It’s time to have a frank discussion about lying and
deceit. I see a lot of fears floating around in the the
dating world and it can be disheartening.
In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even
start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need
to come from a place of strength, confidence, and
fulfillment.
Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch),
it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt,
worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel
overwhelmed by the whole ordeal.
And what happens? Your fears and worries compel you
to confirm whether they’re real or imaginary. You stop
enjoying the relationship for what it is and start craving
validation and confirmation that it’s “the real deal.”
And there’s only one thing that manifests from that
place… neediness.
These days, people are quick to throw the concept of
neediness around without actually looking at what it is.
I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the
term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women
as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to
men (and stress them out).
Nothing could be further from the truth. I think women
bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in
relationships… when they have access to it and are free
of their own fears.
Men and women have fears. Those fears are greater
now more than ever really since there’s an entire
industry devoted to making sure men and women are
wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing
in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter
of the marketing world).
A major fear is being lied to deceived which brings me
to the main question of this article: Why do men lie?
Here are a few potential reasons:

1. They don’t want to hurt your feelings. And if you’ve
shown yourself to be a girl who gets upset and
dramatic when he tells you the truth, you’re essentially
training him to say what you want to hear to keep the
peace. At best, it’s sugarcoating or avoiding a volatile
subject. At worst, it’s a straight up lie to avoid drama
and waterworks.Weak? Cowardly? Sure, but men live in
the mindset of wins and losses, victories and defeats.
What’s the upside to being honest if it simply leads to a
more difficult life with no perceived upside. Which
brings me to the next point…

2. They don’t want the drama.
Like I was saying, if not telling the truth is harmless enough and being honest
will just cause drama, heartache and grief for both
parties, why would a man want to do it? I’m not
advocating the behavior and I hold honesty as a high
virtue for myself, but part of looking at this requires us
to be honest about human nature: Humans (men and
women) want to make life easier for ourselves, not
harder. And that’s not the case if there’s…
No perceived upside. If you want the truth and honesty,
find a way to reward that behavior, not punish it by
putting him through hell.

3. They want to impress you and/or they don’t feel like
“enough” without lying or putting up a front.
From one angle, you could almost look at this one as a
compliment: the guy is trying to impress you because he
doesn’t feel “good enough” to get you on his own. It’s
not a compliment though – it’s not only insecure
behavior, but it also doesn’t allow for a real foundation
to be built for a relationship. For a guy to be honest
with you, he has to be secure enough in himself to
know that you’ll still want him if he’s “real” with you.
OK, now I want to step back because I can imagine that
my points may have enraged certain readers, who are
ready to comment with things like, “Why should we have
to reward his dumb ass for not lying?” And “why
shouldn’t we put him through hell if the truth is that
he’s an jerk?”
Easy there – let me put it to you like this.
First, this isn’t a male-female thing. I’m talking about
human nature – no one gender is more or less
habitually a “liar”.
You know all sorts of women who lie to their female
friends on occasion… you may or may not have done it
yourself

To be given a break I think

wenson:
It’s time to have a frank discussion about lying and
deceit. I see a lot of fears floating around in the the
dating world and it can be disheartening.
In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even
start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need
to come from a place of strength, confidence, and
fulfillment.
Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch),
it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt,
worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel
overwhelmed by the whole ordeal.
And what happens? Your fears and worries compel you
to confirm whether they’re real or imaginary. You stop
enjoying the relationship for what it is and start craving
validation and confirmation that it’s “the real deal.”
And there’s only one thing that manifests from that
place… neediness.
These days, people are quick to throw the concept of
neediness around without actually looking at what it is.
I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the
term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women
as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to
men (and stress them out).
Nothing could be further from the truth. I think women
bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in
relationships… when they have access to it and are free
of their own fears.
Men and women have fears. Those fears are greater
now more than ever really since there’s an entire
industry devoted to making sure men and women are
wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing
in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter
of the marketing world).
A major fear is being lied to deceived which brings me
to the main question of this article: Why do men lie?
Here are a few potential reasons:

1. They don’t want to hurt your feelings. And if you’ve
shown yourself to be a girl who gets upset and
dramatic when he tells you the truth, you’re essentially
training him to say what you want to hear to keep the
peace. At best, it’s sugarcoating or avoiding a volatile
subject. At worst, it’s a straight up lie to avoid drama
and waterworks.Weak? Cowardly? Sure, but men live in
the mindset of wins and losses, victories and defeats.
What’s the upside to being honest if it simply leads to a
more difficult life with no perceived upside. Which
brings me to the next point…

2. They don’t want the drama.
Like I was saying, if not telling the truth is harmless enough and being honest
will just cause drama, heartache and grief for both
parties, why would a man want to do it? I’m not
advocating the behavior and I hold honesty as a high
virtue for myself, but part of looking at this requires us
to be honest about human nature: Humans (men and
women) want to make life easier for ourselves, not
harder. And that’s not the case if there’s…
No perceived upside. If you want the truth and honesty,
find a way to reward that behavior, not punish it by
putting him through hell.

3. They want to impress you and/or they don’t feel like
“enough” without lying or putting up a front.
From one angle, you could almost look at this one as a
compliment: the guy is trying to impress you because he
doesn’t feel “good enough” to get you on his own. It’s
not a compliment though – it’s not only insecure
behavior, but it also doesn’t allow for a real foundation
to be built for a relationship. For a guy to be honest
with you, he has to be secure enough in himself to
know that you’ll still want him if he’s “real” with you.
OK, now I want to step back because I can imagine that
my points may have enraged certain readers, who are
ready to comment with things like, “Why should we have
to reward his dumb ass for not lying?” And “why
shouldn’t we put him through hell if the truth is that
he’s an jerk?”
Easy there – let me put it to you like this.
First, this isn’t a male-female thing. I’m talking about
human nature – no one gender is more or less
habitually a “liar”.
You know all sorts of women who lie to their female
friends on occasion… you may or may not have done it
yourself

Hey, you forgot to include your link.

http://www.anewmode.com/tag/how-to-know-if-a-man-is-lying/

misssclassy:


Hey, you forgot to include your link.

http://www.anewmode.com/tag/how-to-know-if-a-man-is-lying/

Why u quote the whole post na

misssclassy:


Hey, you forgot to include your link.

http://www.anewmode.com/tag/how-to-know-if-a-man-is-lying/

Bad lady, why did you open his yaash like that

OK..

Ah hearsay I read am Finish

The world itself is a scam ,tell us something new in July .

M

Hmmmmmmm