NinoBrown888:
or if you think the article is long..


Jes text 'Tips on Emotional Rush' to 33133.

missclasssy:


It would be nice If you'd just made a relevant contribution.....

missclasssy:
Incredible write-up Op. Let me just share my thoughts

In your first point regarding the chase period, you said that most ladies wrongly assume that a guy is in love with them because of his relentlessness in trying to win her heart.
Although I would agree with you to an extent but I believe it depends on the reason for which he is chasing after her.
I believe if a guy truly loves a woman, he wouldn't give up in pursuit for her love.

I also don't agree with your second point because although guys always tries to make a good impression, especially when they see a lady they like, that doesn't mean every character a guy expresses when he meets a lady he likes for the first time is a facade.
Even if a guy decides to pretend, I believe there is a level you reach in concealing your true character.

Everything just boils down to the personality of the individual and his true intentions for wanting to go into a relationship in the first place


Finally you made the statement that men are generally wired in a way that their excitement level begins to reduce after they finally get a lady and for ladies its the opposite.....
Well I would say you are wrong. I think that's just how humans are, whether male or female.

Thanks

DarkAngel86:

kinglekan:


What's wrong swts??

DarkAngel86:

missclasssy:
Incredible write-up Op. Let me just share my thoughts

In your first point regarding the chase period, you said that most ladies wrongly assume that a guy is in love with them because of his relentlessness in trying to win her heart.
Although I would agree with you to an extent but I believe it depends on the reason for which he is chasing after her.
I believe if a guy truly loves a woman, he wouldn't give up in pursuit for her love.

missclasssy:

I also don't agree with your second point because although guys always tries to make a good impression, especially when they see a lady they like, that doesn't mean every character a guy expresses when he meets a lady he likes for the first time is a facade.
Even if a guy decides to pretend, I believe there is a level you reach in concealing your true character.

Everything just boils down to the personality of the individual and his true intentions for wanting to go into a relationship in the first place.

missclasssy:

Finally you made the statement that men are generally wired in a way that their excitement level begins to reduce after they finally get a lady and for ladies its the opposite.....
Well I would say you are wrong. I think that's just how humans are, whether male or female.

Thanks

jacksparrow1207:


Why do I love u?

Afeezoladapo:
9ce write up!

mirexxx:
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DarkAngel86:
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cause you're crazy

kinglekan:


Baby I hope you didn't read all of that just to type a "full stop" as a comment.

Criticisms are allowed ooo.

jacksparrow1207:


Yea! Crazy About u

DarkAngel86:


You're proofing the op right. This is what he is talking about

No! I will not fall

DarkAngel86:


I'm sad and shocked because that explains why we always feel like we've done something wrong. The worst is when men do this after the deed is done ($3x) we always feel used and we push the man away. So are you saying we shouldn't push the man away? Or are you saying we should just deal with it as in it is what it is?

Pls tag me on your follow up threads on this matter. Im intrigued.

P.s. brilliant write up

DarkAngel86:


You're proofing the op right. This is what he is talking about

No! I will not fall

kinglekan:


Oh thanks for this comment. Am so touched. I would definitely tag you in the follow up threads once I am ready to put it up.

On the issue of sex I honestly do feel the pain of several ladies. What I tell my female pals is this, sex doesn't and would never win a mans heart. There is no such thing as "best ever sex". There is another lady out there who can do it much better than you.

Here is the first thing to know or ask yourself in any serious relationship. "Why are you in it".

Quite frankly most guys just don't like the idea of being single and would tell you sweet nothings just to date a you. Once he is in the relationship, he feels like the "losing party".

He feels like he needs to get something
in return and SEX is the only appealing thing. His reaction when you deny him sex tells a whole lot about the future of the relationship.

I know ladies also want sex but my point is this be sure he is not only in love with your looks and curves. There isn't a formula for finding this out. You just have to figure out a way yourself.

mirexxx:
I haven't read it yet! i will comment when i do

kinglekan:


I know we all don't like to read very long threads, but kindly be patient enough to read through this.

Most ladies often wonder what changed after they started dating a guy and the question that comes to mind is "Why doesn't he love me like he used to" .

The answer simply is "Emotional Rush"

Infatuation stimulates fantasies of
permanent bonding. The period of "The Chase" as I like to call it, is also where a lot of ladies seem to assume wrongly.


The Chase

This is the period a guy tries to woo a lady. There are two common mistakes ladies make at this stage.

1. Assume that if she plays hard to get for a very long time and he keeps coming back, then it means he truly loves her. Yes that might be true but its still a wrong assumption.

Men are wired like Lions. Most of them don't give up easily till they get what they want. I don't need to write too much on this though. Remember the "Player" in the movie "Act like a lady, think like a man". Am sure you do.

2. Assume that he would always be a gentle man. Common ladies, you keep hearing the saying "You don't get a second chance to make a first impression" .

Guys know how to keep making that first impression, as a matter of fact we just "keep the act on repeat mode". A guy is at his very best when wooing a lady, so don't assume this is his real personality.



Now Back To The Topic


You know that spark at the beginning that suddenly ignites with a new person or in a situation that has newly switched from "The Chase" to a romantic relationship.

That spark, that sparkling, delightfully sexually intense feeling when you first fall in love, feels so good, you are likely to want the feeling to last forever.

I bet you do

Alas, it won’t. Not to sound like a pessimist, this is the reason why;

No matter how good the match, the strong sexualized draw of infatuation, its only a temporary phenomenon associated with newness and insecurity.

Ladies on the other hand are quite emotional. Those emotions they had at the initial stage keeps growing especially when they are really into the guy, while for the guy it takes a downward toll. (NB: There are always exceptions and rare cases where its the reverse).

Men are wired in such a way that their excitement level begins to reduce after they finally get the lady. He doesn't see the need to do the little things he used to do during "The Chase".

So welcome to reality. This is his true nature. He can't keep on the "act" and now the lady is wondering what's going wrong after they have been having an exciting relationship for months.

You have enjoyed the period of the "Emotional Rush". The period he couldn't do without hearing your voice, the period he just wanted to tell you those sweet little nothings. At this stage its up to both partners to "Rekindle the Spark".

(Coming up with a thread on "Rekindling the Spark" soon but I might write something on "Getting to know the Man behind the first impression" before that).

Let the comments roll

Danke!!!!

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ERCROSS:


Han-ahn broz ... Must u tell them everything, now the relationship no ho dey sweet again...
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