innervoice:


There are enough modern day women who do not believe in marriage.
There are enough women who lost someone for one reason or another and didn't consider anyone else a suitable replacement or love the one they lost and who are unable to love anyone else.
There are enough women who have different priorities in life.
There are enough women who are not willing to settle for less just for the sake of marriage.
There are enough women who believe in serial monogamy.
There are women who are not able to have kids and who find it hard to find a man who will marry them.
There are enough women who are hidden lesbians.
There are enough women who, for one reason or another, do not like sex and therefore do not want a man by their side.

Life is only simple on Nairaland.

innervoice:


There are enough modern day women who do not believe in marriage.
There are enough women who lost someone for one reason or another and didn't consider anyone else a suitable replacement or love the one they lost and who are unable to love anyone else.
There are enough women who have different priorities in life.
There are enough women who are not willing to settle for less just for the sake of marriage.
There are enough women who believe in serial monogamy.
There are women who are not able to have kids and who find it hard to find a man who will marry them.
There are enough women who are hidden lesbians.
There are enough women who, for one reason or another, do not like sex and therefore do not want a man by their side.

Life is only simple on Nairaland.

freecocoa:
Yea right.

The article is bullshit.

raumdeuter:
A similar pattern

All of them interviewed not a single one accepted responsibility but blamed someone, their mother, their father , their stepmother etc

Non of them admitted to being a runs girl,
non admitted to using her youthful years to chase aristo,
None said she was the one who chased poor men away,
None said she was chasing club boys in school at the expense of Efikko,
None said she was waiting for one Bf in Oyinbo land and ignored the home based ones because she wanted to travel

When would women start to take responsibility for their own actions

bennyrazz:
the major problem here is family setting unreasonable standards for the man their daughter wants to marry. Though I am not against setting standards but there should be a limit to the standards family set and there should be limits to the type of man a woman dreams to marry.


Some women have what we call checklist for the type of man they want to marry but they are so quick to forget that God also has a checklist for the type of husband he has destine for them to marry. In God's plan, your husband is short, in the woman's plan, her husband is tall. In God's plan, your husband is a farmer, in the woman's plan, her husband is an Engineer. So when your plan doesn't meet with God's plan for the kind of man they want to marry, how will the marriage be possible?

There is nothing God cannot do for you so far you stick to his plans for you, no father or mother can stop you from getting married so far the man/woman is God's choice.

Lastly, some women are the architect of their own marital woes. They are too high to maintain, nothing pleases them, it is never enough for them, they have this proud look, their taste is too high, they are very wasteful, they cannot endure circumstances, they complain & nag at the same time, they are very disrespectful, they dress like harlots etc

innervoice:


One of the reasons why they haven't found any even though they were seeking, is that love is hard to find. This reason must be mentioned. Some people are lucky and find it easy to find the person they love and who loves them back but for most people it is not easy. That's why many people find themselves in unhappy marriages. They marry someone just for the sake of being married, especially in the Nigerian setting where marriage is a do or die affair. Therefore, people marry someone who they do not truly love or someone they love but who does not love them back. This is the reality. Therefore, I admire everyone who is brave enough to say no to marriage until s/he finds the right person even if it takes a lot of time. Too many people mare out of fear and not for love. You nailed it!!!

coogar:


many of them don't even know how to reply when you say hi to them. some just smile & cover their blushing face or make faces like a buffalo just farted in their nostrils.

nigerian men are better-trained as far as social skills are concerned. they tend to go out more at their early stage of development while the female counterpart is still learning how to make every type of soup in the kitchen.



by whose standard?
are the same men not marrying easily outside nigeria? abeg, nigerian parents are the problem. even when the girl manages to bring a classy suitor home, they would still disapprove because they don't like his tribe or religion.

you really have no clue concerning the topic...



the economy was better then.
the unemployment rate was very low. a high school graduate can work as a bank clerk in their era. these days, masters degree holders are driving keke napep.

when will he save enough to marry a girl whose bride price alone is N1m?

AdeniyiA:
within a year, I have spoken about marriage to 3 ladies under 25yrs all telling me they're still young and not in a hurry, besides they all said they had boyfriends, what are they doing with boyfriends when they're not ready for marriage ?
The word of God shall surely come to pass ..
Isaiah 4:1 And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.

AmakaDNB:

Teenage boys and lack of respect for their mothers

cococandy:
The more single women out there, the more single men.

I know plenty of guys that age who are still single.
Why is nobody on their case?
Abi the ladies go marry themselves?

#rolls eye.

innervoice:


Then we are very different bro.

raumdeuter:
A similar pattern

All of them interviewed not a single one accepted responsibility but blamed someone, their mother, their father , their stepmother etc

Non of them admitted to being a runs girl,
non admitted to using her youthful years to chase aristo,
None said she was the one who chased poor men away,
None said she was chasing club boys in school at the expense of Efikko,
None said she was waiting for one Bf in Oyinbo land and ignored the home based ones because she wanted to travel

When would women start to take responsibility for their own actions

cococandy:
The more single women out there, the more single men.

I know plenty of guys that age who are still single.
Why is nobody on their case?
Abi the ladies go marry themselves?

#rolls eye.

koyyess:
If the rate is so alarming as the op says, it goes to show that:
1. There are a lot of irresponsible men out there.
2. The economy is so bad that even the responsiblle men cannot afford getting married or having a family.
3. Divorce rate keeps getting higher each day.
4. Some Single ladies have decided within themselves to become baby mamas/ single parent(biological /adopted).
Any other factor contributing to the topic of this thread is insignifant compared to what I have listed above. Why? Let's use Nairaland as a case study. Among the people who raise this kind of thread, most are males. Again, why is that? Because most males are beginning to realise that to most females, marriage in africa especially is a complete joke. If an average woman cannot get a child or financial comfort from a man, then why would they want to be with such a person?. It is therefore my conclusion that most males are afraid of what will become of the institution called marriage in the next 2 or 3 decades and that's why they keep bringing up shiity threads like this.

GodMode:


Marriage is not over hyped in Africa..

Women have inferiority complex... And always try to compete with their friends...

kishimi8:
Thank god all my sisters are married.. must be tough for the ladies out there.. but hey most ladies want to marry a ready made man..

GodMode:


Polygamy is a choice...