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Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Jack7777: 1:43am On Jun 16, 2015 |
Then i felt like shooting my mum. . . Mine was worse. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by KanwuliaJara: 1:43am On Jun 16, 2015 |
When she dies, you can always adopt another mom abi? 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by guente02(m): 1:54am On Jun 16, 2015 |
Jack7777:Could you share? |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by guente02(m): 1:54am On Jun 16, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:Nope. And I'm not wishing her death. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by KanwuliaJara: 1:59am On Jun 16, 2015 |
guente02: After hate, na to wish death next abi? Small-small na journey! 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by guente02(m): 2:01am On Jun 16, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:Your points are? 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Nobody: 6:30am On Jun 16, 2015 |
emmyagi: Kindly keep quiet there. I guess you haven't seen mothers putting pepper in their children's private, beating them with knives and planks, making them sit on stoves , slicing their hand with knife and roasting it etc.. all in the name of "discipline" Some mothers are evil and that's a fact of life... Anyone can lay on their back, get knocked up and pop a kid out. It takes a virtuous woman to train a child with love. Unfortunately we don't have a lot of women like that anymore. @ OP.. u gotta man up, your mates are graduates, chasing careers etc... Learn to stand up for yourself and do what men do. She can't be locking you in the house and you just sit there like a toddler with no mouth to talk. Act like a man and take charge of your life. That's your key to freedom. 8 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Nobody: 6:38am On Jun 16, 2015 |
guente02: I'm sorry your mother did this. How irresponsible of her. .. I'm sorry o but there's a thin line between being protective and just plain spiteful Is your dad still around? Loneliness might be the cause of her erratic behaviour. I don't mean to be disrespectful to your mama but dammn! 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Nobody: 6:42am On Jun 16, 2015 |
misssclassy: Word! misssclassy I couldn't agree more with all you've said on this thread.. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by TheSuperNerd(m): 6:45am On Jun 16, 2015 |
Wow! Well said Miss Begonia... Now that's wisdom talking... *smiles* Begonia: 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by mutter(f): 10:15am On Jun 16, 2015 |
Most children that stay are still at home at that age feel just like you do. It is difficult for parents to let go and it is also difficult for children to abide by laws. You are at an age where you feel you know it all better and that your mum is outdated. But some things never change. This kind of pressure can motivate you positively to get independent fast and move out.. Don`t be too hard on your mum, she really cares and loves you. She just is so scared of you making mistakes and wants to protect you from the wicked world out there. There are so many things my dad told me at that age, that I never believed or found absolutely weird or ridiculous. Today I know better. Finally no one ever gets freedom offered on a plate. Mostly you have to fight for it. So you need to free yourself. At your age and more so as a man, you have to learn to give your mother her boundaries. It is because you have not done that, that she still treats you like a child. Don`t be rude but let her know with respect those decisions you now take by yourself. You see this is also absolutely okay in every culture and under ever law. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by funlord(m): 11:35am On Jun 16, 2015 |
Abeg "killer op", why are you still in your mothers house? If you want 2 be truly independent in order 2 make the kind of choices u want 2 make then move out and be a man! Alternatively u can sit your ass under her roof and commit murder! Let us know how that option works out 4 u later! I wonder what choice u would have had if she had also decided 2 "murder u" when u were still a foetus growing in her belly! 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Nobody: 11:48am On Jun 16, 2015 |
hotice01: How old are you ? If you have a great mother it doesn't mean every other person does , I'm in my late 30's and I don't feel so much different from the poster. We may not have the same experience with our parents but a lot of parents get it wrong nowadays , agreed that my parents ( father and mother ) may not have bossed me around but they took some very vital decisions which has affected me negatively till this very day and I still struggle with career and finances. Not everyone has/had it good , even in affluence some parents still get it wrong. Try to empathize with the poster. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by fhunn: 12:24pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
One thinq the op needs to know is that you cant stay under someonew roof and even expect 40% responsibility to be on you.....like my 'mother' (dont need insuts on top her matter oo) used to tell me...if the circumstances in her house isnt suitable for you, you leave to your house you have built (or not built), where you can have 100% responsibility but as lonq as you are under her roof you abide by her rules.....no two ways... 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by fhunn: 12:43pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Some people here dey complain say dem no dey allow dem dey outside after 7 o'clock..... When for my side by 4pm/5pm, we don dey siqn attendance for house.....and na till next morninq be that.... 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Nobody: 12:59pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Some people done born finish at your age, you dey here dey misyarn. At 23/24, you should know better than to let your over-protective mom ruin your mood. Even if you were out caning a chick, so bloody what? You definitely are old enough. However, being a big boy is not by HND or age, bruv. Like Mutter said, make your moves towards independence now; learn a skill or trade in your spare time, probably after lectures and weekends. The mere introduction of that routine will buy you tremendous respect and leeway, plus you don't really want to be a trial-and-error applicant after NYSC. For now too, when you do come back late and she begins her sessions, just laugh move closer to her, kiss her and go to your room. Cikena. Go to her in her more approachable moments and state your case in a mild-harsh manner. She'll begin to concede space gradually. There's really no reason to be mad at her, she simply wants the best for you and is smothering you. Let her know you need to breathe. Good leck. 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Nobody: 1:35pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Dude Just two words for you..... Seek Jesus 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by fpeter(f): 1:36pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Call a meeting with your father in attendance and speak your mind. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by NEROSKY(m): 1:43pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
hotice01: you're stupi.d for the bolded... well ur experience is different, i hate my own mum, left the house 4 her, but i can't still say she didn't contribute anytin 2 my life |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by williams368(m): 1:44pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
She is fraustrated. She needs a dick. |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by aitazaz(m): 1:45pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
guente02:dear! you are absolutely right but if you can treat her with her mind set then she will be good with you...... its a key to success, ( Treat her with her mind set) |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by zicoraads: 1:47pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
I believe missclasssy has done justice to the thread. Lovely comments missclasssy...really lovely! 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by fanex: 1:48pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
some people are just pure wicked... hotice01: 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by zicoraads: 1:49pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
abrahimzy:The joke is on you Scammer! 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Nobody: 1:50pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Bro, i understand how you feel. I don't know (but i suspect) your dad may be far away from you guys or no more (forgive me if i am wrong). The thing here is that your mother is playing her protective role. She does not want you to be misled and influenced negatively by peer pressure. It's a wild wild world we are living in. Look around you bro... alot of negative and bad things are happening today. Do anything possible to obey her rules or laws as you put it. Remember she is your mum and she knows what is best for you. You might not get to realize this now, but by the time you grow older (whether you keep to her admonitions or not), you would get to realize that it was all for your own good and will thank her for that someday. I heard of a convicted criminal who was about to be executed whose last words were words of regret that if only he had listened to his mother, he wouldn't be dying on that day. Definitely, one day you will move out and live on your own where she will not be around to "boss" you anymore but the role she played in disciplining you will act as a positive guideline to your life as an adult. #ILoveMyMum. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Omotayor123(f): 1:52pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Op I'm sure your mum have her reasons.. mums knows best you know... Seriously, let her know you are not comfortable with her over protective attitude. And give her reasons to trust you are really good. Plus..... Are you going to school from home And are you her only child or only son 1 Like |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by aitazaz(m): 1:53pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
guente02:listen don`t take an effect on yourself of her saying just be relax because you have to give good exam tomorrow and listen she give you a birth from her tummy and you would have her value after he gone... she is not asking a bad things about your self she only wants to save you from bad environment and wants to make you a good person...... see result in end.... and if you thing she is doing wrong with you then tell her what you are thinking about her and treat her with her mind set as i ask you before |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by encryptjay(m): 1:59pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
Introvert Runs off |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by vislabraye(m): 2:01pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
guente02: I really can't understand why she acts that way, judging from what you said. There are usually 2 sides to a story. It would have been better to know why your mother acts this way. But the best thing to do is to talk with her. You never mentioned your father. Is he also around ?Your father's intervention can make a huge difference. You can talk to him about your challenges. If not for the situation of things, at a certain age, adults should not be with their parents. I would have advised you to live by yourself but as it is now, that's not possible. You have to cope with her. Parents are not perfect too. |
Re: I'm Beginning To Hate My Mom by Spells(m): 2:02pm On Jun 16, 2015 |
She loves u that's y, if many have had this particular guide that is been given to u on a plata of gold nigeria would have been a better place... When u no more stay with her u'll know da diff. Be grateful dude... |
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