am a female, nd I need your help.I have issues with my relationship, there is dis guy we meet 3years ago, d guy is a graduate with no job when we meet but I keep hope dat tons go beta one day and more so am still in school so by d time I graduated tins would have bn fine, dis guy is 32 years when we meet, but d only tin I don't like about dis guy is dat he like consulting pastor,Alfa nd e.tc. due to his problem and dey accuse deir step mother of their problems, I don't like dis and I do correct him dat he should believe in God nd with God all tins are possible. one year after we meet dis guy travel out of s country to work, but tins are not really well for him still yet, but recently I went to visit his mum nd she took me to church of which she know dat am a devoted Muslim, I don't like dis and I explain to dis guy nd he said I should be patient, dis guy mum is a Muslim but due to d problem dey have bn facing she now go to church. dis guy have series of personal problem like, he is aggressive, inquisitive, fetish,insecurity, e.t.c he do question me every time about my movement complain and he has beat me once when he was in Nigeria. which I hope he will change one day, but presently dis guy did not change,but I meet anoder guy on dis forum last 7month which we started dating nd d guy is from my state, he is a devoted muslim nd we meet on muslim forum, he is 30years I have meet his family but he never meet mine, I called my dad and told my dad d problem am facing nd he said he wil pray about d two guys even before I pray I have pray nd pray for God guidance , but my dad said dat he pray MD pray over s two of dem and dey choose d guy I meet here on Nairaland. but now, I don't know how to tell d guy I am dating before? how should I tell his family ? I don't want to add to dis guy problem because no one to date him cos he never get money yet. now d guy I meet here want to marry me dis year which I really want to cos am in my late 20. pls help me I had to open anoder account cos of people insult here, help a sister please....

Does this Forum have a Muslim Forum

iceberylin:
Does this Forum have a Muslim Forum

Muslim section or so jare am not myself anymore

All these calabar girls

So you cheated on your boyfriend cos he is no longer in Nigeria. Now you want to marry the new guy.

Women.

so u don't love the nairalander, u just want to marry him because ur father told u to & because u are in ur late twenties

So wat help do u need?
To help u pick reasons as to dump d 1st guy?

I love him as well, if I don't love him I won't say yes to him

so relationship is possible here
okay, let me put on my wife goggle.
searching mode activated

Amope33:
I love him as well, if I don't love him I won't say yes to him

then choose the nairalander, cuz if u really love the first dude there wouldn't have been any space in ur heart for the nairalander

Some body comes up here , that she is depressed and confuse, if u can't profer solution to her , then courtesy. Demand u tame ur lips. Dan compounding her dilema

iceberylin:
Does this Forum have a Muslim Forum

ya islam for islam



Young lady I have an advice for u ok

rawpadgin:
then choose the nairalander, cuz if u really love the first dude there wouldn't have been any space in ur heart for the nairalander

so am not patient for him enouf abi? when I did not see any changes in him nd he is insisting on getting more money before he get married, which I cannot predict his atitude when he his rich

Climaths:
Some body comes up here , that she is depressed and confuse, if u can't profer solution to her , then courtesy. Demand u tame ur lips. Dan compounding her dilema

thanks o, infact am typing with pains nd tears I don't wanna loose in two ways

So muslims pray too? As in in allah's name or in muhammad's name, amin



Just take panadol and sleep. U probably hit ur head on the ground too hard.

My 2billion cents

yomi007k:
So wat help do u need?
To help u pick reasons as to dump d 1st guy?

Seriously....I dunno why people keep doing it.

pweetixandy:
So muslims pray too? As in in allah's name or in muhammad's name, amin
Just take panadol and sleep. U probably hit ur head on the ground too hard.
My 2billion cents

naijaboiy:

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Ladies confusing themselves since the time of adam and eve

pweetixandy:
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So they meet guys here on nairaland and no girl has ever met me, what is wrong with me

The truth is deep down you have already made up your mind and all you looking for here is for someone to confirm that choice for you..now you are in love with two men(weird) and one sounds like he will never be serious about settling down till he makes a lot of cash and is a constant patroniser of alfas and pastors(laziness) and the other is well to do and you claim to "love" him and you are also concerned about your age(as you should rightfully be as a lady)...if you didn't get your answer from what i just typed then no one can help you..good luck cus you will need a lot of it

naijaboiy:

the first fine boy I'm seeing on nairaland. Hello!

stan241:
The truth is deep down you have already made up your mind and all you looking for here is for someone to confirm that choice for you..now you are in love with two men(weird) and one sounds like he will never be serious about settling down till he makes a lot of cash and is a constant patroniser of alfas and pastors(laziness) and the other is well to do and you claim to "love" him and you are also concerned about your age(as you should rightfully be as a lady)...if you didn't get your answer from what i just typed then no one can help you..good luck cus you will need a lot of it

Thank u may God bless u

Brugo:


So you cheated on your boyfriend cos he is no longer in Nigeria. Now you want to marry the new guy.

Women.

I did not cheat on him, am a devoted Muslim, nevver had sex with d two guys

Amope33:
I did not cheat on him, am a devoted Muslim, nevver had sex with d two guys

Lol. Cheating does not only mean to have sex with someone else.

Babe you cheated on him. Why did you date another man? Why did you say yes to another guy before ending your previous relationship?

You are a cheat. Marry your new guy. He has money. That's what you want na.

Brugo:


Lol. Cheating does not only mean to have sex with someone else.

Babe you cheated on him. Why did you date another man? Why did you say yes to another guy before ending your previous relationship?

You are a cheat. Marry your new guy. He has money. That's what you want na.

u re funny, mind u my new guy is still searching for job, y won't I give anoda man chance when my parent are distoping me seriously and dis guy is not ready to settle down

Come lemme take yew my pastor to pray for a way out for yew



Sweedie, jes tell him yew no do again... no be by force na. Stop worrying your pretty self unnecessarily o jare.

Amope33:
u re funny, mind u my new guy is still searching for job, y won't I give anoda man chance when my parent are distoping me seriously and dis guy is not ready to settle down

What stopped you from ending one relationship before beginning another one? You wanted to enjoy from two quarters. That's cheating. Follow your parents. They know what they have seen that you may not know.

Anyway, I won't advice you to marry the first guy. You said he beat you once. That is very bad. Just try to end your first relationship so that things will be well defined.

Amope33:
so am not patient for him enouf abi? when I did not see any changes in him nd he is insisting on getting more money before he get married, which I cannot predict his atitude when he his rich

Na wa ooo.
U prefer him to be poor b4 he gets married baa

Wow what a long narration. I understood everything you just said and the truth about the whole matter is that there is no way your parents will pick a Christian boy over a Muslim boy as they are Muslims, prayer or no prayer. I advice you to find a way to tell the Christian guy that you cannot continue as you are getting married, plain and simple.

If u marry the 1st guy u'll regret, just call him tell him ur parents wants u to get married and they hv found a suitor for u #shikena