More often than not, people continue to stay in a relationship for months after it has actually 'ended'. Love is irrational and people are afraid of change. A bad relationship that hurts you and inhibits you needs to end before a good one can begin. And from personal experience, there ARE amazing people who are worth being in a relationship with. So why be mistreated and abused in a bad relationship?

1. Identify that he/she is emotionally ABUSIVE: He/she insults you (and not jokingly!). If he/she makes you feel bad about yourself, makes you feel worthless, annihilates your self esteem, that is a very bad relationship to be in.

2. Identify that he/she never wants to listen to your problems: Forgive them if they're just a little distracted, but if they say things like 'that's really stupid of you' when you tell them you're feeling insecure about your looks


3. Identify that he/she will ignore you for days on end because of a disagreement or because he/she doesn't get their way!

4. Identify that he/she is constantly flirting with other people: It is a PROBLEM if he/she is giving their number away, telling others they are single, etc. This is something you also need to discuss with your partner if it happens. Your partner should respect you if you tell them you feel uncomfortable when they flirt with others.


5. Identify that he/she is cheating.

6. Identify that he/she is physically ABUSIVE: The moment someone is abusive, you HAVE to leave them. It doesn't mean you stop caring about them. Leave the relationship so you don't put yourself in danger. Discuss it with them because violent people have deep seated problems. You should encourage them to get help for it.

7. Discuss those issues with your partner: anything that has popped up on your bothering list, talk to your partner about them as soon as possible. It will help you hear their side of the story. Once you know the full scope of the situation, you will know whether it is a problem that is resolvable or just a misunderstanding you can both laugh about later. Sometimes raising the issue will make the decision for both of you. Ask him/her what innate reason he/she has for flirting and giving their number away to strangers all the time, you may both decide he/she needs to move on because he/she can't settle down. And that will help you realize you were in a terrible relationship because your partner wasn't treating you with the respect and feelings you deserve! It is an indication that SOMEONE ELSE is out there for you.

8. If YOU are the one mistreating your partner in those ways: also TALK to your partner, apologize, find out WHY you are doing this and if it's possibly because you just don't love/like your partner any more. Often, people mistreat their partners because they don't love their partners any more but don't know how to end the relationship. That causes pain for everyone. If you know you're doing exactly that because you don't love them anymore - it has come to an end.

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