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| Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by mirexxx(f): 11:44pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
Hello ladies... you all know we are guilty of these points in one way or the other. It's no bashing thread  enjoy!1. OVERANALYZING EVERY WORD (OR CLOSE TO IT!) Typically, a man can say or do something without much thought. On the other hand, women tend to spend hours discussing the nuances in what a man said or did with a girlfriend. They will break down every part of the communication. Was it a text? Did it have a smiley face? What time did you text? How many texts that day? etc. I know it's hard not to over think things when you're dating since you don't always know where a man stands, especially since some of them aren't good at communicating their feelings and emotions. If he didn't contact you today or didn't make plans far enough in advance, just go with the flow. He's probably busy or having a bad day or week. You don't know. Obsessing with your girlfriends won't get you any closer to the solution. You'll end up confronting him with your overdrawn conclusions, getting mad and driving him towards the nearest exit. 2. NOT HAVING YOUR OWN LIFE Way too many people are getting involved in relationships too quickly and investing emotions too quickly when they don't yet know the person fully. Don't start having your life revolve around someone you met a month ago. You've lived a long time on your own just fine, so don't keep yourself from doing what you desire. When you over invest you give your power away. It's easy to start the habit of placing yourself second to others and not setting the proper boundaries. Live your own life with your own friends, career, dinners and events, etc. A man who is really interested in you will be open to compromising on doing things you enjoy. 3. REEKING OF DESPERATION Neediness is a major turnoff. It shows that you're insecure, have low self-esteem and that you'll need constant reinforcement. If he's out with friends, leave him be. Don't go around checking social media to see what's going on. 4. THINKING NEGATIVELY This isn't referring to genuine concerns about your relationship or sharing how you feel; it refers to the negative questions and statements that try to elicit a response. For example: "Why don't you tell me you love me anymore?" or "I bet you are going to break up with me." Instead of trying to "fish" for information, just ask him. If you want a man to be straightforward, honest and transparent, then act the same way. 5. TRYING TO CHANGE HIM Trying to change someone is not recipe for a happy and healthy long-term relationship. There is nothing wrong with encouraging someone to be the best they can be or helping them see other options. But no guy wants to have his "mom" tell him what to do and what he's doing wrong. Acting like this mother makes him feel like he's not good enough. If you need to nag and criticize someone for not living up to your expectations, you are with the wrong person. Would you want someone else to do that to you? 6. EXPECTING (OR GIVING) TOO MUCH WAY TOO SOON Stop trying to make a one-month relationship mean more than it is. The pressure of getting clingy or emotional too soon pushes people away. It's great to be excited about being with someone, but you don't need to talk marriage and kids on the second date. 7. LOOKING FOR PROBLEMS If you look for problems, chances are you are going to find them. For example, if you are afraid of being rejected, you may misinterpret things and try to reject him first. If you have a negative mindset, you're going to create a negative reality. Sure, you've had some bad relationship experiences in the past, but you need to work on those issues before dating again. Remember: You make your past your present when you keep carrying that baggage forward. 8. TALKING ABOUT THE EX If you bring up your exes or your past relationships, you are on the road to driving a man away. There is no reason to bring them up early on in a relationship. If you need to vent, go talk to your friends! Ladies ... men make a lot of mistakes too, and they commit many of the same ones as you do (and different ones). No one is perfect, but you can take steps to prevent sabotaging your current and future relationships. let's heed to this and have a better relationship  http://www.8sillythingsyouoverandovertopushguysaway cc: lalasticlala 2 Likes |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Nobody: 11:46pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
LOL... Tell them jare.  |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Middlefinger1: 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
The guy below me will drop a nice comment, don't disappoint me oooo. |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by AbuMikey(m): 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
But, I've never felt like She's pushing Me away. This strictly depends on the guy involved. |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by whizjay(m): 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
Mirexxx Which one are you guilty of? |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by mirexxx(f): 11:50pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
whizjay:none! never had a bf  |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by vjsmiles: 11:50pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
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| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Cutehector(m): 11:52pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
I must admit the truth. I love dis thread in as much as somethings are bein lockd up in d past. |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by mirexxx(f): 11:53pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
AbuMikey:I'm talking in general! you might not feel that way but not every guy takes such. |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by bruiser007(m): 11:53pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
Word. when you're chatting with her and she reads meaning to EVERYTHING. |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by whizjay(m): 11:54pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by AbuMikey(m): 11:55pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
mirexxx: Exactly, that was why I said it depends STRICTLY on the guy invoved. |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by mirexxx(f): 11:56pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by mirexxx(f): 11:57pm On Apr 21, 2015 |
AbuMikey:okay |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Jerryspryng: 12:00am On Apr 22, 2015 |
mirexxx:How old are you  |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Nobody: 12:00am On Apr 22, 2015 |
1 Like |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by mirexxx(f): 12:02am On Apr 22, 2015 |
Jerryspryng:do not derail this thread! |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Cutehector(m): 12:02am On Apr 22, 2015 |
Shezhawt:lol... Me too |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by VantagePoint: 12:03am On Apr 22, 2015 |
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| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Rapmoney(m): 12:07am On Apr 22, 2015 |
Relationship is one of the most complex aspect of the human race. The more you look, the less you see! The fact is that most young people start an affair so soon without striving to know the personal qualities of the other person  . It is better to be a friend to your would-be better-half because that's the best time each of you would be able to open up entirely and assess each other's personal qualities and character freely! When sex gets involved, certain things are bound to change...that's when secrecy and presense creep in 2 Likes |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by whizbee(m): 12:08am On Apr 22, 2015 |
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| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Nobody: 12:09am On Apr 22, 2015 |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Nobody: 12:11am On Apr 22, 2015 |
Nice thread OP.. Definition of my 21yrs old cousin sis. 2 Likes |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by okotv(m): 12:11am On Apr 22, 2015 |
this is serious |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Yasher: 12:16am On Apr 22, 2015 |
If only they'll stop.....  1 Like |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by FLAWLES(f): 12:28am On Apr 22, 2015 |
Poster above me; is it like YANSH or YANSHER abi YANSHII abi YANSHY? |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by whizjay(m): 12:30am On Apr 22, 2015 |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by LewisO: 12:31am On Apr 22, 2015 |
But they (Women) won't learn, even u (op).  1 Like |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Nobody: 12:32am On Apr 22, 2015 |
FLAWLES: ~ You...ummm... *never mind* |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Nobody: 12:33am On Apr 22, 2015 |
~ Number 1 point confirms why men are more knowledgeable ... |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by mirexxx(f): 12:49am On Apr 22, 2015 |
Darkrebel666:what makes men more knowledgeable here?? BTW this is not a debate thread for which gender is more knowledgeable. thanks |
| Re: Silly Things Ladies Do That Push Men/Guys Away by Nobody: 12:53am On Apr 22, 2015 |
mirexxx: ~ Because you said they spend more time on petty things like gossiping and asking- (Did he add Smileys"..Was it a text? etc". ) So i thought I'd chip that in |
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