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Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 9:03am On Aug 31, 2015 |
hebenezher: I would like to know your age and hers as well as the duration of the affair. Thanks |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 10:36am On Aug 31, 2015 |
stjudas: If i may ask bro,what is stopping you from getting married to her? It is ok to write all these to her but the question is..are you ready to marry her? If you propose to her right now will she say yes? There is really no right choice or bad choice of spouse but what we have is our choice and once we make that choice we must face the consequence. The fact that you are a corper or still searching for job or source of livelihood is no excuse AS LONG AS SHE DOES NOT MIND. Just get a roof over your head,go to her people for a small introduction and engagement ceremony,and proceed to registry then meticulously build your lives together and once the money starts rolling in do a befitting wedding ceremony. If you know you don't love her enough to take this bold step i suggest you let her follow her heart and live with her choice. My humble advice |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by wrongnumber: 2:47pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
Toks2008: Nice one oga toks. The babe get sense die, she no wan continue to dey fool herself for one regberegbe relationship wey no get head. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by hebenezher(m): 3:06pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
Toks2008:I'm 20 she's 18.. we have been together now for a month or 2 |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 6:52pm On Aug 31, 2015 |
hebenezher: Thanks for the additional info. Now you need to understand that the job lies with you at least for now until she outgrows her teenage excesses. She is 18 and its so expected of her to be very erratic as this nature is very peculiar to teenagers. The teenage brain is hungry for stimulation. But there is an unprecedented amount of it in today’s world, maybe more than ever. Because teenagers lack access to their frontal lobes, using their judgement to say: “I’ve had enough” or “I need to stop and do something else” is still a weakness for them and this is the basis for their impulsive behaviour – they’re not planning ahead. Their priorities are not as common sense as they will become over time hence will do outlandish things to make you mad without really reading any meanings to these things and to them they are having a swell time catching fun. So as a guy of 20 you must understand that you are just a little above the adolescent age and you must learn to be more matured,subtle and understanding in the affair. Ignore her excesses and guide her calmly and patiently.Do not heat up arguments or do/say stuffs that will be aggravating and trust me, in another year or two she will come to appreciate your mature disposition and thank you for making her more matured. This is why i always advocate for wider gaps in age difference for teenage girls and ladies in very early twenties and the guy they are seeing so that the presumed maturity of the guy will balance the possible immaturity of the lady but then as they say,age is not really a factor when there is true affection between two people. Hope this helps |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 11:07pm On Sep 01, 2015 |
mcodedprof: Within the confines of marriage you can do absolutely warrever both of you are comfortable with and i mean WARREVER. Now read this: What does the Bible say about MouthAction?" Answer: MouthAction, also known as “cunnilingus” when performed on females and “MouthAction” when performed on males, is not mentioned in the Bible. There are two primary questions that are asked in regards to MouthAction: (1) “is MouthAction a sin if done before marriage?” and (2) “is MouthAction a sin if done within a marriage?” While the Bible does not specifically address either question, there are definitely biblical principles that apply. Is MouthAction a sin if done before or outside of marriage? This question is becoming increasingly common as young people are told that “MouthAction is not really sex,” and as MouthAction is promoted as a safer (no risk of pregnancy, less risk of sexually transmitted diseases*) alternative to sexual intercourse. What does the Bible say? Ephesians 5:3 declares, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity...because these are improper for God's holy people.” The biblical definition of “immorality” is “any form of sexual contact outside of marriage” (1 Corinthians 7:2). According to Hebrews 13:4, only the “marriage bed” is pure and undefiled. According to the Bible, sex is to be reserved for marriage. Period. So, yes, MouthAction is a sin if done before or outside of marriage. Is MouthAction a sin if done within a marriage? Many, perhaps most, Christian married couples have had this question. What makes it difficult is the fact that the Bible nowhere says what is allowed or disallowed sexually between a husband and wife, other than, of course, any sexual activity that involves another person (swapping, threesomes, etc.) or that involves lusting after another person (pornography). Outside of these two restrictions, the principle of “mutual consent” would seem to apply (1 Corinthians 7:5). While this text specifically deals with abstaining from sex/frequency of sex, “mutual consent” is a good concept to apply universally in regards to sex within marriage. Whatever is done, it should be fully agreed on between the husband and his wife. Neither spouse should be forced or coerced into doing something he/she is not completely comfortable with. If MouthAction is done within the confines of marriage and in the spirit of mutual consent, there is not a biblical case for declaring it to be a sin. In summary, MouthAction before marriage is absolutely a sin. It is immoral. It is in no sense a biblically acceptable alternative to sexual intercourse for unmarried couples. Within the confines of marriage, MouthAction is free from sin as long as there is mutual consent. Hope this helps As far as i am concerned,every part of my wife's body will be my sweetest lollypop |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 11:42am On Sep 04, 2015 |
Kulas: While in Nigeria we often attribute spiritsm to having sex in the dream but in my school of taught its mostly a figment of our subliminal mind activities at work. A sex starved man is prone to dream sex likewise an hungry man is likely to dream about eating in the dream. "Occasionally, women and men may dream about someone they love or can't stand and are definitely not attracted to in real life. "Sexual feelings can be sparked by a range of emotions—including rage, which is a type of passion." And a passionate dream could signal feelings of anger—in real life—toward the subject of your dream. "It could mean you're angry at that person, and expressing your anger in your dream." But both say the bottom line is this: A dream is a dream. Don't get too hung up on it. "What's important is that women are able to separate their waking desires from their dreaming desires and know that their dreams don't have to dictate or suggest anything about their sex life so Shrug it off and move on. If you decide to ask spiritualists then you should probably be ready to get reaped off when they ask you to start bringing this or that for deliverance. Be as it may, if it keeps repeating itself then go for a spiritual counsel but for now just let it pass and pray to GOD against it. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 11:10pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
emusmith: Self servicing is a rather complex matter. The Bible is totally silent about this matter but then I always ask; when you masturbate, what do you think about? This is where the complexity sets in. I really don’t think a single man or woman wil be thinking about a football game or a tractor when self servicing but probably about someone who he or she is not really married to which makes it lusting which translates to sin.. Married people who self service thinking about their hubby or wives may really be practicing a sinless act but I believe it will be unwholesome to self service thinking about an illicit sexual act. Nevertheless, this subject remains one with strong debate where some believe that as long as actual sexual intercourse is not involved, it is sinless and harmless but this is my take on the matter. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Nobody: 11:19pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
Toks2008: You are mature, at least through your comment . |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 1:18pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
bisifoundation: Hmmm,my lady i must confess that im indeed touched by your story and i can relate with every bit of it having been part of that institution called marriage or maybe because my own story is even a funny one else how do i explain the fact that a lady you spent 6years courting and 5 years of legal wedding suddenly coming up to say there was never anything like marriage all because of a sudden twist of situation but that is a story for another day. Now i would like you to calm down and read my advice deeply and that is why i brought your post down here. Woman first and foremost you must realize that there is nothing like a good ore bad choice of spouse but what we have is your choice and when you make that choice you must be prepared for any form of eventualities such as this. A million years of courtship does not guaranty that the caring guy while dating will turn cold and just as you wrote up there,he was caring at a time asides from the nagging aspect which is a defect and trust me everyone has a defect including you and i. I will not use the word unfortunately rather i will say fortunately for you the case is not the one that has to do with him sleeping around or beating you up which is a good ground for divorce so in this case please throw the taught of divorce outside the window. Yes their are some businesses that are degrading fore a graduate no matter how profitable they may seem and there are some businesses that can totally divert the aspiration of a man so the fact that he knows the type of business or job he wants is not a bad thing but the bad side of it is not doing enough to actualize the business or job he desires. Dear sis,you made no mistake in choosing a spouse,not at all, you simply followed your heart and you must know that every marriage is like a black market and no matter how sweet the courtship may look and no matter how caring sweet,romantic the man or woman can be,people do change and i know what i am talking about. Your husband is not really lazy as you think,not every one of us has the hustling spirit and some of us would rather do a 40k monthly job and grow old with it while some of us will rather look for a poo business that makes huge monthly take home. In conclusion dear,this is a cross you have to bear.Pray to GOD to provide him a job,be good to him, encourage him and trust me his heart will melt towards you. With prayers i believe GOD will provide a way out and he will get back to his feet. Better still,sit him down and ask him what he would like to do because every man out there have a plan but the problem is not having enough financial power to actualize it. If you can help him invest once again into a good business of his choice and i believe that most men usually become a shadow of themselves when they are in financial lack so relax, you have no issue at all. Just tune your mind to be happy and i must congratulate you for the wonderful gift GOD gave to you through this same man. The best way to be happy in any marriage especially when you have children is to focus on the children and yourself and ignore the man if he is a philanderer but in this case,he only seem to appear to you as lazy but trust me, you just might be wrong,every man has his dream career,business or job. So help him actualize it by encouraging and praying for him and with GOD all things are possible. GOD BLESS YOUR MARRIAGE. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Idydarling(f): 1:24pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
what happens when a guy you've been dating seriously for some time decides to go cold on u 4 no reason?? it's getting to 2 months now since we've been apart without officially breaking up |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by ideology(m): 3:26pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Idydarling:You have not really stated if something went wrong. but All the same, are you into a distant relationship? How often do you meet or communicate? what kept the relationship going all along, are you still doing it or are you just waiting for him to initiate everything?? Take the steps and initiate communication, it must not be one sided, if he doesn't respond, then it wiould need a different diagnosis |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Nobody: 4:03pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Serious bro i tink u re one of d few better hv seen when it comes to relationship advice. and i must admit u rock da boat. i actually had it in mind to open such tread bt had to jettison it after seen hw majority of nairalanders behave. if u tink u wish for my opinion in advicing anyone dat seek relationship advice here pls just let me knw. toks2008 |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by prettysassygirl(f): 6:04pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Cutehector:Buhahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahah,jes love the lady in question and give her more attention,there is definitely no way of escape but love,heyaaa pele |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 8:31pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
prettysassygirl: Hope you have moved on with another guy sazzy. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 8:35pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
QatarPlayboy: Thanks bro.. You are free to adviice anyone.Though i usually prefer someone who has been or still married for at least five years to offer any form of advice but then one needs not be married to be matured in matters of the heart. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by prettysassygirl(f): 8:59pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Toks2008:well lemme say,its in d offing |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 9:45pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
prettysassygirl:Kai..ladies and their coded ways of answering direct questions lol No wahala, wish you the best. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by prettysassygirl(f): 11:05am On Sep 21, 2015 |
Toks2008:tanks my bros |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by kazzamaks28(f): 11:02pm On Sep 21, 2015 |
Distance is driving me crazy,I pray he comes bk soon. 1 Like |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Toks2008(m): 11:39pm On Oct 16, 2015 |
kazzamaks28: So is he back? |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Kweenesther(f): 1:30pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Hmm.....Nice work here @ o.p. There is a guy I ave had feelings for, for almost two years. met him in church though when he joined newly. I think he feels something for me(not sure though). We are in d same group in church. At first, when he came newly, we weren't really talking or close.... He is very handsome, just graduated. I was kinda not into him because I thought he was just like d other guys, d rich, handsome, pompous type. so I stayed away. Then, later on he joined my group in church, and as I got to know him a little I saw he wasnt really d pompous and selfish type. He was smart, intelligent, understanding,caring, and somehow I started falling for him at a distance cos we weren't close and it looked like he thought since I was pretty, I would probably be just like d other girls (ps:.am different), so we kinda avoided each other. To cut d long story short, as fate would ave it,after some month he started coming close to me, we started talking and getting to know each other, even as d attraction increased between us. although he never asked me out even though I know from his behavior DAT he feels something for me. Later on He was posted for his nysc and I went to school. we stayed away from each other, no calls, messages, etc. but even in school I still wanted to be with him, nd was refusing the advances of guys in school. After a year, he was done with his nysc and I was back from skul, I saw him in church and we got talking and stuffz, I thought after some times away from him, I will get over him, but it was d opposite. Summary of it all is DAT I don't even know if what I feel for him is love or not since ave never been in love..though I know am attracted to him. but beside DAT I always envision being with him in future cause he is d only one I have feelings for...and we are just friends, and from our history nd behavior, I think he cares about me....attracted too even though he tries to hide it...but he haven't said anything to me or asked me out...He just finished serving and works in a bank now and am in my 200level..... I know am not ready for marriage nd stuffs now....but my feelings for him(still don't know if its love) is eating me up nd am trying to get over him in order not to break my heart since he hasn't asked me out.... WHAT DO I DO? Sorry about the long boring story |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Kweenesther(f): 1:33pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Typing with ma phone,,,,still learning how to space.... |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by phillipay: 2:08pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
There's this girl i like so much and ave made her know i like her by giving her attention and telling her i was thinking about her all day but i have not asked her out yet because i am scared of getting a NO mainly because of her attitude towards me.....Now here's whats killing me about her attitude*we talk alot on the phone and through texting and i sometimes go see her at her place but the thing is that she never starts a chat with me or call me and if i dont chat with her for a whole day she wouldn't bother sending a message but the moment i start a chat she texts back and we never run out of what to say*she doesn't feel the need to want to see me like i always do she has rejected my proposal to take her out about two times now and she has never visited me before though i have never asked her to.....OP pls advice me on what to do nxt cos i seem lost and dnt wanna take the wrong step that would jeopardize everything |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Elvis506(m): 2:25pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Kweenesther:before I answer ur question, let me ask u dis. Have u tried to find out what's keepin him frm asking u out (secretly)? |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Kweenesther(f): 2:50pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
No, I haven't....but I think he is this kind of person that thinks things thru before doing them,,,,,d only time he has given a hint was at a time I was chatting wit him last year online nd he said we were gonna go out for Xmas wen he is back from service 2 months later......but we ended up not going out.....tot maybe he forgot or didn't know how to ask me |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Elvis506(m): 3:06pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Kweenesther:owk, d thing is dat he likes u but not taking u serious for now maybe cos of fear of rejection cos generally rejection pains guys emotionally or lost interest in wooing cos past. So try and find out his past relationship. |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by hebenezher(m): 3:09pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
it's my girl whom I met in school. I've made
the mistake of letting her know how much I
love her. actually when we started the
relationship I toyed With her emotions alot.
but now she's toying with mine cuz I made
some unreasonable moves, we are both home
presently... before she took me in. she told me
she has a boyfriend at home, then if I make
attempt of relenting, she starts coming after
[trying to impress me] she said she love me,
but she has a boyfriend at home. she accepted
me aftermath. what I'm confused about is
that, I'm a very hyper active dude, who get
angry easily and then blast he/she who try
rubbish with me.. I've blasted he'd severally,
at the end of the day, I'll go back and
apologize and she would take me in.
something happened last week, some of the
guys who approached her in which she
declined him before she took me in, always
ask from me, about our relationship. as a bad
guy, I decided to form playboy, these are
things I told him (1). if I wan Bleep the babe I
go Bleep her (2). me just dey play her heart
nii (3). I get other chicks Wey I dey control
(4). the told me he'll tell her all these and
Isaid to hell with him and her. cuz all those
while, I was quarreling with her. it's do
surprising that this guy went ahead and told
the girl.. then the next day, I called her, and
she started saying all those things, I
apologized instantly, she told me "she's used
to my anger" and she forgave me despite all
those words. I observed something, whenever
we have a misunderstanding, she starts
uploading males pictures to get me upset,
which I'll and will start trying to apologize.
the advice I need is, I'm now the one doing
the calling, how do I make her stop playing
me and why could she have forgiven me
despite all my statements. hope she isn't upto
anything, cause she told me, that all these
things I'm doing is because of the 1 grace that
I've, which she refused to tell me. I'm
confused. she has my mum's no, even my
dad's own. she speaks with my siblings and
my mum. advice please what could the grace
be? |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Kweenesther(f): 3:16pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
hmm.....So I shud give up on my feelings for him? |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by Elvis506(m): 7:34pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Kweenesther:sorry for delay, not at all dear, try and find out abt his past relatnship. What's happening to me now might just be what's he going tru.... |
Re: Discuss Your Relationshp Issues Here With Mature Minds. by ideyhere(f): 7:56pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
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