will be a continuos rise. Let's talk about the causes and not the victim.

So, what are the causes of rape in your opinion? If what you enumerated up in your OP is what you think are the causes of rape, you are just blaming the victim of this crime.
Rape is a crime by the perpetrator and should not at anytime be transferred to the victim.

I don't know how many men you have read were raped because of their indecent dressing. Abi you don't know men dress indecently too? I have a neigbour who washes his car every morning in his boxers. The annoying thing about this man is that he is supposed to be enlightened. Everytime he raises his hand to pour or wash off the top of the car, you see his peni s dangling under the boxers. If I were to rape him because he is indecently dressed, who will be blamed? Many men sag and even sag without underwear yet they are not raped.
A rapist is a dysfunctional human who has no self control on his sexual urges. A rapist should be castrated the very first time he rapes a woman, that way, he will do the right thing. When parents refuse to teach their wards/children sex education, we get things like this on the increase.

Gboliwe:


So, what are the causes of rape in your opinion? If what you enumerated up in your OP is what you think are the causes of rape, you are just blaming the victim of this crime.
Rape is a crime by the perpetrator and should not at anytime be transferred to the victim.

I don't know how many men you have read were raped because of their indecent dressing. Abi you don't know men dress indecently too? I have a neigbour who washes his car every morning in his boxers. The annoying thing about this man is that he is supposed to be enlightened. Everytime he raises his hand to pour or wash off the top of the car, you see his peni s dangling under the boxers. If I were to rape him because he is indecently dressed, who will be blamed? Many men sag and even sag without underwear yet they are not raped.
A rapist is a dysfunctional human who has no self control on his sexual urges. A rapist should be castrated the very first time he rapes a woman, that way, he will do the right thing. When parents refuse to teach their wards/children sex education, we get things like this on the increase.

Help me tell the dullard.

If na so, I for don rape coogar tey tey na.

freecocoa:
Help me tell the dullard.

If na so, I for don rape coogar tey tey na.

Rape Coogar? Is that your secret fantasy?

Gboliwe:


Rape Coogar? Is that your secret fantasy?

Lol .

freecocoa:
Lol .

If you try that, you will end up being the victim. I must warn you!