WORDS FROM A MOTHER TO HER DAUGHTER
ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. The wife that wins all arguments with her
husband is not wise. The home is not a law
court.
2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the
home - placing embargo and using sex as
punishment - lacks wisdom.
3. The wife that uses the modern trends and
laws of "women's rights" to insult or ridicule her
husband simply makes a fool of herself.
4. A woman that makes her home devoid of
peace through bickering, nagging and quarrels
needs help. A man should be eager to run away
from office to be at home, for that should be the
safest and coziest place on earth for him.
5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not
mean competition. It simply means partnership.
Taking advantage of such equality to turn around
and become the de facto head of the home and
oppress the man is tantamount to playing with
fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be
the boss of an empty home.
6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good that
he assumes that he is the head. Once he gets
that feeling, the woman gently wields her power
and the head actually turns to wherever the neck
wants without a protest.
7. A wife that does not pull herself away from
friends' influence and advice or even from the
control of her mother and father will have herself
to blame.
8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses
women of different shapes and sizes to choose a
wife. But soon after childbirth, many women hide
under the excuse of childbirth to let go of
themselves. Many stop bothering about their
looks, shape, dressing, etc. Within 5 years of
marriage, people start wondering if the wife is
the man's aunt, even though she is 7 years
younger. Her defence is that if he truly loves her,
he should love her the way she is, but when
looking for a wife, he saw people like the present
YOU and ignored them and settled for the former
YOU. Today, you go to bed smelling of onions....
You go to bed wearing grandmothers' clothes.
Why are you playing with your marriage? Love is
not about looks - we know. But looks enhances
love and marriage. There is a difference between
someone disfiguring herself and the person being
disfigured by an accident.
Please don't be complacent. As hard as it may
be, work on looking like you were when he first
saw you and began the chase.
9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore, down
with headache or fever, "not in the mood," you
are a joker, a serious comedian!
10. If your children suddenly become more
important to you than your husband, you need
prayers.
11. If you assume that as the woman, only you
need to be pampered and fussed over while the
man is a stone that has no emotions, you need
to be pitied.
12. A woman that has the mind of a wife does
not excite her husband. Wives are usually
complacent and presumptuous. A wife must
strive to have the mind of a fiancee. A fiancee is
always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always
thinking of ways to wow her sweetheart; a
fiancee does not try to win all arguments, does
not call the man a "useless man", is not careless
about her looks or dressing, always smiles and
laughs with the man, sends the man sweet
messages and calls, etc.
13. A woman must never be tired of praying for
her husband. You must be his most trusted
confidant and encourager.

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