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Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by GHoJes: 4:50pm On Jul 26, 2015 |
TheSonOfMark:Dem say na mumu na dey first rush call another person mumu. The OP ended by saying his wife eyes will clear when he meets a "calabar" girl but later edited it. Thank God i keep losing men to myself. |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by GHoJes: 5:01pm On Jul 26, 2015 |
Odidire:I hope you will also recount this to whom concerned as "narrated" here. Dont forget to ask the man for a name of a man who would give his wife conditions to choose from because she faulted a second time with his cooking instruction and would not eat until the wife chooses by force (i know you got this even if you edition makes another not to understand). |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by Kimoni: 9:17pm On Jul 26, 2015 |
"My money is my money, his money is our money", I keep seeing this my mantra everywhere why is it vexing these ones like this? on top my magic formula , abeg, if it's giving you a headache, hit the darn head against a wall. OP, good you have edited the tribal thing out of ya post cuz I don't see where the hasty generalization is coming from. Didn't read the original story but I'm going to agree with all the holes picked in ur first story. You already have a pre-conceived direction for this thread, you just weren't smart about it. |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by Chillis: 9:32pm On Jul 26, 2015 |
Odidire: F00lish man with F00lish story. you pay for drivers, housegirls , washer men and you still wash your own plate. You get all these people for payroll you couldnt even get a washing machine or your employee can't do these ones. all these Yeye bloggers sef. thankgod sef I no finish the Yeye story 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by TooNoisy(f): 10:39pm On Jul 26, 2015 |
Chillis: I read it halfway and realised it was just a poorly written script. He starts by saying his wife prepared a meal for him 5 days ago and then another meal a day later which was 4 days ago. Then he ends saying he has been preparing his own means for the past one week. What a joke. OP, you need more edits, the story still doesn't add up! 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by vague: 12:25am On Jul 27, 2015 |
Odidire: Have you ever considered alternatives as opposed to just going straight to blame everything on feminism? Have you ever suggested that since she works and she might come back home tired, she could cook different stews over the weekend? Freeze the food, heat it up and season it just before dinner. Im not trying to create a man vs woman argument, but sometimes i think some people are inconsiderate. She might be earning half your salary but it doesn't mean she is not working hard to the extent that she will get home tired too. Instead of playing the blame game don't you think its wiser to look for a solution instead? You can always tell the nanny straight up not to prepare any meals for you because you are not comfortable with it. Tell your wife firmly that you expect your wishes to be respected. Let's be honest if a guy really wants to cheat not even a submissive superwoman can stop him from it. You should be looking for solutions to your problems not loopholes to use to your advantage. How would you feel if you found out that your wife has been having thoughts of sleeping with other men because you are not always there to sleep next to her every night? Do you think it would be fair for her to justifying cheating because of that? You nature of work doesn't necessarily make you the ideal husband because you are away half of the time. You should be working on solutions not emphasizing on the problem if you have intentions of keeping a happy marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by vague: 12:35am On Jul 27, 2015 |
vfactor:can you also say the wife is half married because she has to live with konji for the 2weeks he is away? Lets not be inconsiderate. Marriage is all about sacrificing ans compromising. There are so many solutions to this problem. 1. The wife could get a less demanding job so she can always get enough time to get home and cook. 2. She can prepare the stews for the week over the weekend. That way when she gets home she wont have much to do, she will be able to prepare meals for her husband just the way he likes it. 3. They can hire a male chef/cook which his wife will be responsible for paying since he already handles all the other bills and her money doesn't do much. That way he will not have anyone give him imaginary sexy looks. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by Nobody: 12:43am On Jul 27, 2015 |
vague: So are u answering my question or u re providing solutions to their problem?? I wanted the lady who blamed the husband for being insatiable to explain what she meant. And she hasn't answered And about sex? Your point doesn't really hold water! There is not proof that the women who's husband are with them week in, week out have sex with their husbands every week. I say this bearing in mind they've been married for 4yrs and she's a banker! Your advice is good advice though! |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by vague: 12:43am On Jul 27, 2015 |
delishpot:maybe im lost but please explain to me how cooking for someone may justify a sexual relationship with another person?When his mother cooked for him everyday i highly doubt he had sexual fantasies of her because of that. If a person simply wants to cheat they will do so, i don't understand why people always think its logical to use non-related issues to justify it. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by 2good(m): 6:17am On Jul 27, 2015 |
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Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by delishpot: 8:31am On Jul 27, 2015 |
vague: Not about cooking. From what he wrote, it seems the maid has more contact with him and cares for his needs more than his wife. Believe me those things can stimulate some feelings in people be it male or female. When your parents do it still stimulates love but a different kind of love when a non relation does it, it stimulates that tender feeling and that can lead to ........ If you take time to go through my old pists, you will see that even you have not fought for women half as much as I have done here. So believe me, I know shit when I see one and this wife is being shitty. yes a cheat will always cheat but a faithful spouse denied affection and TLC is groomed to consider cheating if the person doesnt like the stress divorce will bring or downright divorce. |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by troy20(m): 9:03am On Jul 27, 2015 |
2good:its a growing trend in the west.i guess men are waking up.you read up stuffs like this and you wonder why you shouldnt save yourself all the troubles.and look up the comments by some of the silly hot headed women here. |
Re: Nigerian Ladies And The Push For Feminism by Nobody: 9:17am On Jul 27, 2015 |
OP has been contemplating screwing his nanny for X amount of time. He's in the 'rationalization' stage of things, and has come here to quiet his conscience and seek further 'validation' for his actions. Nothing you say matters unless it supports what he's already decided to do, so don't bother wasting your breathe. Yh, don't forget to update us, OP. Sigh. 3 Likes |
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