Welcome to the world of MEN!!!

Truth is, Sex stands as number one or number two desire in the world of men. I think it will always be a mystery to women why sex is thus a major priority to guys. Heck, even some of 'we' guys mellow in this mystery!

Case in point, look @ how guys responds to sex on NL or any other social media. Or look @ the level of rape registered world-wide. Better still, observe the statistics on the percentage (online) of guys' visit to porn sites. It is way-way off the chain.

I guess my point is clear. Sex will ALWAYS be the baseline for most guys relationship, no matter how sincere or 'humble' they seem..,

Except.., except when true love is concerned.

Yeah, underline that word 'True'.

I can 100% state for a fact that if a guy truly loves u, he will find a way to suppress his sex need. Most of us will even be mysteriously be 'free' of this need (wallahi!). I can't explain why, but it is always so. I guess, luv has a way of just eclipsing infatuation or lust.

One thing is obviously true, ladies determines the state of the relationship in the department of sex.


Now, if you're a lady, observe vividly the following;

1. Most relationships ALMOST always faces sex challenges. So, you'll just have to deal with it.
2. A relationship is NOT built on sex, does NOT need sex to survive and should NOT be sex driven. If any of
this exists, then u're in the wrong one.
3. The lady holds the ace on sex. So the ball is ALWAYS in her court, no matter how a guy seem to form 'dictatorship' or control. The day u permit the guy to take control, he uses u constantly for sex till he finds someone else.
4. A lady is relevant (precious, as some would agree) to a guy for as long as she does not allow for sex. Even if he angrily leaves, she will retain her dignity and forever have his 105% respect. That's for sure!

And finally...
5. Any guy, and I mean ENY guy that truly likes or loves a girl will find a way to handle his libido. That doesn't mean he won't want sex. But he will suppress that need just to maintain being with her.

So, for this guy u like, if he truly likes or loves you, won't let sex be the reason to break-up. If he does, then he's amongst the 99.999 guys who aren't ready for a true relationship - they just want free sex.

Summarily;

If you follow through with ur 'no sex-till-marriage' rule, be ready for heartbreaks and headaches in relationships. But in the end, it will always pay off , bountifully if I may add (and trust me when I say so!)

Else, you can be like those girls that compromise in order to keep or retain their relationships and ends up discovering what most ladies latter learn - sex is NOT the life wire of a relationship. In fact, in most cases, it is the reason why it doesn't last.



Guys are difficult to understand. So make it simple.., choose which way u'll follow today.

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I don't actually succumb to d fact all guys love sex as u term it, dt's fallacy of generalisation

This sex or no sex relationship things doesn't exactly look like the way most people paint it.........will anybody tell me there is no sweet home today that they had sex before marriage Nd will someone tell me also that because there was no sex before marriage the marriage can't collapse??.......av seen pastors divorce, am sure there are guys out there who can't stand a relationship without sex nd that doesn't mean they are not willing to marry the girl dey had sex with b4 marriage........as for me I can't stand it nd it doesn't mean am only interested in sex.....mayb one day I might have a reason not to but for now I don't see any

ANOTHER PILE OF NONSENSE!!!!!

yes, sex is very high on mens list but i doubt there is ANYTHING wrong with it. the real mystery is to figure out why women pretend not to like it (not interested in it), but when the dikc hits the right spot they start singing Allelujah! we (men and women) all love sex, the simple difference is that we (men) aint afraid to stand by that fact, and also aint stigmatized when we do. if women could truly say openly how/what they feel about sex (without being viewed as sluts), then they all would... but sadly, african society aint ready for that.

i am sorry to say that RAPE has nothing to do with the love men have for sex, and instead, has all to do with sick/deranged people. there are billions of men who love sex and who never raped anybody, so please get your facts right!

desperate men react the way they do on NL because these women are directly associated with something they love (aka sex), and therefore they want to try their luck in getting it. just like someone who loves food and knows that there is easy food to get over here, they would come too and beg for it. it is a simple matter of hunger (for sex or food).

now, to say that sex will always be the "baseline" for most guys relationship is very far from the truth, and an outright DAMN LIE! whether love is concerned or not, companionship/marriage are the baseline why most men go into r/ships... and the simple reason for that is: just sex can be gotten from any gal without the need of a r/ship (just go out clubbing/bar hopping on a weekend, ET VOILA!)
i wont even dwell on going to ashewos for sex which is much cheaper than being in a r/ship

btw love's got nothing to do with men suppressing their need urge for sex, NECESSITY is the issue here, because there are millions and millions of men who DONT have sex simply because they aint got a companion or they are virgin. they dont suppress anything, they just live with it... its called LIFE! if a man really wants to have sex and his gf doesnt want to, then he might A) go to ashewos/mistress/bootay call for relief, or B) use his hand for relief.

as for what you wrote:

2. A relationship is NOT built on sex, does NOT need sex to survive and should NOT be sex driven. If any of
this exists, then u're in the wrong one.

sex is very important in a r/ship, it helps partners bond/discover and satisfy one another. its is important that a man satisfies his woman, and vice versa, in ALL aspects of life (sex included). so as much as sex may NOT be important to some people in r/ship, it could be important to other, it all comes down to each and everyone's needs... and if the sexual bond/chemistry/compatibility is important to you (but not your partner) then there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that, and you guys are simply NOT compatible.

3. The lady holds the ace on sex. So the ball is ALWAYS in her court, no matter how a guy seem to form 'dictatorship' or control. The day u permit the guy to take control, he uses u constantly for sex till he finds someone else.

NONSENSE!!!! the ball will always remain in the hands of who is the smartest. if a woman decided to use sex as a mean to blackmail a man, then she has only herself to blame if/when this man goes and satisfy his urge with someone else.
what you wrote is also funny because it seems that you believe that a man solely seek to have sex with a woman, and when he does, its over and he needs to find someone else, BWAAAAAAAH!
here is a NEWSFLASH for you: using the same person constantly for sex is called a RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE, and many are fully satisfied with that.

4. A lady is relevant (precious, as some would agree) to a guy for as long as she does not allow for sex. Even if he angrily leaves, she will retain her dignity and forever have his 105% respect. That's for sure!

ANOTHER PILE OF NONSENSE... the way a man treats a woman has all to with how this lady is in the presence of this man. starving him for sex is not the way to go, and instead you guys should WORK together with the aim that BOTH of you will be happy/satisfied (important word here is BOTH ) if a lady aims to be a virgin until marriage then she has all the rights to do so, just like a man who wants sex before marriage. in this situation, they MUST find a common ground where BOTH will find some satisfaction. its called UNDERSTANDING! if no common ground is found then they simply need to part ways.

And finally...
5. Any guy, and I mean ENY guy that truly likes or loves a girl will find a way to handle his libido. That doesn't mean he won't want sex. But he will suppress that need just to maintain being with her.

any girl that truly loves her man will find ways to HELP alleviate the urge her man has. she can use her mouth, tittays, hands, feet and even her aaaasss. again, the main word here is UNDERSTANDING!

So, for this guy u like, if he truly likes or loves you, won't let sex be the reason to break-up. If he does, then he's amongst the 99.999 guys who aren't ready for a true relationship - they just want free sex.

LIES!!!! everyone has their aims in life, and if a man does NOT believe in "no sex before marriage" then he has all the rights to stand by that! this has nothing to do with love and all to do with being true to yourself and your ideology.

Na wa ooooh MRbrownJ, See as u dissect my post one by one

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