It is no gainsaying that most women prefer
dating men who appear confident and outspoken,
not necessarily because such men are better
lovers, but partly because they exhibit an aura of
protection, safety and reliability for their
spouses.
Notably, shy men may not be every woman’s
preference maybe because they appear calm and
non-aggressive in situations that demand
absolute exhibition of their manliness, but it now
appears that women who prefer dating the
macho men to shy men may be missing out on
the best possible mate or the company of a
better lover. This is because studies have shown
that men who are shy are better lovers.
No doubt, the natural attraction of females to
‘confident’ men has compelled some men to
‘come out of their shell’ in order to impress
women, more so because they sometimes have
to prove their masculinity with some bold and
dramatic displays. However, if the findings of
these studies are anything to go by, women who
are in relationships with shy men should count
themselves lucky for being in the company of
better mates.
Some biologists at the Plymouth University,
United Kingdom, found that men who shy the
most do have the most to offer their potential
lover.
One of the researchers, Prof. Mark Briffa, who is
a marine animal behaviour scientist in the
university, likened men to hermit crabs, pointing
out that the most timid or shy crabs tend to
have more high quality sperm, making them a
better option for females.
The findings of the study, published in Daily Mail,
revealed that crabs that spend more time in their
shells have invariably invested more time and
resources in becoming reproductively fit, saying
their finding was in contrast with the idea that
the most productive individuals should be the
boldest. Thus, according to the study, shy men
who may not readily talk spend more time on
things that could make them better, which
invariably would make them better lovers.
In some other reports to buttress the point that
there are several benefits in dating a shy guy, a
post on allwomenstalk.com showed that the main
challenge shy men have is that their spouses
may need to work harder to get some
information out of them because they usually do
not readily share information about themselves.
Also people tend to have a wrong perception of
who they really are. This is unlike the ‘confident’
guy who would want to talk about his past,
present and future. The report added that the
men who are ‘confident’ tend to be more
possessive and talk a lot about themselves. It
added that such men could put off some
possible lovers with their actions for being too
forward and dominating conversations.
According to the post, shy guys are also more
sincere than the outspoken guys because they
think deeply about their words beforehand and
are more careful in their expression than those
who are not and are usually ready to talk as
soon as situations present themselves. Also, shy
men were found to be less intimidating than their
‘confident partners’, who would want everyone
around to feel that they are more than they truly
are. It added that shy guys who may rarely talk
would only talk when convinced and definite
about what to say and not to impress, noting
that the ‘confident’ men would want to introduce
or advertise themselves at all times, which may
not be the true picture of who they truly are.
“They are considerate and are more likely to
consider the impact of their words and actions
on their partner, hence, making them a preferred
spouse. Also, they are less likely to cheat, not
only because women tend not to consider them
for relationship but also because they focus their
attention on more productive things rather than
chasing women,” it added.
For women who love rapt attention and a
listening man to talk to, no one does it better
than shy men because they usually don’t and are
not always eager to dominate conversations.
Rather, they listen well and only talk when they
feel like or when they have something better or
interesting to say. This, accordingly, implies that
shy men respect the feelings and opinions of
others. According to the post, shy men have
been found to make valuable contributions in a
group discussion because they spend more time
meditating, and are not in a hurry to speak.
Beyond these, it was also revealed that shy guys
are more receptive, all making them a better
lover.
In summarising the benefits of dating a shy man,
another report on amerikanki.com, said, “It’s
believed that girls tend to talk much more than
guys, but every now and then, even women need
a person that can just keep silent and listen to
them. They want to talk more and be listened to
and any man who can afford them such would
readily score some point.
“A shy man will never act artificially and his
words always correspond to his thoughts and
women can be sure that the shy guy means
exactly what he says. Indeed, it’s a good reason
to date a shy guy.
“Shy guys aren’t so talkative and probably most
ladies will have to make great efforts to get
along with them, just that if such men choose to
talk, they are sincere and their words are
meaningful and they don’t bother their partner
with annoying questions. Even if they have to
reject people or their opinion, they do it in a
polite manner.
“These imply that shy guys shouldn’t be ignored
at all because dating a shy guy is all about
advantages and these are only a few of them. If
you want an attentive, careful person, dating a
shy guy is definitely a right idea, even if they are
not the readily combat-ready men.”
Thus, the studies and posts pointed out that a
man with such traits as highlighted and
discussed above tends to be a better lover.
Commenting on the study, a professor of
psychology, Toba Elegbeleye, said shy guys
could be categorised as introverts, and that they
are people who like to be quiet, studious and
alone, not for the fear of publicity but for them
to exhibit their internal qualities.
He pointed out that such people have fantastic
inner qualities and they usually believe that they
are the only ones that understand their
personality better.
He said, “They are very hardworking and
intelligent people because they are able to
explore all their internal qualities. So, it may not
be wrong if somebody concludes that they are
better lovers because they have the patience to
live with and correct their partners in love if
there is need.
“Also, they can see what an ordinary extroverted
person won’t see because they pay attention to
details, they know more than they speak out, so,
these may make them a good lover. They may be
able to accommodate all the inconsistencies that
come from their partner.
“They usually have internal resilience that makes
them consider issues several times before they
take action, and most of such actions cannot be
faulted. These qualities may make them better
lovers.”
www.punchng.com/entertainment/saturday-breeze/shy-men-make-better-lovers-study/

very nice article but i don't think the crab illustration makes any sense.

Precioussilas10:
very nice article but i don't think the crab illustration makes any sense.

shy guy it shows

zikclassiq:
shy guy it shows

So?..well i'm not an extrovert neither i'm i an introvert.

anoda study

issolite

Too long....... Trading tackles with an encyclopedia?