Rocktation:
After all is said and done, nothing in this life can justify cheating. If you think this is yet another I'm-a-modern-woman talking, then switch these people's shoes in that head of yours, however egotistical and uncompromising it may be, then come back and talk to me.

DollyParton1:
And the bullshiiit continues. ...
So what did the husband do to salvage the suitation? Of course step out and cheat. And the wife is silly enough to justify it.
What happened to taking a long and irreversible walk.

both of you and also sambarry missed the point. The article only stressed on what happened that lead to the cheating. The article never justified the cheating husband. Learn from that its a good one

Owliver:
both of you and also sambarry missed the point. The article only stressed on what happened that lead to the cheating. The article never justified the cheating husband. Learn from that its a good one

I had NOT missed any point. It's the reason why I said "after all is said and done". I meant (in another news) to stress that irrespective of whether or not the man wanted out, he chose the wrong and wimpy way to get out. Anyone would understand my stand if they read a lil slower, or struggle hard enough to not be a misogynist.

Rocktation:


I had NOT missed any point. It's the reason why I said "after all is said and done". I meant (in another news) to stress that irrespective of whether or not the man wanted out, he chose the wrong and wimpy way to get out. Anyone would understand my stand if they read a lil slower, or struggle hard enough to not be a misogynist.

hahaha your last statement is very funny. Since the article didn't reach that part I wondered why you so much stressed on it. ADVICE 101: Solve problem A that lead to problem B that way you automatically solve B, instead you ignored A and jumped straight to B. Well done

Owliver:
hahaha your last statement is very funny. Since the article didn't reach that part I wondered why you so much stressed on it. ADVICE 101: Solve problem A that lead to problem B that way you automatically solve B, instead you ignored A and jumped straight to B. Well done

You mean the article did not mention that the man cheated? I also admire your ability to selectively read. The avoidance of a sane(r) approach to solving problem A by the wimp of a husband, is all the sermon I've been giving here too, oga.

Everyone (ancient and modern) including you, can also learn from what I'm saying, as I'm sure you wouldn't want your wife humping another dude and eventually moving in with him, just because you cuddle the children and grill her, as to how she spends her salaries.

There is nothing wrong with the write-up. The problem is the op who put some part of the write up in bold in an attempt to make it what it is not and blame it on the modern woman even when most of what the woman said led to the breakdown of her marriage is championed by those who want the old ways to stay.

@op,



Ignore him and face your children sounds to me like putting the children first.

When you marry him, you marry his family and they can come and visit when they want does not sound to me like a home where parents/Inlaw have boundaries. I can even add that slapping your partner in his/her house as not having boundaries.

Don't talk back at him. Learn to keep shut sounds like that's what the op does.

Honestly ask yourself if it's the modern woman that gives these kind of advice because every time I have heard it , it's been from those women and men who champion how women in the olden days lived.


In your fast attempt to teach the modern woman a lesson, you have ended up telling us that we are right and if anybody is to change, it's those who love the way women of old lived.

Her point about emasculating him proves that any woman can be rude and bad whether modern or not.

For the same reason and many more I also walked out of my ex in 2012. Within two months of leaving she realized her errors and came pleading. Her pleading continues up to this moment, but it's too late.

Rocktation:


You mean the article did not mention that the man cheated? I also admire your ability to selectively read. The avoidance of a sane(r) approach to solving problem A by the wimp of a husband, is all the sermon I've been giving here too, oga.

Everyone (ancient and modern) including you, can also learn from what I'm saying, as I'm sure you wouldn't want your wife humping another dude and eventually moving in with him, just because you cuddle the children and grill her, as to how she spends her salaries.

it would have been fair enough if you had stressed more on problem A rather than problem B since the topic didn't even stress on problem B. I guess you would have ignored the article if it didn't talk about the man being "A cheat" lol* obviously. Nice profile pics you got there

Owliver:
both of you and also sambarry missed the point. The article only stressed on what happened that lead to the cheating. The article never justified the cheating husband. Learn from that its a good one

ok so please help me explain what miss independent has to do with the thread

Owliver:
both of you and also sambarry missed the point. The article only stressed on what happened that lead to the cheating. The article never justified the cheating husband. Learn from that its a good one

So you mean the article is teaching that if I do all the things the lady did, my husband will cheat on me. I feel thats a justification for cheating.
It would have been better if the husband got separated at least, before taking the infidelity highway. Just look like the man went for the easy way out.
The man is as guilty of number 4 as she is. She did not choose the right way to fight. Instead she chose silence and pent up anger resulting in occasional burst of fury. The husband did the same, instead of fighting, he chose keeping to work and cheating.

No tangible lesson learnt here.

DollyParton1:

So you mean the article is teaching that if I do all the things the lady did, my husband will cheat on me. I feel thats a justification for cheating.
It would have been better if the husband got separated at least, before taking the infidelity highway. Just look like the man went for the easy way out.

free your mind and you will understand better. Who justified what the man did now? Show me. Did I? Did the article? And I guess you see nothing wrong in what the woman did that's why you choose to ignore that aspect ehn :-(

SAMBARRY:
ok so please help me explain what miss independent has to do with the thread

she's independent now na. Freed from the shackles of her cheating husband

Owliver:
she's independent now na. Freed from the shackles of her cheating husband

of course so what's up with the winning. Proverbs 20 verses 6.reasonable human beings should read it up

As if those even slaving and perpetually kissing his arse are not even beating like cows. Shewww

DollyParton1:

So you mean the article is teaching that if I do all the things the lady did, my husband will cheat on me. I feel thats a justification for cheating.
It would have been better if the husband got separated at least, before taking the infidelity highway. Just look like the man went for the easy way out.
The man is as guilty of number 4 as she is. She did not chose the right way to fight. Instead she chose silence and pent up anger resulting in occasional burst of fury. The husband did the same, instead of fighting, he chose keeping to work and cheating.

No tangible lesson learnt here.

SAMBARRY:
of course so what's up with the winning. Proverbs 20 verses 6.reasonable human beings should read it up

lol ok

dinachi:
Dont waste your time on these old hags and rotten puccies, they will never get it! Their heads are so stuck up their ass the only thing they understand is bullshit. You have a clear case of a dirty, nagging, abusive wife who drove her husband into the hands of another woman owning up to her foolery and these hags here still don't get it. No wonder they stink too much
Many of them with these silly ideas about relationship will never ever marry and remain single for the rest of their lives!

I think both the man and woman were wrong but I don't like how the ladies hammer on the man and forget what lead to that. Its so unwise when someone ignores problem A and interrogate problem B that's so lame. That's like solving the outcome of a problem and ignoring what lead to the outcome. They are just so unintelligent rili

SAMBARRY:
As if those even slaving and perpetually kissing his arse are not even beating like cows. Shewww

I have read this article over and over again. Yet to understand the morale of it.

DollyParton1:


I have read this article over and over again. Yet to understand the morale of it.

not every thread are written by wise people. He's just looking for entourage

Owliver:
I think both the man and woman were wrong but I don't like how the ladies hammer on the man and forget what lead to that. Its so unwise when someone ignores problem A and interrogate problem B that's so lame. That's like solving the outcome of a problem and ignoring what lead to the outcome. They are just so unintelligent rili

They are both wrong yea.
The woman killed her marriage same way the man killed his marriage. It seems everyone is saying the woman's action led the man to go find himself some outside.
That is what I disagree with. If you are not happy in your marriage/relationship, leave the marriage first, either by separation or divorce, before going out to cheat. That is my opinion.

babygirlfl:
There is nothing wrong with the write-up. The problem is the op who put some part of the write up in bold in an attempt to make it what it is not and blame it on the modern woman even when most of what the woman said led to the breakdown of her marriage is championed by those who want the old ways to stay.

@op,



Ignore him and face your children sounds to me like putting the children first.

When you marry him, you marry his family and they can come and visit when they want does not sound to me like a home where parents/Inlaw have boundaries. I can even add that slapping your partner in his/her house as not having boundaries.

Don't talk back at him. Learn to keep shut sounds like that's what the op does.

Honestly ask yourself if it's the modern woman that gives these kind of advice because every time I have heard it , it's been from those women and men who champion how women in the olden days lived.


In your fast attempt to teach the modern woman a lesson, you have ended up telling us that we are right and if anybody is to change, it's those who love the way women of old lived.

Her point about emasculating him proves that any woman can be rude and bad whether modern or not.

@bold: Perfect.

There was a similar thread on a woman always wanting her way and emasculated the hubby in the process.

Luckily, no reference to modern/ancient woman and we all learnt from the thread.

I am still trying to understand what modernity and empowerment has to do with the OP.

DollyParton1:

They are both wrong yea.
The woman killed her marriage same way the man killed his marriage. It seems everyone is saying the woman's action led the man to go find himself some outside.
That is what I disagree with. If you are not happy in your marriage/relationship, leave the marriage first, either by separation or divorce, before going out to cheat. That is my opinion.

so your point is "what the woman did should not have been capable of making the husband a cheat" why would you even imagine that? People are wired differently my dear and people react differently to situations. Yopu are not even a male and this is what you argue. Abeg park well jare smh.

Owliver:
so your point is "what the woman did should not have been capable of making the husband a cheat" why would you even imagine that? People are wired differently my dear and people react differently to situations. Yopu are not even a male and this is what you argue. Abeg park well jare smh.

Mr fragile ego


I know that it's not you that is talking. It's your ego

SAMBARRY:
Mr fragile ego


I know that it's not you that is talking. It's your ego

funny how you interprets things. Am not surprised you are not a male after all.

Owliver:
funny how you interprets things. Am not surprised you are not a male after all.

Owliver:
so your point is "what the woman did should not have been capable of making the husband a cheat" why would you even imagine that? People are wired differently my dear and people react differently to situations. Yopu are not even a male and this is what you argue. Abeg park well jare smh.

The fuckery do u mean by the bolded parts? I am not a male, sambarry is not a male. How did that get into the issue being discussed?

Yes the wife behaviour is enough for him to go find someone else outside. I am of the school of thought that says "once you are unhappy in a relationship, you should leave irrespective of your gender". Your happiness should be your utmost priority. So that guy should have left her or divorce her. Whatever he could have done to make the woman know that he could no no longer stand her attitude and that the marriage is over. Instead of staying in the marriage while cheating. Only cowards do that.

Owliver:
funny how you interprets things. Am not surprised you are not a male after all.

lord have mercy and what does my not having a tail got to do with the issue

Exactly

DollyParton1:


The fuckery do u mean by the bolded parts? I am not a male, sambarry is not a male. How did that get into the issue being discussed?

Yes the wife behaviour is enough for him to go find someone else outside. I am of the school of thought that says "once you are unhappy in a relationship, you should leave irrespective of your gender". Your happiness should be your utmost priority. So that guy should have left her or divorce her. Whatever he could have done to make the woman know that he could no no longer stand her attitude and that the marriage is over. Instead of staying in the marriage while cheating. Only cowards do that.

DollyParton1:


The fuckery do u mean by the bolded parts? I am not a male, sambarry is not a male. How did that get into the issue being discussed?

Yes the wife behaviour is enough for him to go find someone else outside. I am of the school of thought that says "once you are unhappy in a relationship, you should leave irrespective of your gender". Your happiness should be your utmost priority. So that guy should have left her or divorce her. Whatever he could have done to make the woman know that he could no no longer stand her attitude and that the marriage is over. Instead of staying in the marriage while cheating. Only cowards do that.

lol* OK

SAMBARRY:
lord have mercy and what does my not having a tail got to do with the issue

it does. You and your likes reason with emotions attached which is bad. I have nothing else to say anymore.

Bitch got what she deserved! Next.......

funlord:

Bitch got what she deserved! Next.......

now run along and don't forget to padlock your tail

Owliver:
it does. You and your likes reason with emotions attached which is bad. I have nothing else to say anymore.

of course you won't have anything reasonable to say before

It is a pity that the purpose of the write-up has been defeated by the so called modern women and some ass-licking guys. Most women will never learn, even when their remorsefully experienced and repentant folks are screaming advice at them. And from contextual deduction, it is plain that cheating did not come first. It was his final attempt to salvage his life and end the relationship with that gruelsome biitch. Everyone has a point of no return. you can ask a diick about to cum.