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HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by cutebobo(m): 5:40pm On Apr 18, 2015
At the age of 17 i was introduced to masturbation and was taught to be using soap or something lubricated but as time goes on, i become so addicted to it. I'm now 25, i don't even use lubricant now so that u will know the level i am in masturbation. Sometimes, i do it up to three times a day. I need urgent help from someone that has being in my shoes before. This is sexual immorality and it's a sin
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by jascon1(m): 5:42pm On Apr 18, 2015
cutebobo:
At the age of 17 i was introduced to masturbation and was taught to be using soap or something lubricated but as time goes on, i become so addicted to it. I'm now 25, i don't even use lubricant now so that u will know the level i am in masturbation. Sometimes, i do it up to three times a day. I need urgent help from someone that has being in my shoes before. This is sexual immorality and it's a sin
my guy u just have to make up Ur mind once. N pray to God o. Masturbation is a chain on a neck o.
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Cutehector(m): 5:43pm On Apr 18, 2015
Pastor chris oyakhilome said dat self servicin is not a sin.. embarassed
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Nobody: 5:46pm On Apr 18, 2015
Just pray to God,he will deliver u
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by cutebobo(m): 5:47pm On Apr 18, 2015
Cutehector:
Pastor chris oyakhilome said dat self servicin is not a sin.. embarassed
it is
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Cutehector(m): 5:48pm On Apr 18, 2015
cutebobo:
it is
so why r u doin it?
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Tapout(m): 5:50pm On Apr 18, 2015
Cutehector:
Pastor chris oyakhilome said dat self servicin is not a sin.. embarassed





doesn't mean one should self service him/herself to death.....
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by cutebobo(m): 5:50pm On Apr 18, 2015
Cutehector:
so why r u doin it?
if i like doing it, i won't be seeking for help
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Nobody: 5:52pm On Apr 18, 2015
Dont u enjoy it anymore?
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by jascon1(m): 5:54pm On Apr 18, 2015
I feel for u o. No be joking matter o. Masturbation is like a chain in the neck. But pray to God o. Delete all blue films off Ur phones. Read the Bible steadily n pray each time the urge comes. N try to hustle fast make u marry quick. N explain to Ur wife so she knows Ur struggle.

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Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by MMADUKAN: 5:54pm On Apr 18, 2015
cutebobo:
At the age of 17 i was introduced to masturbation and was taught to be using soap or something lubricated but as time goes on, i become so addicted to it. I'm now 25, i don't even use lubricant now so that u will know the level i am in masturbation. Sometimes, i do it up to three times a day. I need urgent help from someone that has being in my shoes before. This is sexual immorality and it's a sin
if really u were the one that started it, then you can stop it.
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by imbless: 5:54pm On Apr 18, 2015
U don't use soap or vaseline anymore ? That means that ur joystick is now slippery , well Delete all the porn in ur fone and lappy and also the sexy pic or u can buy iron pant.
Come back and thank me later
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by IfyAwazie(f): 6:04pm On Apr 18, 2015
Nairalanders like self service topic no be small. Hmmmm i wonder.
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by SkinnyDude(m): 6:05pm On Apr 18, 2015
chai
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by ogoplus: 6:07pm On Apr 18, 2015
How to stop a masturbation addiction part 1
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 Written by Joe Zychik
Before you make an attempt to stop masturbating, there’s an important issue to deal with first. This issue is important because masturbation is a misunderstood addiction.

There are people who think they’re addicted to masturbation and they aren’t. Plenty of people are hooked on masturbation and think there’s nothing wrong with it. Just like the alcoholic who fools him or herself about drinking, the person addicted to masturbation is not doing themselves any favor by trying to deny the problem.

Let’s assume you’ve decided that you are addicted to masturbating. There are many people who are addicted to masturbation and hate themselves for masturbating. Feeling let down in yourself for acting addictively is a signal from nature that you are engaging in a pattern of activity that is self-destructive. But feeling let down in yourself is different than self-hatred. When you hate yourself you condemn your total being. When you feel let down in yourself, you are upset with a certain part of your life.


Self-hatred will not help you stop masturbating. One of the things to understand about self-hatred is: You won’t do something good for someone you hate.

People from all walks of life: the devoutly religious, atheists, agnostics, and people who are moderate in their belief system can find themselves smothered in self-hatred because they are addicted to masturbation and can’t stop.

You might be thinking, “If I have a problem hating myself, how do I stop it?” I can tell you where to start: Evaluate yourself the same way you would evaluate someone else who you were trying to be fair to.

For instance, Paul is addicted to masturbation. He wants to stop. He has been trying ever since he was a teen. He can stop for a few days, a few weeks, or even a few months. But eventually he returns to his masturbation addiction. When he returns he descends into self-hatred. Any person who stops addictive behavior and returns to it will feel let down. But Paul is going beyond feeling let down. He hates himself because he can’t stop masturbating.

If you share his problem here’s my advice to you:

“First, give yourself credit for what you accomplished. You wanted to stop. You gave it a best effort. And you succeeded for a while. Would you hate someone else because they attempted to overcome their problem or would you give the person credit for trying?

“If the person failed would you hate him or her? Or would you try to understand that they did their best? If the person has failed many times would you hate him for failing or would you give him credit for continuing to try in face of failure? If the person was concerned about their problem would you hate her because she was concerned or would you give her credit for identifying her problem and wanting to do something about it?”

Remember, you’re not going to be supportive of a person you hate. You will be on the side of someone who’s trying their best.

Some people think that failure at overcoming a masturbation addiction means you don’t want to stop. There’s more to stopping than just wanting to.

- You need an effective method. “Just say ‘No’” doesn’t work.

- You need an understanding of addiction. Being addicted and understanding what an addiction is are two very different states of mind.

- You need to know the differences between a sex addiction and other kinds of addiction. A big mistake people make when they try to deal with a sex addiction is treating a sex addiction as if it were an alcohol problem. A good example of this is the twelve-step approach. Twelve step is an alcohol program. It is not designed and is not effective for sex addiction.

- You need to know what makes a masturbation addiction different from other kinds of sex addiction. The Most Personal Addiction will give you an in depth discussion of the differences.

- You also need to determine if you are addicted to masturbation. The interviews in The Most Personal Addiction will help you understand if you have a sex addiction and will help you begin the process of getting a masturbation addiction stopped. There is also a further discussion about masturbation addiction in the article Masturbation Addiction Counseling.


You can stop masturbating addictively. Self-hate won’t help you. Self-understanding will.
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Nobody: 6:08pm On Apr 18, 2015
Cutehector:
Pastor chris oyakhilome said dat self servicin is not a sin.. embarassed
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Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Cutehector(m): 6:10pm On Apr 18, 2015
Blebleswag:

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seems ur still tryn to process wat to write. I understand ur RAM size is 2kb. grin
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by ogoplus: 6:11pm On Apr 18, 2015
To stop masturbating or to stop any bad habit requires the exercise of self-control.

As with running, cycling, or lifting weights the exercise of self-control requires energy, it requires power.

This is called willpower.
Unfortunately most of us don't seem to have that level of willpower.

As you probably have learned by now, if the desire to masturbate is greater than the level of willpower than you will lose control.

If it is too low you can’t control yourself and you then feel “will-powerless” against this addiction or any other undesirable habit


Don’t give up just yet. There is fantastic news! In past few years there have been incredible scientific advancements in the area of self-control. Studies with real people with real self-control issues have highlighted and pinpointed several of the principles to increasing willpower. Yes you read that right. Increasing willpower! The results of this research and data have extraordinary implications for those who want to stop masturbating. By following these principles you will increase your willpower.




10 Effective Ways to Stop Masturbating



The immense pleasure derived from frequent masturbation can be extremely addictive. However, this addiction can become an obsessive activity that interferes with daily living. Furthermore, it may result in loss of sex drive, depression, or even impotence. To prevent these potentially severe side effects, we will reveal the ten most effective ways to end chronic masturbation.

1. Rubber band

Place a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you get the urge to masturbate, flick the rubber band. This will eventually condition you to associate masturbation with the pain, thereby deterring you from the act. The mere thought of masturbation may even cease to cross your mind.

2. Distraction

When you get the urge to masturbate, quickly engage in an alternative activity. Whether you pick up a book or go to the movies with friends, participate in anything that will successfully distract you from your masturbatory desires.

3. Therapy

Do not hesitate to admit that you need professional help. Therapists offer beneficial coping mechanisms to help overcome chronic masturbation. Beyond recommending daily tools to break the habit, they also provide a supportive environment for open communication.

4. Help from loved ones

If you have a romantic partner, be open with them about your condition. This should remove any feelings of guilt or shame associated with chronic masturbation, as you will no longer have to hide a "dirty little secret" from your loved one.

5. Replace that pleasure with a different one

Find other pleasurable activities that bring you joy. Find an enjoyable hobby that requires your full attention. For example, if you enjoy art take a painting class.

6. Jogging

Jogging and other forms of exercise are a great way to take masturbation off your mind. Jogging will require your complete attention - from listening to your heartbeat to inhaling each new breath of fresh air. Masturbation will have no place on the forefront of your mind. So the more you engage in exercise, the less time you will have to think about masturbating. Eventually, you may be able to overcome your addiction.

7. Yoga

Yoga is an extremely relaxing activity. It requires you to concentrate solely on breathing and posture. This newfound focus should prevent obsessive thoughts about masturbation.

8. Evaluate your life

Analyze your life. Determine what makes you happy and what does not. You may find that something stressful in your life is causing this chronic masturbation. Elucidating the underlying stressor will enable you to resolve it, ultimately allowing you to overcome the addiction.

9. A new friend

If your chronic masturbation is due to intimacy issues, consider purchasing a pet as a therapeutic measure. They will accept you for who you are without judgment. They will provide you the companionship you may need to stop masturbating.

10. Speed dating

This is an alternative solution to intimacy problems. Speed dating is a fun way to get to know a diverse range of potential romantic partners, without the added pressure of traditional dating. This can be a fun and effective way to ultimately acquire a new girlfriend or boyfriend, which may therefore reduce your reliance on masturbation.

There are so many enjoyable activities that you will miss out on if you don't overcome chronic masturbation, so hopefully this article has provided you the necessary tools to do so.
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by ogoplus: 6:11pm On Apr 18, 2015
Just ask google....

many resources to help you on the internet

for example click :http://www.majorleaguedating.com/reasons-stop-masturbating-jacking-off-jerking-off-and-fapping/
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Nobody: 6:14pm On Apr 18, 2015
Cutehector:
seems ur still tryn to process wat to write. I understand ur RAM size is 2kb. grin
Cos dat all I write
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Nobody: 6:14pm On Apr 18, 2015
Cutehector:
seems ur still tryn to process wat to write. I understand ur RAM size is 2kb. grin
Cos dat all I can write
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by ramdris(m): 6:38pm On Apr 18, 2015
Focus on why u wanna stop and be steadfast about it.
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by VaselineCrew: 6:40pm On Apr 18, 2015
taking my vaseline else were
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Ezedon(m): 6:41pm On Apr 18, 2015
Cut off your joystick
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Svelteb(f): 6:45pm On Apr 18, 2015
Firstly ask God to deliver u dn secondly u av to be determined dat u rily wanna stop it, once u r determined dn d self-discipline sets in. Whneva d feeling comes, try 2 engage ursef in sth else dat will help take ur mind off it. Nd just like som1 said earlier, u gat 2 do away wt any material dat will initiate such tot or feeling.
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by Nobody: 6:52pm On Apr 18, 2015
rub pepper on your hand and do it. you wont touch your self for a week or two
Re: HELP: How Can I Stop Self-service by modskiller(m): 12:43am On Apr 19, 2015
VaselineCrew:
taking my vaseline else were
bad man

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