Everyone knows that long-distance relationships are hard work, but here is something you may not know:

being in a long-distance relationship—at least for a season—can actually be good for you.

Here are 10 great benefits that can come with long-distance love.A

1. You get to know each other very well

When you’re in a long-distance relationship, you have nothing to build your relationship with but words. Recent research suggests that long-distance couples talk less frequently than those who live in the same city, but that their interactions tend to be deeper and more meaningful. Talking at this deep level helps you as a couple get to know each other very well. In the process, you also develop communication skills and habits that will help your relationship in the long run.


2. You are less likely to confuse lust with love

Attraction in a long-distance relationship tends to be based primarily on a foundation of emotional intimacy and shared values rather than physical intimacy. Being attracted to someone mostly because of the conversations you have (rather than the sex you share) is not an iron-clad guarantee of long-term relationship success, but it certainly helps.

3. You get to road-test your trust

When you are far away from someone you love, it can be difficult to keep your imagination in check. When your partner is out without you and having fun, it can be easy to second-guess them and let jealousy get a foothold in your mind. Being in a long-distance relationship forces you to recognize and confront some of these types of insecurities. It lets you practice trusting and being trustworthy. The confidence and sense of security that you can gain as a result? Priceless.

4. You learn to communicate and resolve conflict well

In a long-distance relationship you have nothing to do most of the time except talk to each other. In the process, you learn to connect deeply and communicate well. No matter how good you are at communicating, however, you and your partner will experience misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and conflict at some point.
When you’re far apart from each other, it takes even more trust and skill to negotiate these challenges. Couples who learn to address and resolve problems and conflict over distance equip themselves well to deal with future challenges in-person.

5. You really appreciate the time that you do spend together

Seeing each other less frequently helps you fully appreciate the time that you do spend with each other. You learn to savor time together regardless of whether you’re doing something mundane like grocery shopping or living it up at a fancy restaurant. Since feeling grateful is a surefire way to increase your happiness, this sort of appreciation both feels good in the moment and also provides a long-lasting mood boost!


6. You make more memorable moments

When you’re in a long-distance relationship you put more effort into making your time together special—you’re more likely to branch out and stretch to make a moment memorable. Maybe you play tourist in your own town, try a new restaurant, take a trip somewhere romantic, or have a picnic in your own backyard. When you do crazy things or work hard to make a day special, you create moments that carry particular power to shape your memories and flavor your personal story. These vivid memories become important and positive touchstones in your relationship.

7. You practice being patient

We live in a world where many things come fast and easy. We can send a text or an email and get a reply almost instantly. We can grocery shop online and have it delivered. We can buy instant oatmeal, instant noodles, and instant coffee. Just like decent coffee, however, good relationships require some patience.
Long-distance relationships seem custom-designed to teach patience, and patience is a powerful life skill. Patience helps you tolerate minor frustrations without getting stressed. It enables you take a long-term view of situations and problems. It stabilizes you in the face of life’s challenges. And, trust me, if you ever have children, you will need it in spades. When you are being patient in your long-distance relationship you are not just nurturing love, you are developing your character.


8. You have more time to pursue other passions and interests

I wouldn’t advocate being in a long-distance relationship because it frees up your time, but extra free time can be a silver lining to living far apart from your loved one. Don’t spend every spare minute on Skype with your partner. Instead, use some of your extra time to do things that are fun or fulfilling—read books, work out, do something creative, spend time with other friends. Investing in other passions and relationships isn’t betraying your long-distance lover, it’s making you a more well-rounded, interesting, and happier person.

9. You develop independence

When you’re on your own most of the time you must learn how to tackle most challenges that daily life can throw at you—from getting your car serviced to making dinner or managing finances. When times feel tough, your partner can offer emotional support but won’t be able to sweep in and fix things for you. Like many other aspects of long-distance love, this rarely feels fun in the moment. You will, however, grow in self-sufficiency and independence. This, in turn, will only make you more attractive to your partner.


10. You cement your commitment

There are no two ways about it—long distance relationships are hard work. Settling down for a Skype date on a Friday night when you’d rather be spending some time snuggling can leave you feeling wistful at best and downright depressed at worst.
But here’s the good thing about hard work: the things we have to work for are often the very things most worth having. Many long-distance couples credit their time apart with helping them see just how much they really didwant to be together. Persevering in the face of the distance helped make them even more committed to the relationship.


And after that? Well, if your relationship can survive long distance, it can survive most other things as well. Hopefully, the personal strengths, trust, and communication skills that you develop during your time in a long distance relationship will serve you well as a couple for many years after you have closed the gap.

Source: http://sunloaded.com/relationship-102/you-could-lose-your-husband-to-a-cleaner-woman-unless-you-follow-these-steps/

Yea

Nicely written. Although freedom was omitted.

An insightful and interesting write up...

Very nice, and on point about LDR...

Especially that number 5

Nice one op..

Also add, you get ready and capable of being single anytime!

chymystique:
Very apt and making sense write-up on the positive side of LDR, machidoh. Being a while I read something meaningful on romanceland..

Endorsed for frontpage; lalasticlala ishilove

Thanks

Long distance relationship is not a bed of rose and its harder than you think cos it require massive trust from both sides .

Nice one op...

anyway, Long distance relationship is not for the weak hearted people..it takes a lot of courage 2 venture Into it. you can only be at easy a little when Both parties are investing in d relationship, Cos If It becomes a one sided thing hmm

make i no Just talk again...



Incase sha.

All these points are defeated by lack of constant _sex which could easily lead to cheating. So it's not worth it

Op modify and add
11. Freedom of porting anything with skirts without being called a cheat


Xavierblue

i think the disadvantages re more... its kinda very risky

Long distance relationships are okay,but I'd never advice anyone to go into it.

What works for A might not work for B. Even with the 'almighty formula', many people still wouldn't solve basic quadratic equations

Godvilla:

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So what do you say about those who end up hitting the rock bottom despite the fact they are in short distance relationship with a chunck of time for constant sex?
Please come up with something else... Sex is not a yardstick for measuring up the indept strenght of a relationship

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Jarizod:
ashy baba

This is the unmistaken case of a pot calling a silver plate black my brother i know what you can do with em ladies na


XavierBlue

At the end of the day...someone cheats.

How can u be married and still have a long distance marriage?
Not sure.

No sir! I was only against what op said as I prefer the opposite of what he said

Godvilla:

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Alas!
U are contradicting urself, you shouldnt have generalize it @ the 1st place.
U just spoke my mind now, i was headed for this direction.
Better pikin

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Lol. You aren't done with your cheat cheat cheat talk. Are you? Morning

ahsekeena:
At the end of the day...someone cheats.


How can u be married and still have a long distance marriage?

Not sure.

Jacksparrow0712:
Lol. You aren't done with your cheat cheat cheat talk. Are you? Morning

Lol. I didn't know I've been talking about it oo.



Lermme calm down.




Morning to u too.

Pls do calm down
That word 'cheat' scares shii outta me

ahsekeena:



Lol. I didn't know I've been talking about it oo.



Lermme calm down.




Morning to u too.

Jacksparrow0712:
Pls do calm down That word 'cheat' scares shii outta me

That's part of life.



Don't be scurred

Good one

That part tho
Anyways what you up to today?

ahsekeena:



That's part of life.




Don't be scurred

I take it you don't understand all I've been typing. So no need for you and me to do this. I'll just pass

Godvilla:

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Still contradicting urself!!!
Why are u against? Thought u said its a 50/50 scenario. It could work for A and break down for B

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