When I was in high school, way back in the ’90s, dating seemed incredibly
difficult.
You had to walk up to a girl and declare your feelings face to face, with a
lingering fear of rejection just waiting to jump into your soul and crush your
hopes and dreams.
Or there was always calling her, but then you had to find a non-creepy way to get
her phone number, then explain who you were to her and her entire family.
There’s no way that situation ever works out in your favor.
The Internet changed everything, but especially dating. Not only could you meet
someone online, even communicating became a breeze thanks to texting,
commenting, swiping and any other form of courtship that requires four seconds
of moving your thumbs in-between YouTube video viewings.
If you’re single, you know exactly what I’m talking about. If you’re married, read
this and then go hug your single friend, then go hug your spouse even harder.
Here are eight of the most annoying dating habits of the 21st century.
1. So, Are We Dating or What?
Here’s a fun game to play: The next time you see a couple in their early to mid-
twenties on a date, ask them if they’re boyfriend and girlfriend.
For some reason, the idea of labeling relationships now gets the same knee-jerk
reaction as yelling a racial slur in the middle of a daycare.
“I mean, we go out several times every week and we aren’t seeing anyone else.
We’ve met each other’s families and he asked my father for permission to marry
me and then bought me a ring and proposed. Of course, I said yes, and we’re
getting married next May, but I think it might be a little soon to start labeling
each other as boyfriend or girlfriend.” your relationship status requires over 12 seconds to explain, you need to go talk
to your dating partner. Or anybody else. Just not me, because I really don’t feel
like trying to figure out what you mean
2. Phones During Dates
First of all, let me say that I am completely guilty of being on my phone at times
when I certainly should not be on my phone. There are times when it’s actually
something important, but way too many times I’m just mindlessly scrolling
through Instagram while the reverend gives his beautiful eulogy.
OK, maybe not that bad, but you get the idea. It’s difficult enough to find
someone you’d actually like to spend an evening with, then a time and place that
works for both of you, but now, thanks to smartphones, you’ve also got to
compete with literally everyone they know in the world.
I’m sure he loved that story you just told and would totally be laughing out loud,
if he weren’t too busy seeing how many likes his last status update got on
Facebook. Forget some big, romantic gesture; the most passionate way you can
show you love someone now is by keeping your phone in your pocket through an
entire meal.
3. FOMO
If you don’t watch Broad City or spend an obscene amount of time on the
Internet, you might not have heard the term “FOMO,” which stands for “fear of
missing out.”
It may sound ridiculous, but we live in a society that determines how great an
event was by how popular the picture of it is on Instagram. I know. It’s gross.
There’s always a constant fear of committing to one set of plans because what if
a better invitation comes along right after you agree to this one?
Not only does it happen in planning your weekend; it also seeps over into dating,
as well. You meet someone and it feels great and you really get along, but what if
you’re missing out on all sorts of adventures and fun because you’re choosing to
be with this person?
Then you have to worry that maybe you’re letting go of “the one” to chase
something that will never live up to what you just had.
Are you stressed out yet? What if in the time you just spent reading this you
missed your soul mate?
The world is crashing down around you.
4. Your Ex Will Haunt You Forever
Twenty years ago, after you broke up with someone, you might, by some chance,
run into him at the mall or at a mutual friend’s party. Now, thanks to social
media, you will see his stupid face every day on some platform for the rest of
your life.
Either she commented on your ex-roommate’s photo, or Facebook decided to
suggest you send him a friend request every day, even though you clearly have no
interest and Facebook is not good at picking up on hints. (You’re already reading
our messages anyway, Zuckerberg; at least do us the favor of screening our exes
out of there.)" There are about a million ways to stress yourself out about not hearing back
from someone. Being a crazy person just became a full-time job".
The Internet made the world a much smaller place, and while that’s great for
keeping up with friends or sending a video of a cat playing a keyboard to all of
your aunts at once, it makes avoiding the faces of those who broke your heart
almost impossible.
The only option to avoid it completely is to give up social media entirely. And
now we’re just saying foolish nonsense. What’s next? Giving up books? The
outdoors? Taco Bell?
5. Making Plans
When your relationship doesn’t have a clear and concise label, trying to make
plans beyond the next time you’ll see each other is like walking through a
minefield. This isn’t anything particularly new, but it is even more difficult now
that casual dating is much more popular than in the past.
Let’s say you’ve been seeing someone for a month and there’s a wedding you’re
attending in five weeks. That’s further out than you’ve even been seeing each
other. But if you wait too late to ask, she might make plans or may not be able to
get the proper attire in time.
Plus, she may look at it as your being very committed to the relationship and feel
a little security. Or she’ll look at it as your pushing things way too quickly and
trying to lock her into a long-term relationship—when you’re not even sure if
that’s something you want right now.
So what do you do?
“Hey, there’s a wedding in a few weeks. It’s not my wedding. We aren’t getting
married and I’m not engaged to anyone else. It’s a wedding I’m attending and I
don’t know if you like attending weddings or would want to attend one with me,
but if you want to come to this one with me as my date, I would like that. If not,
it’s no problem. We may break up before then and hate each other. Did I say
break up? I meant to say, ‘We may not still be casual like we are now.’ We may
be more casual? Less casual? The amount of casualness that we are currently
experiencing may be experienced to a different degree in the future and we
could prepare for that. This was a really bad idea to leave on your voicemail,
wasn’t it?”
6. Not Hearing Back Becomes A Mystery Investigation
Remember when you would call someone and if you didn’t get an answer, you
would leave a message on their machine then stress about it until you heard
back? Well now there are about a million other ways to stress yourself out about
not hearing back from someone.
Let’s say you sent a text at 6 p.m. and it’s now 9 p.m. and you haven’t heard
anything back. It’s probably nothing, right? She’s probably just busy or away
from her phone.
You know what? Just to ease your mind, why don’t you check her Twitter to see if
she’s posted anything since you sent that text? Great, there’s nothing there. And
while you’re at it, you might as well check her Instagram to see if she’s posted a
picture since you texted her. You know, just to make sure there’s not an issue.
Well, not checking her Facebook just seems irresponsible now that you’ve
checked the other ones. Has she sent you a Snapchat? FaceTime? WhatsApp? Kik?
A Vine video, perhaps? A Kickstarter campaign for a new phone that actually
sends and receives texts?
Being a crazy person just became a full-time job. And that’s just the stress if she
didn’t actually update any of her profiles. God forbid she decided to post a tweet
instead of responding to your text about what sort of creature Grimace is from
those McDonald’s commercials.
7. Texting
Texting makes dating and communicating much easier, but it can easily be the
death of a relationship. The problem is that you never have the beginning and an end to a conversation,
because you can just pick up and drop out of texting at any given time.
How many times have you told your boyfriend or girlfriend, “Good night” on the
phone and then kept texting for another hour? It’s just always there—and that’s
not always a good thing.
The worst part, however, is the lack of tone. You can’t hear what the other person
is actually saying, so when you have an argument or disagreement via text, and
if you haven’t LOLed, you will project into their words. “Oh, should I have a great
day? Really? That’s how you want to do this?” Before you know it, two people who
are both trying to work things out have misconstrued each other’s words to the
point that planning a dinner turned into a cage match.
TEXTING MAKES DATING AND COMMUNICATING MUCH EASIER,
BUT IT CAN EASILY BE THE DEATH OF A RELATIONSHIP.
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When I was in high school, way back in the ’90s, dating seemed incredibly
difficult.
You had to walk up to a girl and declare your feelings face to face, with a
lingering fear of rejection just waiting to jump into your soul and crush your
hopes and dreams.
Or there was always calling her, but then you had to find a non-creepy way to get
her phone number, then explain who you were to her and her entire family.
There’s no way that situation ever works out in your favor.
The Internet changed everything, but especially dating. Not only could you meet
someone online, even communicating became a breeze thanks to texting,
commenting, swiping and any other form of courtship that requires four seconds
of moving your thumbs in-between YouTube video viewings.
If you’re single, you know exactly what I’m talking about. If you’re married, read
this and then go hug your single friend, then go hug your spouse even harder.
Here are eight of the most annoying dating habits of the 21st century.
1. So, Are We Dating or What?
Here’s a fun game to play: The next time you see a couple in their early to mid-
twenties on a date, ask them if they’re boyfriend and girlfriend.
For some reason, the idea of labeling relationships now gets the same knee-jerk
reaction as yelling a racial slur in the middle of a daycare.
“I mean, we go out several times every week and we aren’t seeing anyone else.
We’ve met each other’s families and he asked my father for permission to marry
me and then bought me a ring and proposed. Of course, I said yes, and we’re
getting married next May, but I think it might be a little soon to start labeling
each other as boyfriend or girlfriend.”
If
your relationship status requires over 12 seconds to explain, you need to go talk
to your dating partner. Or anybody else. Just not me, because I really don’t feel
like trying to figure out what you mean by “connected free spirits.”
2. Phones During Dates
First of all, let me say that I am completely guilty of being on my phone at times
when I certainly should not be on my phone. There are times when it’s actually
something important, but way too many times I’m just mindlessly scrolling
through Instagram while the reverend gives his beautiful eulogy.
OK, maybe not that bad, but you get the idea. It’s difficult enough to find
someone you’d actually like to spend an evening with, then a time and place that
works for both of you, but now, thanks to smartphones, you’ve also got to
compete with literally everyone they know in the world.
I’m sure he loved that story you just told and would totally be laughing out loud,
if he weren’t too busy seeing how many likes his last status update got on
Facebook. Forget some big, romantic gesture; the most passionate way you can
show you love someone now is by keeping your phone in your pocket through an
entire meal.
3. FOMO
If you don’t watch Broad City or spend an obscene amount of time on the
Internet, you might not have heard the term “FOMO,” which stands for “fear of
missing out.”
It may sound ridiculous, but we live in a society that determines how great an
event was by how popular the picture of it is on Instagram. I know. It’s gross.
There’s always a constant fear of committing to one set of plans because what if
a better invitation comes along right after you agree to this one?
Not only does it happen in planning your weekend; it also seeps over into dating,
as well. You meet someone and it feels great and you really get along, but what if
you’re missing out on all sorts of adventures and fun because you’re choosing to
be with this person?
Then you have to worry that maybe you’re letting go of “the one” to chase
something that will never live up to what you just had.
Are you stressed out yet? What if in the time you just spent reading this you
missed your soul mate?
The world is crashing down around you.
4. Your Ex Will Haunt You Forever
Twenty years ago, after you broke up with someone, you might, by some chance,
run into him at the mall or at a mutual friend’s party. Now, thanks to social
media, you will see his stupid face every day on some platform for the rest of
your life.
Either she commented on your ex-roommate’s photo, or Facebook decided to
suggest you send him a friend request every day, even though you clearly have no
interest and Facebook is not good at picking up on hints. (You’re already reading
our messages anyway, Zuckerberg; at least do us the favor of screening our exes
out of there.)
The Internet made the world a much smaller place, and while that’s great for
keeping up with friends or sending a video of a cat playing a keyboard to all of
your aunts at once, it makes avoiding the faces of those who broke your heart
almost impossible.
The only option to avoid it completely is to give up social media entirely. And
now we’re just saying foolish nonsense. What’s next? Giving up books? The
outdoors? Taco Bell?
5. Making Plans
When your relationship doesn’t have a clear and concise label, trying to make
plans beyond the next time you’ll see each other is like walking through a
minefield. This isn’t anything particularly new, but it is even more difficult now
that casual dating is much more popular than in the past.
Let’s say you’ve been seeing someone for a month and there’s a wedding you’re
attending in five weeks. That’s further out than you’ve even been seeing each
other. But if you wait too late to ask, she might make plans or may not be able to
get the proper attire in time.
Plus, she may look at it as your being very committed to the relationship and feel
a little security. Or she’ll look at it as your pushing things way too quickly and
trying to lock her into a long-term relationship—when you’re not even sure if
that’s something you want right now.
So what do you do?
“Hey, there’s a wedding in a few weeks. It’s not my wedding. We aren’t getting
married and I’m not engaged to anyone else. It’s a wedding I’m attending and I
don’t know if you like attending weddings or would want to attend one with me,
but if you want to come to this one with me as my date, I would like that. If not,
it’s no problem. We may break up before then and hate each other. Did I say
break up? I meant to say, ‘We may not still be casual like we are now.’ We may
be more casual? Less casual? The amount of casualness that we are currently
experiencing may be experienced to a different degree in the future and we
could prepare for that. This was a really bad idea to leave on your voicemail,
wasn’t it?”
6. Not Hearing Back Becomes A Mystery Investigation
Remember when you would call someone and if you didn’t get an answer, you
would leave a message on their machine then stress about it until you heard
back? Well now there are about a million other ways to stress yourself out about
not hearing back from someone.
Let’s say you sent a text at 6 p.m. and it’s now 9 p.m. and you haven’t heard
anything back. It’s probably nothing, right? She’s probably just busy or away
from her phone.
You know what? Just to ease your mind, why don’t you check her Twitter to see if
she’s posted anything since you sent that text? Great, there’s nothing there. And
while you’re at it, you might as well check her Instagram to see if she’s posted a
picture since you texted her. You know, just to make sure there’s not an issue.
Well, not checking her Facebook just seems irresponsible now that you’ve
checked the other ones. Has she sent you a Snapchat? FaceTime? WhatsApp? Kik?
A Vine video, perhaps? A Kickstarter campaign for a new phone that actually
sends and receives texts?
Being a crazy person just became a full-time job. And that’s just the stress if she
didn’t actually update any of her profiles. God forbid she decided to post a tweet
instead of responding to your text about what sort of creature Grimace is from
those McDonald’s commercials.
7. Texting
Texting makes dating and communicating much easier, but it can easily be the
death of a relationship.
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The problem is that you never have the beginning and an end to a conversation,
because you can just pick up and drop out of texting at any given time.
How many times have you told your boyfriend or girlfriend, “Good night” on the
phone and then kept texting for another hour? It’s just always there—and that’s
not always a good thing.
The worst part, however, is the lack of tone. You can’t hear what the other person
is actually saying, so when you have an argument or disagreement via text, and
if you haven’t LOLed, you will project into their words. “Oh, should I have a great
day? Really? That’s how you want to do this?” Before you know it, two people who
are both trying to work things out have misconstrued each other’s words to the
point that planning a dinner turned into a cage match.
Obviously, I’m not going to tell you to avoid texting in relationships because
that’s never going to happen. However, you have to make time for phone calls or
FaceTime calls when you’re not around each other, or it becomes easy to
disconnect from your partner. You need to say a little more than just a string of
smiley faces with heart-eyed emojis.
8. Classic Romantic Gestures Are In a Recession
By no means am I saying classic romantic gestures like flowers, cards or little
presents are dead, but they certainly seem to be in a very cold and dark place.
With everything being communicated in a digital manner now, the most
romantic expression some guys can muster up is making his girlfriend his
#WomanCrushWednesday on Instagram.
It doesn’t even have to be an extravagant gift to be special. When was the last
time you gave or received a hand-written letter? There’s no cost involved, so
that’s not an excuse. Hands are free. Putting your new love interest in your
Facebook profile picture is nice, but we all know how easy it is to crop someone
out of those later.
Everything is convenient now and, sadly, that same mentality has crossed over
into relationships. It’s not bad to put a little effort into something. We have to
break the mentality of avoiding anything that’s difficult, because it’s probably
bad for us. Dating may have its good and bad sides, but when you find the right
one, all those annoying habits you had to fight through won’t seem like that big of
a deal at all.

Like you want us to read that? Mtcheeeeeeeew

which lecturer be this?

posters bellow me, if u r not lazy like d posters above me nd u r able to read d novel up there, i wldnt mind a summary... Kilode? Am i reading for an examination?

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An in ehnn............ I tire for the guy.

I love reading articles no matter how long they are, but this, this is a f**king novel.
In summary, Mobile gadgets and the internet has made dating less enjoyable and adventurous...... Bye

Chill fellas i jst finished reading it. it's quite interesting

U expect me to read all that?..pls go nd learn summary

Tell me the very important points only.

Cutehector abeg break it down for me in two words

Cant read al dat

kokoA:
Tell me the very important points only.

Chai no space. No bold. No paragraph
Just a mess .. Nice write up OP

LadyBoss1:
Chai no space. No bold. No paragraph Just a mess .. Nice write up OP

is that a compliment.

LadyBoss1:
Cutehector abeg break it down for me in two words

Cant read al dat

dah shittt was damn too long mehn

Cutehector:
dah shittt was damn too long mehn

Lol

chibwike:
is that a compliment.

Lol dunno self ..
Advice n compliment i guess .. U know its not good to knock ppl down
So its like constructive criticism