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Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 10:27pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
ronald4lif:I have. The thing is my parent. What do you think will happen if my bf finds out they don't like him |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 10:33pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
kpolli:The guy is MY friend oooooo. chaiii!!! Why are you guys finding it hard to understand my post. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by baralatie(m): 10:33pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega:it is a story! I don't know how an affair that is not leading to marriage anytime soon from either is painted by you as "being acceptable to parents".even the mention of church sounds fictitious. and already one can see a lot of things exploding! I have no problem with people making plans but at least set priorities straight. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MaZterZ(m): 10:37pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega: Wat he does...ur father? |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 10:38pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
vjsmiles:Post aint friendly bro. He is still my father. 1 Like |
Re: Yeah....confused! by Nobody: 10:38pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
I can't believe you friend zoned the other guy. I won't help you out. Even though I know exactly what to do. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by ronald4lif(m): 10:39pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega: What else do one expect of him? He'll be devasted, it will weigh him down and should be a hard one for him to deal. But it should be a test of his love to you. He should work out on the modalities of creating a postive impression in the heart of your father. He rapport well with your brothers right? |
Re: Yeah....confused! by kpolli(m): 10:40pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega: Because a guy interested in you (as you specified) is not a friend.... If your boyfriend had girls who wanted him visiting, how would you feel? I don't know why you girls like keeping guys who want you as friends, you just introduce complications into your present relationship and when you (as you girls claim) "mistakenly" cheat... You will be wondering where it went wrong... Like I said, you either plan on cheating or plan on dumping your present boyfriend because if you had any respect for him, you won't be associating yourself with "friends" interested in you nor taking them home |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 10:41pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
baralatie:It seems you are more confused. Re read my post and read the question at the end |
Re: Yeah....confused! by UniqueGem(m): 10:57pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega:Okay babe, I'll be brief and blunt here, I think you've gat a gold digging family. With what you've written so far and your dads refusal to say why he dislikes your Bf but prefers the other guy, the only silent interpretation I see is "Forget this guy, he can't take care of you and our family, this other guy is more financially dependabe" you wouldn't expect your Dad to come plain and tell you something like that, so that's why he's boning that guy. Now My Advice: I think you're somebody who will at some point give in to family pressure, if not this shouldn't be a case at all. Another observation is that you seem more familiar with the "gift guy" than you've written here, if not, he wouldn't know your house. Okay let's say he came to know your house out of coincidence, but how do we explain coming into your house with his friends and having a hearty chat with your father? The gift guy surely is more welcomed here. So what you should do is since I perceive you'll give in at some point, Just tell your Bf the way things stand. So he can either hang on and hope the gift guy one day disappears or he should move on with life before it's too late. I think the later option is a better one. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 10:58pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
ronald4lif:Thanks bro. you've really answered the question. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by ronald4lif(m): 11:00pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega: You're welcome, always. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by baralatie(m): 11:01pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega:no need! |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 11:04pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
kpolli:Now read carefully. This guy and my boyfriend have been my friends since ages. My friends! My boyfriend made his intention knwn and i accepted him and all my male friends knw including this particular guy. They get me stuffs. but since the other guy started showing interest,it ended there. What i want is for the question i asked to be answered and not this unnecessary sermon. hope you get? |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 11:10pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
UniqueGem:I understand you bro. Check the other post n replies to AgapeCharis. I told him that my boyfriend does not talk,this kinda quiet type. And the oda guy relates wella and that's one of the thing i think pisses them off. hope you get? And Gold digging?? Nah! My Dad is very much stable financially . Or is there any oda meaning to Gold digging? |
Re: Yeah....confused! by UniqueGem(m): 11:25pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega:But if truly that is the real reason, do you think your Dad will have a problem telling you that? Itz simple psychology here, it's about what somebody find easy to disclose and what somebody find hard to let out. Your Dad or anybody else can easily tell you "hey, this your BF is too quite, he needs to be more outspoken" see?? There's nothing wrong with that statement. NOW, Imagine your Dad telling you "Hey Tega, your BF is poor, Mr Gift is rich, leave your Bf and marry MR Gift because he is more capable of taking care of Me, you, your mother and your sisters". It doesn't sound right and moreover it will hurt his prestige as a man, so that's why he's quite about his reasons. You take out time and ask him this privately. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 11:30pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
UniqueGem:Making sense. But my Dad is very much settled,very. That's why i ruled that out. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by kpolli(m): 11:53pm On Mar 27, 2015 |
MzzTega: Lemme be as blunt as NL will allow me to be... When you accept a relationship with an individual, you need to give him some respect and if you have male friends that do not show that respect, cut them off... Please explain the bolded statement, what ended there? You want a direct answer, but as a Nigerian I will answer you with a question; who is in the relationship you or your dad? You're the one who knows best for yourself... You know which shoes fit.... Did your father start liking the other guy because of the gift? If so, then know it is because of material things your father said so, if not; he should explain further..... |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 12:23am On Mar 28, 2015 |
kpolli:Thanks bro. what ended there was the gift thingy. He sent the last one during my birthday. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by ipleddge: 12:27am On Mar 28, 2015 |
Why u carry Ur wooer go Ur house d first place |
Re: Yeah....confused! by poik(m): 2:44pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Maybe I am just being my old-fashioned self. But you mean your parents condone your boifriends coming to your house to frolick with you, a tEenager who ought to be buried in her books without the distraction of a boy? Apart from the fact that its sinful? What kind of parents has Westernization made of us? That's one. Two, you are 'commited' to one person, yet you go as far as collecting gifts from another-we don't even know how many they are-and comparing the two? Your eye no dey house. Different macaroni for different folks o, but there are things my own parents won't hear of. My advice: be virtuous. Marry or face ur books. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 4:40pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
poik:You don't understand my post. I actually asked a question Btw I'm not a teenager. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by Nobody: 4:56pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
MzzTega: Here lies the problem. Your boyfriend hasn't opened up to your parents enough for them to know him, they are simply weary of him. They are more comfortable with who they already knew and could be a likeable character too. Tell your boyfriend to communicate, feel free around your parents and really open up to them. He might still be uncomfortable because of the age difference. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 5:01pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
kelvin100:hmmmmmm. You are sooo sweet!!! Same thing an Aunt told me earlier today. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Yeah....confused! by Mhizizzy(f): 5:06pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
MzzTega: So u AV started collecting stuffz from d oda Guy Making decisions wud be hard ryt now |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 5:14pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Mhizizzy:Sis. He was a friend and yes i collected gifts from him. But after the attraction started,it ended there. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by poik(m): 10:37pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
MzzTega: And I gave an answer. And treated what I considered more important. Whether u are a teen or not. Sorry |
Re: Yeah....confused! by Nobody: 7:57am On Mar 30, 2015 |
To me seriously, it makes no sense when a girl who's in a relationship and claims to love her bf collects gifts from toasters and admirers. If he were to be just a platonic friend, dts understandable, buh someone who's interested in you, when.he knows u av a bf will only try to be all nice to u just to snatch u from ur bf nd na dere wahala dey start. I'm sure ur bf won't be happy if he gets to know the new guy bot u d New phone and some other gifts he's not able to buy u yet. look at the situation u put urself into now, ur gonna av to chuz between the two guys, I just really hope u haven't started cheating on ur man. To all the ladies reading this, let me tell you this, most guys if not all, hardly do things for free, especially for girls we admire, many of us are just being nice to get what we want and once we get what we want, we may continue to be nice or chuz otherwise...it depends on the guy...be wise!!! |
Re: Yeah....confused! by Nobody: 8:01am On Mar 30, 2015 |
kpolli:God bless u my broda, even if they were just friends at the initial stage, a faithful nd loving gf wud start giving him less attention nd wud never collect his gifts once she knew he's interested in a relationship. She made this complicated by herself. |
Re: Yeah....confused! by Waskolo(m): 8:08am On Mar 30, 2015 |
falconey:. She ain't gat no time, don't you know she's a woman?? |
Re: Yeah....confused! by Nobody: 8:13am On Mar 30, 2015 |
MzzTega:You are sooo happy now cos he told you what u wanna hear, so what are you planning on doing now?? is ur bf also shy nd quiet around you, his friends and family?? do u think he can be very friendly around ur folks later on?? how does he relate with your siblings?? |
Re: Yeah....confused! by MzzTega(f): 8:39am On Mar 30, 2015 |
jimmy4x:He's relationship with my siblings is Kinda ok. He's friends,same way he relates with me. And yes,he is quiet. I do most of the talking. |
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