GeneralQuamdeen:
She is the only real qirlfriend you had?... So you have fake ones too... Just like you have fake ones too... She have an oriqinal somewhere which is not you..

kradleber:


no, that's not what I meant.
before I met her I've dated girls for like a week, a month..... I wouldn't even call it dating.
I hope you understand now? ✘

GeneralQuamdeen:
it is only natural that i think that way.. Im sorry

Hishuula:
file false documents up and lie that you ve been infected with HIV,tell her you love her but you just feel like staying single till you meet a girl that has it too,my opinion or plan and let her catch you doing something like ritual

Twaci:
I sincerely don't know, you can't breakup without breaking hearts.

There has got to be tears, no matter how nice u package it.

All I can say is, be sincere to her...in time too.

kradleber:


LOL ✘

kradleber:
I've finally made up my mind & I've decided to break up with my girlfriend. we have been dating for quite some time now & she's the only real girlfriend I've ever had.

the only problem & impediment is that she doesn't school in Nigeria & sometimes we don't see for like 6 months. I can't cope with the long-distance thing any more and I wanna call it a quit. I'm already seeing someone else and I thought breaking up with her would be the right decision instead of allowing her discover & unearthing it herself.
she's also returning to Nigeria in July or early August, and that's when I plan on breaking up with her.

I've surfed google but found no serious suggestions.
what i really want to know is - how do i breakup with her without she getting heartbroken & all that?.
I also still want us to be very close friends and possibly still date in the future. I'm not just sure she would take it lightly considering our history.


so how do I go about this?
everyone is welcome to comment, so long as it is helpful.✘

misssclassy:


@kradleber ^^^She has said it all.

When you break up with someone it signifies a betrayal of trust, of love, of friendship and of union.
We are humans and we have emotions and feelings. We feel pain and when we do, we express it in different ways.

Just make sure you present the news to her in a mature way. In a way she would understand.
Make her understand the reasons why you feel the both of you can't be together anymore ad why you think the relationship can't work.

Every one has their emotional strengths. And that's a crucial factor as to how people handle break-ups.

Just look for the appropriate time and tell her the truth. Also make her know that you still care about her but not in the way you used to.
I believe she should be able to understand.

Twaci:
I sincerely don't know, you can't breakup without breaking hearts.

There has got to be tears, no matter how nice u package it.

All I can say is, be sincere to her...in time too.

AfricanApple:
you sure you not confused? how can you be planning to break up with someone and still be thinking of dating in future.
well, there is no how you will break up with her that she won't be heart broken. you gotta do it sooner than later so that she will be able to find someone better than you

LadyBoss1:

Well if you love her its going to be tough
Seens like distance is the issue . But how long u been dating n how long left before ulot finish studies?
Cuz if uve waited dis long another year could b worth it .

Cc lalasticlala fp so he can get more advice from people whose actually had long distance relationship

misssclassy:


@kradleber ^^^She has said it all.


Just make sure you present the news to her in a mature way. In a way she would understand.
Make her understand the reasons why you feel the both of you can't be together anymore ad why you think the relationship can't work.

Every one has their emotional strengths. And that's a crucial factor as to how people handle break-ups.

Just look for the appropriate time and tell her the truth. Also make her know that you still care about her but not in the way you used to.
I believe she should be able to understand.

xynerise:
You don't have to breakup with her. Since you see her once in six month then you don't need to fast forward the breakup
( please, I am only attending to your request on breaking up).

Six months is enough for you to start up another relationship which will become serious before she comes back again.

If I am making sense tell me so I will continue?

Twaci:
I sincerely don't know, you can't breakup without breaking hearts.

There has got to be tears, no matter how nice u package it.

All I can say is, be sincere to her...in time too.

GeneralQuamdeen:
it is only natural that i think that way.. Im sorry

misspicy:

E be like say u don sabi NL pass me o

robosky02:


1. Do: Break up in person if you’ve been seeing them for more than a couple months
If you had any kind of substantial connection with someone, have the decency to end it in person. It shows compassion and that you value them as a human being.
Preferably, you want to do this in a private location since it is a sensitive subject. The one exception is…

2. Do: Break up in a public place if you’re worried about your safety
If you’re breaking up with someone specifically because of their temperament or anger issues, consider doing it in a public area. You don’t want to be alone and vulnerable if things get out of control.
You can also let a close friend or family member know you’re going to do this. Tell them where you’ll be and keep them posted, just in case.
This all may seem a little extreme but it’s better to be safe than stabbed. When someone feels rejected, they have a lot of intense emotions to process.

3. Don’t: Think distancing yourself will make it better
I understand how hard it is to look someone in the face and tell them it’s over. But the worst thing you can do to a partner is ignore and isolate them, thinking they’ll get the hint. That’s the coward’s way out.
Many people do this and claim it’s because they can’t bear to see the other person get hurt. But leaving them clueless and uncertain is disrespectful and only results in more pain.

4. Don’t: Wait until you have someone else on the line
A lot of people don’t like being lonely (which is another topic in itself). So they don’t break it off with someone until they’re sure they have a backup plan.
That’s not fair or caring at all. It’s selfish. You’re staying with someone you don’t want to be with so you don’t have to feel alone. All you’re doing is leading your current partner on and not allowing them the time to heal or meet other people.

5. Don’t: Wait for the perfect time or allow them to guilt you into staying
So you’re ready to break up but something devastating happens to your partner. Maybe they lost their job or a loved one. You don’t want to make things worse so you think you should wait for the “right time”.
How exactly do you know the right time? Is it a month? Six months? Why not a couple years then?
What if waiting longer means they’re more invested in the relationship and it will only hurt more in the future? What if they handle bad news better at once rather than consecutively? What if something else happens to them in the meantime?
Life will always be full of hardships. Sometimes they come at unfortunate moments. But you’ll never know the right time because there isn’t one. It’s varies from person to person and situation to situation.
Again, the best thing to do is end it as soon as you know things are over.
Occasionally, I’ve seen the person who’s dealing with the traumatic event try to guilt trip their partner into staying. They may call you heartless or inconsiderate for leaving them in such a vulnerable state.
Don’t give into that kind of pressure. It’s not your responsibility to be in an unfulfilling relationship just to make someone else happy. That’s not going to create a healthy connection together. If they truly care about you, they won’t use manipulation tactics to get you to stay.

6. Do: Tell them the real reason
This is probably the toughest discussion in a breakup…the “why?”
Some people think it’s best to be vague and sidestep awkward confrontation. Some people blame themselves (“it’s not you, it’s me”) out of guilt. And some people claim they aren’t ready for a relationship to minimize the damage.
All these answers are dishonest and won’t help the other person potentially grow.
If they find out you lied to them, it makes you look worse and further tarnishes any connection you had. If they have a huge problem, explaining that to them politely may help them consider working on it once their emotions settle down. It did for me.
Obviously, be tactful. Also, use “I” statements to describe how you felt in the relationship rather than attacking them with all the problems “you” have.
For example, think …”I felt like I was the only one putting effort into our intimate connection even after I addressed my concerns. I just don’t feel that chemistry anymore.”
Don’t say… “You never gave a crap about our romantic life. You don’t turn me on like you used to and I don’t find you attractive anymore.”

7. Don’t: Give them hope things could improve in the future
This is what I call the “half break-up”. You don’t want to crush someone completely so you slip in, “but maybe there’s a chance for us in the future.” Sometimes, it’s because you want a Plan B if you don’t find someone better.
Whatever the reason, you’re making it difficult for the other person to move on. If they still have feelings for you and believe they’ll have a second chance, they’ll often try everything to get you back. Or they’ll wait around for the day you change your mind and come running back to them.
Be upfront, “I don’t see us being together in the future but I wish you the best of luck.” If you have a change of heart later, deal with it then.

8. Don’t: Take a “trial” break, either
This is an excuse to see other people while keeping your current partner on the hook if things don’t pan out. Or you’re just afraid to admit it’s over and have them walk away.
Someone always gets hurt and it’s usually the other person. They go along with the charade of a “temporary breakup” but then can’t handle it once you actually starting dating other people. It only leads to more jealousy, arguing, and suffering.
Cut ties cleanly so there are no misunderstandings. There’s nothing stopping you from initiating a connection later on if you both want to.

9. Don’t: Try to be their best friend right after.
From my experience, women have an easier time transitioning to friends than men. This is most true when the girl is the one breaking it off.
When you still like the guy as a person, it makes sense that you want to maintain a friendship. Sometimes, it’s nice to have the attention while you’re getting used to being without them.
The problem is many guys will still have feelings for you. They will hang around and hope that you change your mind. And often when things don’t go back to the way they were, they get frustrated and may even take it out on you — especially when you start seeing other people.
Take a real break to allow them time to heal and move on. It reinforces that this isn’t a temporary setback and helps them accept that reality. You can always be their friend down the line when you both can actually be just friends.
It may also be unavoidable that you two will have to see each other and be cordial. Set the right expectations and tell them you want to be friendly but you both should still see other people. Reiterate your platonic and they should not wait around for you to come back.
If they can’t handle that arrangement (get jealous, still try to convince you they’ve changed) you will need to go no-contact until they can be a legitimate friend.


10 live your life

...talk true...you ursef...can u read all those

stephenqueen:
Why did you want to break up with her because of distance I'm not sure you love her
Had it been it's a lady that created this thread, we guyz gonna be saying ladies are wicked

Jamean:


Your reason is fine by you, but I will ask..have there been the distance thing from the outset? If yes, did you not feel you may not cope, or you were so in love not to sense it.

kradleber:


no, it hasn't always been a problem until she had to leave Nigeria to study ✘

kradleber:
I've finally made up my mind & I've decided to break up with my girlfriend. we have been dating for quite some time now & she's the only real girlfriend I've ever had.

the only problem & impediment is that she doesn't school in Nigeria & sometimes we don't see for like 6 months. I can't cope with the long-distance thing any more and I wanna call it a quit. I'm already seeing someone else and I thought breaking up with her would be the right decision instead of allowing her discover & unearthing it herself.
she's also returning to Nigeria in July or early August, and that's when I plan on breaking up with her.

I've surfed google but found no serious suggestions.
what i really want to know is - how do i breakup with her without she getting heartbroken & all that?.
I also still want us to be very close friends and possibly still date in the future. I'm not just sure she would take it lightly considering our history.

so how do I go about this?
everyone is welcome to comment, so long as it is helpful.✘