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Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:48pm On May 19, 2015 |
kaboninc: it is very easy to say what you will do in a hypothetical "if" case scenario, until you are actually in the shoes 2 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:49pm On May 19, 2015 |
freecocoa: Can you imagine your husband naked in bed with your own sister pumping away Maybe comparing your performance with hers and how he prefers her 19 year old body with that of your barren sister's Oh,you think there were no such talks to pump up the volume And all of a sudden,all will be alright because the marriage must go on Don't people understand that God is not in every marriage,it's not every marriage that is ordained by God But they keep calling him when a man screws up,that's when they remember its for better or worse He gets the better and she gets the worse abi ? I will forgive and reconcile with my own sister with time if she becomes remorseful but the man is gone There is nothing to salvage with him,there is even no child between us Let her find a man who can impregnate a woman jor This one is useless 13 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 8:50pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: Because you don't know what I've been through. |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by raumdeuter: 8:52pm On May 19, 2015 |
My own advice is very short When people say in all things give thanks to God. When God denied you a child for this guy now you would think he was a wicked God. Imagine you having a child for him My own, this marriage is over. Good thing you dont even have anything tying you together. You dont even need more evidence than this especially with your own SISTER? Maybe in 20yrs time it would be with your daughter. Of 100m women in Nigeria na your sister he see If he likes let him marry your sister Abeg move away from that area and vicinity start a new life. You were never married. God thing you have a job too. If you continue one day you eye would see real evil 15 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:52pm On May 19, 2015 |
coogar: you did not answer my question. you said cheating for a man is different than for a woman. my question is in reference to that statement |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:52pm On May 19, 2015 |
kaboninc: are you trying to stylishly toast me? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by OmoAlata1(f): 8:54pm On May 19, 2015 |
kaboninc: are you stating you were in situation where your wife has gone to go test drive your brother's sperm count? |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:55pm On May 19, 2015 |
raumdeuter: You see why I refuse to give up on nigerian men There are some very reasonable ones who value and respect women 7 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Joel3(m): 8:57pm On May 19, 2015 |
my husband: is better I do it with you,than doing it with an asider. what's wrong if you have a child for your sister? this part says it all. the guy is on a perilous time. this is the time of confusion when one never think straight and can fall to any temptation of the mind. I have feeling ...... ..... ... keep quite. ok well this your marriage you need to pray. because that guy is ready to do anything to get a child. and will dump you if anyone can give him a child at this time. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 8:58pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: i have given you the difference. what's the most likely thing that would happen to a cheating wife? is it not that she would get pregnant & claim her hubby is the father? 1 Like |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by freecocoa(f): 9:02pm On May 19, 2015 |
babyosisi:I can't even try to understand their mindset, like you've said, they definitely must talk about her and the 'childlessness' probably blaming it all on her. Seriously though, I don't know if I could ever be close to such a sister, forgive, I might with time, I just won't be able to forget. The man is beyond useless, the sister can even be excused on the grounds of being young and impressionable, just what excuse does this man have? Yea yea, he wants a child, why did it have to be her sister? If he could do it with the girl, he's doing it with so many others, tufiakwa, i'm disgusted. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by raumdeuter: 9:05pm On May 19, 2015 |
smsshola: Though I agree with you 95%, I have a better method let her take both the husband and the sister, give them viagra overdose, nakeedd them and lock them in the same room. EVen you fit supply them with pornn sef (Its all part of the trap setting) and monitor them If they Bleep only 7 times or less over the weekend, then they are not cheating and can be forgiven, But if its over 12 times then its cheating and she needs to praay fast for them and even pay for a sex rehab for them and later continue the marriage 2 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by kaboninc(m): 9:08pm On May 19, 2015 |
OmoAlata1:You've being using questions to reply me. That's just so unfair. As per your last question, am not married. |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by cococandy(f): 9:09pm On May 19, 2015 |
I did think of this but didn't want to say it to avoid hurting her feelings in case the ttc thing is an emotional topic for her. Or in case she wasn't considering divorcing him. I agree the no child thing can be seen from this perspective as a blessing because it removes complications from her life should she decide to leave. raumdeuter: |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by raumdeuter: 9:15pm On May 19, 2015 |
What concluded the case for me was not the act but whom he chose. The SISTER. If it was another person entirely, a colleague, a random person, a neighbour etc we might start talking of forgiveness but the wife sister. maybe the mom should also get ready and the other sisters too 3 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by coogar: 9:17pm On May 19, 2015 |
raumdeuter: she chose him.... what are you talking about? the sister is the one with a promiscuity history - the man has never been caught or ever been suspected to have cheated. the man is as much as the victim as the OP. |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 9:18pm On May 19, 2015 |
Joel3:...pray over what? Please, expantiate |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by zeb04(f): 9:35pm On May 19, 2015 |
Nairaland never disappoints Stewwpid comments 7 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 9:42pm On May 19, 2015 |
cococandy:Nne,u sabi the koko. I wouldn't dare be hard on her cos ttc alone is draining. And with this,she will be thinking had she had a child...etc. I wasn't hard on the husband too cos I don't know if the problem was from madam. U see,she has a lot to swallow. Decisions taken always at d spur of the moment mostly backfires. But I wouldn't crucify her. She don't need that now. @madam op, pls if u can,go and stay with a friend. I suggested separation first then others will follow. All the best. As for those angry with her, pls tone it down. Ttc can make one kolo,then add infidelity and with one's sister. She be only one person o. Make she no go kill herself or do something terrible. It's well madam. 5 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Joel3(m): 9:48pm On May 19, 2015 |
chimkaire:I have ask for her left palm but she did not. what more can i say. pray to have a child for him. |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 9:58pm On May 19, 2015 |
Westendel:Wow, this is heavy. I feel your pain OP. First, your sis has to leave the house. Don't blow it out of proportion, calm yourself down in all possible ways. Sit your sister down and talk to her to get a clue how they got that far and check if she is pregnant by making sure you run a test. I don't know if you can forgive your husband or not, but you have to talk to him as well. You have to be strong at this trial times |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Joel3(m): 10:00pm On May 19, 2015 |
this might share you up and make you strong. a thread I created for lecture click to follow the thread. Joel3: |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by thorpido(m): 10:19pm On May 19, 2015 |
Hmmmm...........some of the things I'm reading here. I believe the op knows what to do now.She should move and stay on her own,maybe with a friend for now. Forgiveness is a good thing but when your husband is sleeping with your own sister and not just the sex but the intention........trying to make a baby with your own sister? Abeg,that marriage is dead. 7 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by olu4life(m): 10:52pm On May 19, 2015 |
Mmmm... See comments.. OP do the needful, follow ur heart. U said He has started apologising ba?! Has he accepted his fault I still stand on my opinion. By the way, are u also faultless in ur home? That is another thing to consider. Have u being acting as a good wife cos all u painted here is sign of perfection which we all know its false. Looking it at another angle cos I dont believe a man will purposely want to cheat on his wife though pressure could set in. Abeg all dis divorce divorce crew should just get their acts together. Thats all I gotta say. 1 Like |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 11:03pm On May 19, 2015 |
Westendel:Was it your family, his family or both that does not see anything wrong in you (Racheal) and your sister(Leah) wrong in marrying thesame man? Like seriously, is that the person(s) you wanted to or will listen to for a way forward? In another note, i think your husband is responsible for your childlessness. He has been sleeping with her since age 14 (possibly others too) yet no result. With the way whoever made the jacob statement is supporting your sis, she may not only be willing to marry him, she may also give another man's pregnancy to your desperate husband. 5 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 11:31pm On May 19, 2015 |
Why all this? why derail this thread. I only seek for your advice not you people attacking one another with your unnecessary argument. To everyone here,post your comments and stop imposing your opinions on others. stop this e-war. no matter how anyone proposes his or her advices to me,it is what is on mind that I will do.so stop killing or giving yourselves headaches. I might decided to forgive and continue with him or divorce him kia kia. what ever rocks my boat. well, well,the purpose of this thread has been achieved, time to deactivate and continue with my original moniker. Thank you all,family nairalanders. creating this thread was therauptic ,it helped eased the pains and hurt .Can't thank you guys enough . off to TTC health section, with my original moniker. the beauty of nairaland! once again thank you all ,am most grateful @phema,thanks for that wonderful prayer.it came at the right time.thanks 3 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 1:17am On May 20, 2015 |
Westendel: Looks like you have already healed this one you don turn into moderator and counselor of threads God indeed works in mysterious ways To nu jah Thread closed 1 Like |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 5:29am On May 20, 2015 |
babyosisi:Babyosisi, dream no be am o! Na so I dey dream u and dayokanu(so dayo is now reudemeter,hope I got it)dey fight seriously for a thread u just created. I read all the posts. U two just no wan gree. I just woke up looking for the said thread Which kain dream be this one na Instead of me to dream about cool dollars and pounds na fight. Abeg I don go back to sleep. |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by deadie(m): 5:42am On May 20, 2015 |
Westendel: I am a married man, so I guess that I can relate more to a man wanting to cheat (not that I have or ever will). But forgive your husband who is/was sleeping with your younger sister? I will never understand that. Oh well, what do I know. You probably deserve each other. 10 Likes |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by mrsmith11(m): 5:56am On May 20, 2015 |
deadie: Is divorcing the man the only way forward? Remember is not always greener on the other side. That why you see some women saying all men are wicked while some men will say am not always lucky with good women because they r always looking for a perfect person Every little or difficult situation they jump ship |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by deadie(m): 7:22am On May 20, 2015 |
mrsmith11: Every little or difficult situation they jump ship? Are you serious? I do not understand your mentality. If your partner can go as low as sleeping with your own sister, how can you rewire your brain to still love and share the same bed with that person? Well as I earlier wrote, what do I know. If people marry for the sake of money, convenience and material things, then this situation probably falls under your category of "little or difficult situation" that doesn't warrant "jumping ship". But if the foundation of your marriage is love and trust, then this act is a tsunami which has completely washed away that very foundation of marriage. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Please Nairalanders I Need Mature Advice by Nobody: 8:11am On May 20, 2015 |
lofty900: Are you crazy? 3 Likes |
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