"My Children will not suffer what have suffered" Syndrome... It's nice and educating write up And am happy you put this up for everyone to view and And read through, because its time for us to take Step onto the right direction...

Mbkite:

Exactly

nice one, I rep D1, like 13 years ago

Thought provoking writeup. Nice!

Castroii:
nice one, I rep D1, like 13 years ago

I rep B1, 11yrs ago. Nice meeting u here bro. U remember Okeruru(ICH), Pak Okoye(ICH), Ukwa(Phy), n odas

My children will NOT suffer what I suffered. OP sue me.

avaa:


Yea bro. The principle of hardwork is simply the key to real success. Nigeria has the potential to rule Africa, but sadly, we can't attain that feat if we continue like this.

Good morning bro. It's really sad. Every nation has within it ALL it takes to become a nation of progress, prosperity and development. Nigeria has what it takes to become a pride but it's people are lazy, impatient, easy to give up, wasteful and indisciplined.

And of course it has some of the most greedy and primitive leaders at all levels.

dis a gud one

Mbkite:

I rep B1, 11yrs ago. Nice meeting u here bro. U remember Okeruru(ICH), Pak Okoye(ICH), Ukwa(Phy), n odas

yea, my kid bro was 2004 set, I so much gbadu pak okoye den, giving notes offbook, he shud b a prof or retired by now. Then d fair guy dt took maths(matrix), I miss dt jungle sha, my warri frnds no dey joke with d tortoise n snake meat den

Castroii:
yea, my kid bro was 2004 set, I so much gbadu pak okoye den, giving notes offbook, he shud b a prof or retired by now. Then d fair guy dt took maths(matrix), I miss dt jungle sha, my warri frnds no dey joke with d tortoise n snake meat den

LOL, pak is now a prof. Men were cooking tortoise doz days 'cos of hunger. It was a jungle... No water! U remember "Akabuo Hall"?

Mbkite:

LOL, pak is now a prof. Men were cooking tortoise doz days 'cos of hunger. It was a jungle... No water! U remember "Akabuo Hall"?

yea, our party hall, very close 2 my crib den...nice meeting u here too bro

Mbkite:

I rep B1, 11yrs ago. Nice meeting u here bro. U remember Okeruru(ICH), Pak Okoye(ICH), Ukwa(Phy), n odas

wow that means you graduated from unizik,natural science dept.

OP, please speak for yourself. In life everything is more or less about balance.

You speak of The Royals? no be free food them dey chop? VW Golf? na them buy am? Can you tell me what they precisely do for a living? na wetin be Kate's qualification please? Ph.d in Royalty?

Geez! why should I let me kids "suffer what I suffered" whatever that means/ Should we make life worse for them just because say Richards B's kids aint flying first class? really?

We as parents strive to make life better for them little precious "mini-mes" and aint nothing bad about that. The joy they feed us with is life itself.

Adura wa ni wipe ki awon omo wa ju wa lo.

so oga OP, in life, everything is balance.

Atlantian:
You are incapable of wishing me luck, cos I do not believe nor trust in luck. I can not relate with your thread because it is factless, tactless, devoid of contemplative cerebration. I should, however, score you low, hoping you will improve and impress in your future posts. Sorry.

Stupidity is taken over you my little child. Your age here does not matter but your response to the above epistle shows how childish you are. Sorry but try your best grow up

Castroii:
yea, our party hall, very close 2 my crib den...nice meeting u here too bro

u too bro.

Sunehri145:
wow that means you graduated from unizik,natural science dept.

yea, bt Engineering. And u?

OP in as much as i will like to agree totally with your line of thought, i beg to defer based on some reasons.
Nigeria is not like USA or UK or some of these countries you called. Getting a summer here is an issue. Where is the work? If you parents/relative doesn't have a place for you, the only available space is teaching or may be GNLD marketing.
Children working hard is good but the economy of this country doesn't encourage it. Imagine where a master's degree holder is applying for the position of a driver.
It baffles me when i see certain adverts especially for young graduates and the phrase beside it will be '5-10 years experience'.
Most companies don't want to incur expenses in trainings no wonder they continue to blame universities. Over there or in the 70s & 80s, students are placed in companies to gain experience.
But now, to get a place for student internship na issue except with the right connection/ experience that is not readily available to some.
My grand dad used to say that sometimes the gods gives nose to those that doesn't know how to sneeze. Why they do that he doesn't know.

Thanks for your ideas.

@OP, but this article has been published over 3 years ago. Are you the publisher?

I would have gladly liked this article one million times if it was possible! I know those that the article 'victimized' with its bitter truth would gladly do everything to invent a 'not like' button to discredit it!

Atlantian:
That is a new grammar you just learnt. And you are looking for how to express it.

If you like don't consult a therapist ASAP, dey NL dey misbehave.. Anyway Waec result just came out, have u checked urs

sauceny:


& if your children fly,what would become of your grandchildren¿

they'll be in ghost mode

a beautiful piece indeed.

[quote author=Biliamin post=37141264]LETTER TO NIGERIAN PARENTS written by Adeyinka Temitope

I wish to start by adding the benefit of my time as a student and then resident in the UK. Living in Abuja now.

The first thing that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves – including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there – regardless of how wealthy their parents are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same – except status – conscious Nigerians.

I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline) speaking on the Biography Channel. To my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class – even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. No other foreign students do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the Prime Minister in the UK. He travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.

These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there’s one core difference between them and us (generally speaking), they (even the billionaires among them) work for their money, most of us steal ours
If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please, please let’s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be content and not having to “steal” which seems to be the norm these days.

We have Nigerian Children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying “only” first or business class and using the latest cars fully paid for by their “loving“ parents.

I often get calls from anxious parents” my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist!”

“Oh really! So where exactly is “THIS CHILD?” is my usual question. “Why are you the one making this call dad/mum?"

I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and i, chances are that the big boy is cruising around Abuja with a babe dressed to the nines, in his dad’s sparkling new SUV with enough “pocket money” to put your salary to shame. It is not at all strange to hear a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or her life in Nigeria but “earns” a six figure “salary” from parents for doing absolutely nothing.

I see them in my office once in a while, 26 years old with absolutely no skill to sell apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad’s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question- so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out – N250,000.00.

I ask if that is per month or per annum.

“Of course, it is per month”

“Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job?”

“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”

No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something for nothing, as if it were a birthright.

Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Abeokuta to Adamawa.

Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This syndrome – “my children will not suffer what I suffered" is destroying your tomorrow. You are practically loving your child to death.

I learnt the children of a former Nigeria Head of State with all the stolen (billions) monies in their custody, still go about with security escort as wrecks. They are on drugs, several time because of the drug, they collapse in public places. The escort will quickly pack them and off they go. What a life! No one wants to marry them.

Henry Ford said “hard work does not kill.” We are getting everything wrong in Nigeria now, including family setting. It is time to prepare your children for tomorrow, the way the world is going, only those that are rugged, hard working and smart working that will survive. How will your ward fare?

Please forward this to all the parents you know and love. We must begin to save our young children from unintended consequences of "too much love" and weak parenting. It is the only way we can build a strong and decent Nigeria.

“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”


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missdebs:
mo fe lowo ju daddy mi ooo, only in nigeria would u see parents using java phones and dier kids using iphone 6.

dats not true, that is a general issue. But op only stated pure truth. i usually say 'na only suffer fit give pikin real sense.' for those who understand

laphta:
dats not true, that is a general issue. But op only stated pure truth. i usually say 'na only suffer fit give pikin real sense.' for those who understand

I bet to disagree

Growing up wasn't so rosy,but i am happy it shaped me into a strong and independent lady.I pity parents who overindulgence their kids even after graduation.I had a client last year who was getting divorced from his wife.His major concern was whether the woman would be able to maintain the standard of living their kids are used to.For instance he told me his kids have never slept without light since they were born. That no matter the fuel scarcity he gets fuel to run his gen till dawn on a daily basis.He also told me he knows his ex wife is not big on spoiling the kids, that they would suffer if she gets custody.I had to tell him some home truths. Its better to raise your kids to know that life is full of challenges,than raising them under the impression that life is one easy ride.Tomorrow, when you are gone how do they cope?There's a well spoken guy in his 30's that comes to my office to beg money.My colleagues told me he has a drug problem.I was shocked because he seems educated.The story is that the dad over pampered him to the point that the dude ventured into doing cocaine and meth.The father is now late and the siblings cut him off because he was going mental at some point.Presently he lives with a church and comes to my office to beg.I couldn't help wondering how his life would be if he was raised better. Give your kids the best u can ,but don't over do it else you would have a bigger problem on your hands.

DrNeoCortex:
The truth is that, it all depends and very relative. The analogy about the queen of England and Kate Middleton does not quite work. Please go to Beverly Hills in California or Vancouver in Canada and see wealthy children display wealth. The reality is that, it depends on how wealthy you turn to be. If you are top 1% then your kids do not have to work at McDonalds to understand money. And if they eventually do not get upright quickly you can influence a lot of things in their favour. If you are a struggling middleclass like most of us will end up, then you have to let them understand how competitive the world has become and largely the survival of the smartest.

I believe in social and volunteer work but the perversion behind is so much about employers looking for in on your resume. Most white people do it to look good. Of all my school mates and colleagues at work, most of them didn't enjoy volunteer but just a means to look good on resume. I will not encourage my kids to work at McDonalds but teach them at the very early stage to be competitive and entrepreneurial.

If you are wealthy, you can kids can be raised anyhow you want. Top 1% will almost always dominate the rest of the population for generations to come.

Very well written....

Biliamin:
LETTER TO NIGERIAN PARENTS written by Adeyinka Temitope

I wish to start by adding the benefit of my time as a student and then resident in the UK. Living in Abuja now.

The first thing that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves – including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there – regardless of how wealthy their parents are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same – except status – conscious Nigerians.

I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline) speaking on the Biography Channel. To my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class – even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. No other foreign students do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the Prime Minister in the UK. He travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.

These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there’s one core difference between them and us (generally speaking), they (even the billionaires among them) work for their money, most of us steal ours
If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please, please let’s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be content and not having to “steal” which seems to be the norm these days.

We have Nigerian Children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying “only” first or business class and using the latest cars fully paid for by their “loving“ parents.

I often get calls from anxious parents” my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist!”

“Oh really! So where exactly is “THIS CHILD?” is my usual question. “Why are you the one making this call dad/mum?"

I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and i, chances are that the big boy is cruising around Abuja with a babe dressed to the nines, in his dad’s sparkling new SUV with enough “pocket money” to put your salary to shame. It is not at all strange to hear a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or her life in Nigeria but “earns” a six figure “salary” from parents for doing absolutely nothing.

I see them in my office once in a while, 26 years old with absolutely no skill to sell apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad’s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question- so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out – N250,000.00.

I ask if that is per month or per annum.

“Of course, it is per month”

“Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job?”

“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”

No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something for nothing, as if it were a birthright.

Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Abeokuta to Adamawa.

Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This syndrome – “my children will not suffer what I suffered" is destroying your tomorrow. You are practically loving your child to death.

I learnt the children of a former Nigeria Head of State with all the stolen (billions) monies in their custody, still go about with security escort as wrecks. They are on drugs, several time because of the drug, they collapse in public places. The escort will quickly pack them and off they go. What a life! No one wants to marry them.

Henry Ford said “hard work does not kill.” We are getting everything wrong in Nigeria now, including family setting. It is time to prepare your children for tomorrow, the way the world is going, only those that are rugged, hard working and smart working that will survive. How will your ward fare?

Please forward this to all the parents you know and love. We must begin to save our young children from unintended consequences of "too much love" and weak parenting. It is the only way we can build a strong and decent Nigeria.

ABSOLUTE RUBBISH

This is why your leaders make things difficult for you so you continue to suffer while they disguise it as hardwork! I am indeed concerned at the number of posts glorifying this wickedness because it shows that Nigerians truly love to suffer. e no dey tire una one bit!! You see luxuries as a bad thing and glorify hardship. Your call for a better country every election season is mere hypocrisy because you Nigerians love difficulties and hard times.

Please if you have the means to make life easy and better for your children, do so.