u guys tell me if i have a right to be mad, ok i met this guy,we talked about virtually everything from [past relationships to people we had like and stuffs like dat,anyway he told me about this gal he happens to really dig but she didnt just give a hoot about him, they talked quite alright,but deep down, and being a girl,i knew she was simply using him,you know how we gals could be atimes, we dont like the guy,yet we dont want to let go,,she only had to flash,this guy would call right back.anyway he said he was over her and wanted to move on cause she was never going to bugde. we hung out alot,went to the nmovies,parties and stuffs, he was ok and i knew he had started liking me,,but deep down he wasnt really the kind of guy i would have loved to date,but as a friend he was perfect,,i guess i was still trying to see if maybe as time goes on i would get to like him dat way, then he came with sum shockers, he called me one day.we were talking as usual, den he starts asking about my numerous toasters and aristos and who is the guy in my life, u know shit like dat,i was like thinking wat is this guy talking about,but i dint say aword,just kept quite and was flowing too answering all his questions, he den finally told me dat th gal called him out of the blues and she was ready to start a relationship with him, infact he didnt even put it as direct as im writing ito,he just told me like it was a passing jist,,i was dazzed but quickly recovered.i was like i was happy for him o,and all dat, i spoke with this guy everyday b4 dat very day,,guess wat he said wen he was about to hang up, ok den i guess ill tuk to you sometime laters ok'', men it cut me real deep, didnt call and he dint call for a wweek, den he did call and was acting like we had just seen a movie together yesterday, fine i know he owed me no obligation,but i think it was a cruel thing to do to someone, and it hurts more cos i cant say nothing to him about it,cos i dnt want to seem like one freak like dat, he still calls and acts like wat, we are cool, and i just feel like screaming at him and telling him to leave me the f, k alone, wat do u guys think?

It seems you waz beginning to like him already!!. Guess you are kinda heartbroken, but you aint sure. Sista abeg move on!

you have a right to be pissed. Even if he was a girl you will be pissed.
You will feel like you have been used ( as in friends in badtimes) and when the good times come you will not even see the break lights. I can understand you very well

did not quite get it sha. cos at 1st i thot you were liking him then when i read the concluding part, i got the message . just move on with your life. the guy just wanted to know what a woman's reaction would be like to some issues bothering him. hope u get where i am coming from. people can be quite unpredictable. one minute they are cool and cuddly, the next moment they are irritable and ewwwww. just keep cool and move on ok

babe,in a way you have the right to get pissed,but did you guys really define your friendship?

you have no right to be pissed at him, you said he was not your type, and u talk about how the other girl was using him, men are stupid but not that stupid if you could see he was not ya type i am sure he could as well.

scream at him adn tell him to leave u the Bleep alone

thanks you guys, @coco, yea i knw where u are coming from fine he wasnt the kind of guy i wld have gone for on a normal day,but based on the circumstances in which we met, thats tru someone, i was actually trying to get to know him better and all,so it wasnt like i was using him or trying to, anyway im glad u guys have given ur various opinins, im moving on quite alright,aldo i stll have this urge to just yell at him wen next he calls,

u should be pissed. but i think u are more hurt than pissed.

my girl i feel ur pain. the same thing happened to me once. a very cute guy who was so close to my family came to stay with us for like a month. my parents were away. then a girl distantly related to my dad was staying with us to for a while too. i've known this guy since i was little and i once had a crush on him. but i grew out of it when i saw he was really not my type, and his english is bad anyway.
this guy liked the girl who pretended not to be attracted to him, but he and i were really close and she soon began to be jealous of our intimacy. she started flirting with him, staying up late to gist, and before we knew it they started making out right in front of us. i got really pissed cos i knew she didnt really like him. and he started paying her all his attention and i missed him so much. i never got used to it. no one was surprised when she went back home and stopped flashing him, stopped taking his calls and forgot about him.
when he came to me, hurt, to complain, i almost smiled in his face. but i talked to him. remember uhser's song 'u make me' where he was always running to her for help and then started asking her out? well, he started to ask me out and i instantly turned him down.

i think u'll get over it cos anytime someone takes a position in ur life, even if it's a dog, and then it goes away, u'll miss it. but try not to dwell on it. remember his flaws and the reasons why he's not ur type. that should help. also try to focus on other friends and events in ur life. he'll soon come back to complain when something goes wrong and by then u'll be used to the pattern. and have the courage to help him out.

thanks alot omot208, u really feel me, thanks

anytime girlfriend.

dcuddles:

thanks you guys, @coco, yea i knw where u are coming from fine he wasnt the kind of guy i would have gone for on a normal day,but based on the circumstances in which we met, thats tru someone, i was actually trying to get to know him better and all,so it wasnt like i was using him or trying to, anyway im glad u guys have given your various opinins, im moving on quite alright,aldo i stll have this urge to just yell at him when next he calls,

have consider the fact that he may have liked you but was afraid of your rejection.

thats my point exactly,he was already like acting all lovey u know,checking me up.calling to share even the stupidest things and all,all of a sudden this gal comes back and woh,he is gone,it hurts really cos even if he wasnt my type initially i never ever showed it, men i was so good to him

Then sweetie you need to talk to him, if he truely love this other women then let it go and continue to be his friend if that is possible.

rather be PEACED ON! thats the thing about u babes.when a guy is diggin u u pretend like u dontfeel him and still leave your options open or like u say test him.u where already likin hin then he pulled the plug and u feel cheated.meanwhile u dont need to feel too bad cos i think the guy was just tryin to use u to pass time cos his old gal dropped him but when the babe came he jumped off cos how culd he ve suddenly lost his feelins for u if at all he had any

rather be PEACED ON!     thats the thing about u babes.when a guy is diggin u u pretend like u dontfeel him and still leave your options open or like u say test him.u where already likin hin then he pulled the plug and u feel cheated.meanwhile u dont need to feel too bad cos i think the guy was just tryin to use u to pass time cos his old gal dropped him but when the babe came he jumped off cos how culd he ve suddenly lost his feelins for u if at all he had any

You can't be pissed 'cos its a result of your own indecision. Someone once sang,

"don't it always seem to go that u don't know what you got till its gone"
in your case it
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Do not allow jealousy and envy ruin a potential future together. . .  He may be blind right now cos he likes her very much, but it could go sour sooner than later, I aint asking u to sit around and wait, feel free to make friends but keep in touch and encourage him to do the same.

u wasted valuable time in his time of weakness waiting for him to make the first move. . .   but if he did it once, he's likely to return when he's heartbroken cos he sees u like a good friend.

I dont think u have a right to be pissed right now, cos u didnt tell him anything about how u felt for him before he started dating 'miss thing'

@ whitelexi, i really dont see ur point, but just noticed d (m) by ur name so maybe dats y.

poshangel:

@ whitelexi, i really dont see ur point, but just noticed d (m) by ur name so maybe dats y.

I'm guessing u'll have an (F) next to your own name so i really won't expect u to understand my point in the first place

guys seem to do this sort of thing all the time. I just had a very similar experience.

anyway he said he was over her and wanted to move on cause she was never going to bugde. we hung out alot,went to the nmovies,parties and stuffs,

you were friEnds when the gurl was using him abi?
when he decided to move on u were still friends.
when they got back together u are still friends.

he was ok and i knew he had started liking me
as i gather he never told u hes feelings. it may be he started liking u or even better u liked him so u wer reading wat wasnt there. (we gurls do that a lot)

The fact is that he liked that girl first and always did. he saw u as a friend, u thot ther was more, he leaned on u when he needed u but he diddnt desert u. (u still go out dnt u?) i dont think he was tryin to use U. personally i think ure hurting cos u thot there was hope when that gurl wasnt there now she back and its 2 late.
u dinnt make ure move quick!

waterworks:

you were friEnds when the gurl was using him abi?
when he decided to move on u were still friends.
when they got back together u are still friends.

he was ok and i knew he had started liking me
as i gather he never told u hes feelings[/b]. it may be he started liking u or even better u liked him so u wer reading wat wasnt there. (we gurls do that a lot)

The fact is that he liked that girl first and always did. he saw u as a friend, u thot ther was more, he leaned on u when he needed u but he diddnt desert u. (u still go out dnt u?) i dont think he was tryin to use U. personally i think ure hurting cos u thot there was hope when that gurl wasnt there now she back and its 2 late.
[b]u dinnt make ure move quick!

@ waterworks
I love it when a girl can read a post like this and give a rational ,unbiased analysis rather than just jumping on the man bashing train. kudos to you girl , i second this opinion 

@ dcuddles
what can i say to you girl? waterworks has hit the nail on the head, a good guy ( a little naive maybe  ) but a good guy none the less fell right into ur hands and you let him slip away !

ah well, live & learn baby, live & learn