I guess because of our culture many who dont want kids or even like kids just go on and have them anyway.
Who wants to be the subject of a village meeting? Lol. I have the one child and most days I swear im done. I am all drained from her gimicks! When i get my mother inlaws numerous urgent messages i sigh in exhaustion and wonder how im going to squeeze in another pregnancy and another attention needing tot into my gruelsome life. At the end of the day you dont owe anyone any explanations. Its your life, your resources, your choice to make. JUST DO YOU!!! . If you dont want kids then you dont want kids.

@ OP

If you don't want children, don't have children. At least, for the sake of yourself and the rest of humanity.

Its not compulsory to have children if you don't want them, its a matter of choice between you and your partner.

There is loads of children brought into this world by useless parents who cannot look after them, they have become a nuisance to society.

if you dont want children,then dont have them. at least you are still better than those who have them but dont want them

Then discuss it with your potential wife before hand to avoid any complexities if/when you do get married.
If your partner does not want children either, then that's one problem that's been taken care of.

if you dont want kids, dont have any. that is between you and your spouce NOONE else

@poster, there is absolutely nothing wrong in not wanting to have kids, we all cant have the same likes and dislikes, some people like the colour red, some like black, some people like alcohol some dont, etc, dont listen to what people think you should do, rather do what you think is best for you, there is no way all of us will want the same thing.
I have a friend who together with her spouse have chosen to remain childless, they both dont want kids and they are both happy with their decision
i personally am not a big fan of kids too, but if people love kids and want to have them then am happy for them,

peaceout

still playing the same record. . .

dont have them .

Unless my partner wants and loves children OR I happen to make a baby accidently, I will not be having any. And I certainly do not feel bad for that.
It is my choice and knowing how much I dont like little mini-people running around with dirty muddy hands and diapers and all the attitudes they can hold in their little tongues, screaming on top of their lungs and demanding allowances,, I dont think it would be fair to have a child.
If ever the condom breaks and something happens, I'll take it as God's way of telling me that she knows better and that she thinks I should have a baby in which case, I would.

To each his own, I certainly do not believe that people should be made to feel like they do or dont have to have kids. Having seen the way some people treat their kids, I am glad that some of us are accountable enough to know and stand up for what we want. Some people would just have kids and not only not care for them, but they maltreat them and leave the rest of the world to deal with the mess the made of their kids.

To each her own.

^^God is an oxymoron

jidobaba:

^^God is an oxymoron

how so?

I'm not a huge fan of kids. I adore them only when they OBEY my every commands to the letter. I just can't tolerate their bitching and whining and moaning etc.

But then as they say NEVER SAY NEVER. I might end up having a change of heart and adopting or having one of my own.

P.S: To get pickin no be by force. If you can't raise a kid properly ABEG NO BORN. I'm tired of seeing bleeped up kids on the streets!

I think its absolutely normal to have no desire for children.

Having kids is one thing, Raising kids is another. The world will be a better place if so many people WERE NOT BORN. They add no value or have no substance and depth because thier parents could not set the foundation and/or didnt have what it took to do so.

Not having children might be the most SELFLESS ACT some people might ever make in thier lives as it saves your generation from this worlds bleak future.

exu: Why do people look at you cross eyed when you say you "don't want kids"?  Never understood that.

I realise that some people feel as if they're obliged to get married and have children because that is what is drummed into them from birth.

However, there seem to be a lot of people out there who believe that EVERYONE should get married and EVERYONE should have children.  I'm pretty sure that this "one size fits all" mentality is the root of most of the problems and general discontent we see in society today.

Also, why is it considered selfish to not want children? Surely it is more selfish to desire an extension of yourself in the form of a child.

It's a question of personal choice.

You don't need to have kids if you don't want to. No point bringing them into the world if you can't devote all the love, care, and attention they deserve, to them.

mamaput: Its ok if someone dose not want kids.
Same as it is okes for me to say i do not want anymore.
And i do not want to try for a boy.
When my marrage broke up , friends were telling me.
Am still young, i can get married.have more kids,.
I i said no.
I got some stupid answers,"you are not a man" , you cannot stay alone" do you not want a boy".
[size=20pt]Better to have none, than to have one that you do not want.[/size]

I miss this woman!!!!
Corrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrect!

Its not mandatory to have kids @ op.

just ignore the people who you say are asking why you dont want any.

adoption is another option if you want none of your own.

I want to be child free. Who else wants to be child free like me here?

Maybe we can talk if you're female!���. I'm male by the way.

mexican:
I want to be child free. Who else wants to be child free like me here?

Maybe we can talk if you're female!���. I'm male by the way.

Rare kind!

if you say to my hearing you don't want kids i will definitely give you the stare and also ask y,,this isn't because i judge you,i just honestly want to know y you don't want beautiful beings like Kids,you don't even have to tell me y you don't, and i would probably not even bring the topic up for discussion ever again,,it's your choice..