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Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by MrsChima(f): 4:36pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
cococandy: That's was my point to the chatters I was "debating". |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Malawian(m): 4:43pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
cococandy: una just dey form one thing one thing. na when your husband come back home, you give am food, he come say him don eat, na im una eyes go clear. anyways that is for the gentle men. now for a real naija man, check this. At the 1997 World Women's Conference, the first speaker - Mrs Harry, from England, stood up: "At last year's conference, we spoke about being more assertive with our husbands. Well, after the conference I went home and told my husband that I would no longer cook for him and that he would have to do it himself. After the first day I saw nothing. After the second day I saw nothing. But after the third day I saw that he had cooked a wonderful roast lamb." The crowd cheered. The second speaker - Mrs Clemson, from America, stood up: "After last year's conference I went home and told my husband that I would no longer do his laundry and that he would have to do it himself. After the first day I saw nothing. After the second day I saw nothing. But after the third day I saw that he had done not only his own washing but my washing as well." The crowd cheered. The third speaker - Mrs Akpors, from Nigeria, stood up: "After last year conference I go house com tell my husband say I no go do im cooking, cleaning or go market for am again, and say make hin go dey do am by imsef. After the first day I no see anytin. The second day sef, I see notin. But after the third day, as the swelling begin go down, I start to see small small from my left eye." 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Joy1706(f): 4:47pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire:This right here puts an end to the argument. You're the man ba? Ok. You're the head/leader, yes? Agreed. If you cannot lead by LOVING your wife this way, you have no right whatsoever to demand submission from her. You lead by loving the Christian way, we follow by submitting the Christian way. Anything different, OYO is your case. It is beyond hypocritical to claim 'head' only when it suits you. Love first, we submit thereafter. That's the natural order. It's beyond hypocritical to demand submission citing the bible as reference when you don't love your wife as the bible commands. You remember the bible when it concerns your wife but you break God's word on a daily basis. These are the same guys who'd come out in their numbers to justify adultery. When it comes to submission, ah! Women dare not submit. But then, majority of naija men are hypocrites. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by TV01(m): 4:52pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire:Stilly, Stilly, Stilly, you are quite vehement on this thread. So incensed you've thrown around terms like demonic and hellfire . And quoting scripture like a fire and brimstone preacher as well ! Was it not you that refused to accept the biblical writ of wives submitting to their husbands? This sounds like confusion You are adamant that husbands should practice biblical love - which no one has actually disputed - but utterly reject wives submitting as biblically prescribed. I'm not actually sure that you even believe or practice. What gives? cococandy:This is pleasant enough sounding, but somewhat opaque. Please share more on this thing "you have" it may school or enlighten some of the men here . You haven't enunciated any particulars or tied it to any specific ideology or faith profession? All I recall is your marrying someone you could look up to and respect? Is he the head of your household? Does your husband lead his family? TV 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 4:53pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
There are no one size fits all in marriages We don't have all the facts to make an intelligence judgement |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Stillfire: 5:20pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
TV01: ...I am a born again christian who have come to understand with love not any submission principle, speaking in tongues, rolling on the ground, singing in the choir, I have covered everything I need to be a good christian daughter, mother and WIFE. Submission under an hypocritical, self-seeking, ego-tripping African man household who cannot love his wife like Jesus is 2 seconds from abuse. I ghast to protect myself. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 5:25pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire: Lady you have a big problem---- "ego-tripping African man household who cannot love his wife like Jesus is 2 seconds from abuse" You sound very ignorant Lady you need to listen to some conservative men speak-- Americans, Canadian or English man I will use "ego-tripping men household who cannot love his wife like Jesus is 2 seconds from abuse" 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Stillfire: 5:31pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
GoodFaith: The next time you quote me again I will tear you apart. This is the second time you have used that word, I ignored you. The so called Western 'conservative' men you highlighted have used their masculinity to create a feasible society for their children. What have you used your masculinity to do other than cry over and wet your diapers over food. Get out of here! 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 5:32pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Wow.... So this thread is going forward? Serving food brought all this Oo. Why is religion being dragged into this As for me, I serve my hubby and feed him too if necessary. He does thesame if he sees I'm not in the mood. Marriage is about exchange. #Equalrights!!!! . In this case she should have spoken to him later in the evening abt the morning Issh... He should be stupid if he doesn't realize that the way he spoke to his wife (queen) is wrong especially when he knows that she always serves her (king) . She was busy. He should have held her from behind, tickled her and brought her to the dinning stylishly and then all this wouldn't be happening. She must serve him if they eat at thesame table. Abi na lie Guys please answer me ooo... Will it kill him to be friendly about what he wants? Must he say "I'm not eating cause the service ain't complete!" That's a very very insultive sentence. That belittles his wife. That shows they are tolerating eachother! She musnt do things for her husband out of fear of ekaete now... If he wants to cheat, he will. They should do their shii with love. U don't have to fight over this bullshii!!! This isn't even supposed to be a marital issue! People have bigger ones 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 5:40pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire:Kid you will tear me apart-- sad we are all online Are a dump bitch thinking you know it all Fucker you don't have any life experiences If you was a smart bitch you will know all marriages are different in terms of needs People like you, whom can't have balance view is the reason Nigeria is behind in technology One way traffic Kid go play 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Stillfire: 5:46pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
GoodFaith: Take your immature needs and shove it in your ass. Don't contaminate cyber space with your puerility. On a last note, all the female members in your family are bitches. Oya die! 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 5:47pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire: If you want to have balance view of this issue you need some facts What time the man wake up What time he make it back to the house at the end of the day Is the wife a full time house wife eg 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Stillfire: 5:48pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
The he-goat must have been itching all along to take a dig. Good I have your time today, tehehe 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 5:50pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire:dumb ass dog b stop your fucking mouth Acting like a fool with nonsense You acting like a real B You need a ass whipping fool 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 5:51pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire: she-goat or dog? What are u b? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Stillfire: 5:51pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
GoodFaith: This is forum where I air my opinions. Nairaland will not be nairaland if we have to play detective to determine the life history of anonymous people. The point is a man who throws a tantrum over a meal not dished is an id.iot. Any African man that does this, oh lord is a self seeking, ego tripping id.iot! 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 5:54pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Stillfire:Agreed with some of your view what is wrong with a man dishing food for wife? There is a saying that both hand need to help wash each other for it to be clean In people life sometime people just want to tell you what you want to hear One side story 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Joy1706(f): 6:02pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
GoodFaith:This guy wan form ghetto nigga. Shame! Wtf is 'if you was'? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Joy1706(f): 6:05pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
GoodFaith:Even if the woman is a full time housewife, she probably wakes earlier than the man to tidy up the house, get the kids ready for school and make breakfast. The man does nada when he wakes up. You think a housewife is idle throughout the day? Educate yourself abeg. You're the ones who'll ask your wives to sit at home. You're still the ones who'll throw rubbish at her cos she sits at home. Wetin sef? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by creepsyme(f): 6:06pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
dinachi:pls get me right pllllsss I never disagree on serving my husband, of course its every womans joy, all am saying is the man shuld not make it look as if its a do or die affair, plus did u read the post properly at all? d man shuldnt make it such a big deal if he is not served just once in a while, dats absolute arrogance and immaturity. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 6:06pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Joy1706:do you know what is a ghetto? 28 year ago i didn't live in a ghetto Today, I have being bless by the lord The issue at hand go across all level of race ,income and education It is not a ghetto issue but human issue human have need and our need are all different Think 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 6:08pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Joy1706:Do you know if this man wake up at 330am on call and work till 530am Get ready to go to work for 700am like some bankers leave home at 700am and get back at 1000pm |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Nobody: 6:28pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
GoodFaith:Does that necessarily mean that he must use foul words when speaking to a woman (his own wife)?? What kinda dumb Bleep says(I'm not eating cause my service ain't complete) !!!! I've been nice since. I don vex. He was wrong for saying that to his wife. Guys, accept it. But r it's no big deal for her to dish the food out. Girls, accept that... She's his queen . Not his waiter or servant. It was a wrong and childish statement. Even if he's a doctor or a banker or a professor. He should be educated enough to know how to go about things. The marriage lacks mutual understanding and the woman clearly has low self esteem , so does the man. He thinks bullying her would make him feel better about himself. Shame on that man. And shame to the woman for not eating with him. Why should she starve and do chores while he eats? 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 6:34pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Ngokafor: so you have been following my posts? why not leave the thread and stop making incesssant comments. at the end, noisemakers like you will be the ones. praying for divine intervention, or give in to alternative lifestyles. I HAVE SAID IT FROM THE BEGINNING THAT THE TOPIC WAS LIKE MAKING A BIG DEAL ALARM OUT OF NOTHING. you lots should take correction. simple. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by bukatyne(f): 6:39pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
TV01: I am pained because of the above? I laugh in Chinese. I thought you even wanted to say something that affects me sef. TV01: Good for you, even though we know you wouldn't wait for her to serve you to eat what is already in front of you when she is not there TV01: Very true TV01: Stop saying nonsense, I have told you that thread is not locked. I cannot keep repeating myself . You don't have equal 'rights' with your wife... you have 'equal agency'; good for you. How hard is it to understand that some spouses have equal 'rights'? I opened a thread on love and submission last year and yet I don't believe in headship? Liar liar pants on fire TV01: The fact that nobody has never accused you doesn't mean you have not done it. It might mean they do not have your time. Desperate for what brother? TV01: Please stop sounding ridiculous now. I might as well be pained that February 29 comes once in 4 years TV01: You are very right... we can't know considering the fact you have the ability to conjure theories different from what you claim to practice. If command is ... Mama I think... then I also command my parents and my superiors at work. Abi the authority you claim not to use? Where is the authority currently hanging or where did you pack it till the next use? TV01:No, he doesn't. Why would he? He has a loving wife whose goal is to make her loving husband happy daily. Ask your female fans here how many of them have 'commanding' husbands Hehehehehehehehehe. Tag me in the polls TV01: Masturbatory? You use them to masturbate? And the 'non-believers' and co. might actually make better partners than your 'Christians' If you need a refresher course on my posts, please go back to that thread. Attributing things I did not say is very unbecoming of you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 6:42pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Joy1706: wrong again. answerable to her in what context? see, your husband is your head. you should reverence him. I will tell you the truth whether you accept it or otherwise. anyway, its your marriage isn't it? suit yourself. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Joy1706(f): 6:49pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
SonOfEl:Are you married to yourself? You're answerable to your wife abeg. In the same context in which your wife is answerable to you. Doesn't mean you're not the 'head' *ucandancenow* . And pls enough of the reverence ish. Reverence is reserved for God. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 6:50pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
MrsChima: same here. i have done my best online to correct you "Mrs" chima. child marriage breeds strife and VVF. IMO. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 6:52pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
zeeblamj:Agreed with your comment If you read one of my comment above I state both hand need to wash each other for it to be clean In relationship lot of time there are no winner or loser It is having a team mate you can ride with come good or bad Some time events in our life or work make us not to see the best in each other Life is give and take No winner in unhappy home 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by Joy1706(f): 6:54pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
GoodFaith:Do u know if the man is a civil servant. Wakes up at 7.30 and saunters into work around 9 am. Perhaps closes at 4pm? |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by SonOfEl(m): 6:56pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Joy1706: now you keep contradicting yourself. HEAD NA HEAD, if you like, accept it or reject it. I leave you to crucify your husband. congratulations. IMO. |
Re: My Husband Insists I Dish Food For Him by GoodFaith: 6:58pm On Sep 03, 2015 |
Joy1706:Ok, stop playing-- u are coming too close I know lot of civil servant that work 10 hours a day Do u know me? |
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