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Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by 5starmilitant: 8:44pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
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Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 8:44pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
hmmm... this is a difficult case... |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by BUSHHUNTER: 8:44pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Deal with him personally |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by GENT95(m): 8:45pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
hahaha............................family palava on point |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by westlius(m): 8:46pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
U need God's intervention and hope u ar a working class lady not an house wife with that jst invest on ur children future. If he sees u are progressing he will respect u more 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by MzzTega(f): 8:47pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Guess you never knew your man well before marriage,because if you do,you would have noticed this. A part of me,wanna suggest that you pay him back,not with a man,let your girlfriend play the MAN act on phone...you know?? The other part of me says PRAY. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by optimistmos123: 8:47pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Simple let the in-law know abt the situation then u can now take action base on their reply. Don't involve an outsider pls. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Tunagee(m): 8:47pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: why not check ur behaviour and see if there is anything you have been doing that he does not like. ladies una fo marry finish begin dey form like fools, forgetting to do or perform ur conjugal rights u go come come nairaland dey cry dey form innocentie.abegi |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by jasmines(f): 8:48pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Work on your finances first. Be careful about the punishment you dish out, it can very easily turn against you. Get a life, work yourself into shape, hang out and tell him squarely that you decided to go sightseeing with someone else cus he's ignoring you. But! Don't try to pretend you are blatantly cheating. Just convey the message that you need attention and there are plenty pal willing to give it if he doesn't want to. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 8:49pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
What do I know but I think the relationship still redeemable. How? I don't know |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by MrCork: 8:50pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: ''are you Lightskin? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Atlantian: 8:50pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Do not leave your marriage, it is your support system, but the only way you will feel better is to cheat too. Believe me, there is nothing else that will make you feel better. Prayer doesnt help in this. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by IYANGBALI: 8:51pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
you too should kill him physically or spiritually |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 8:51pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: Can't you just pretend as if nothing is happening? You will be good, thank me later. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 8:52pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Atlantian:Lord have mercy coming back to modify |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by troy20(m): 8:52pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
poor you.he has you in a corner thats is why he is comfortable doing all he does.there is no worse situation to be in.i think its a common thing for some humans to want to exploit vulnerability.its all got to do with the weakness in them.find a passion.knowing you have a world outside of his that brings you so much fulfilment can be humbling.he seems to be a man with little mental strenght. 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 8:53pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
U know d best thing to do cause I dont want to be a Participis Criminis. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ifyeky(m): 8:53pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
give me your numba |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by skedman(m): 8:54pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
My advice is for u to keep ur mind away from his activities and focus on ur kids their love should be paramount to you unless u will just give ur self heart attack and the end of the day the lady will replace u and also suffer ur kids pls focus more on their development men will always be men instead buy condom and put it inside his bag I no that one day he will come apologising. I am a man I ave done this before dat is exactly what my wife did I felt guility |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by GENT95(m): 8:54pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
[quote][/quote]wait oooooooh, sista did u said dat u r married 4 4 yrs wit 3 kidz? abeq r u a doq? :'dia s a probability dat u miqht bear 8 kids in 10 yrs ooooh.........take am easy oooooo |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by timota(m): 8:55pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny:if u are a christian and are legally married pray for God to deliver him |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by angelofurlife: 8:55pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
From your story I understand that your family and that of your husband doesn't see anything wrong in what he(husband) is doing. I will advice you to stop telling anybody about it and stop confronting him ( after all it hasn't yield any fruit)act like he does not exits. Be happy with yourself so you don't die of hbp. Do things that makes you happy, try and get a job so that you can always leave the house for work. Save! Save! And save as much as you can cause you never can tell with this type of fool. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by abdulkayus(m): 8:56pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Demigods: She should pretend as if nothing is happening bah and then later get STIs 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Omotayor123(f): 8:56pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
If only it's easy to punish men in the same manner! 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by doinwealth(m): 8:57pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Do you need advice on a revenge mission or on how to have your man back? Cos it seems you are asking for advise on HOW TO PUNISH HIM. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by NemzySeries(m): 8:57pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny:God is gonna heal ur marriage soon but u nid to pray abt it & b very careful not to b a victim of HIV which u didn't contribute to & Den get engaged bkos hiz always doing wat hiz doing bkos hiz economical ahead of u...also looking @ ur dressing bkos men are attracted to attractive packages |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Vado(m): 8:58pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Emphasis is on getting back at him than a solution in itself. Sounds like you want our approval for you to start cheating as well. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by front247: 8:58pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Put pepper in his ugbola and anus when he is sleeping |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by spiralwedge(m): 8:59pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
PM me your number and let's start cheating on him too |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 9:00pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: Op, pls be dedicated to ur Husband/Marriage not to Nairaland. dt myt b a reason he's Fuvking other Girls out dia. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by babygirlfl: 9:00pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
@ angelchinny, After punishing him, then what? I am sorry to hear that you are passing through this. It's painful and heartbreaking. We know the options you have and which ever one you take is not an easy one but whichever one you decide to do depends on what risks and consequences you are willing to take and accept, how much you value your life and health and how much you value what people think about you. Option 1. Staying in the marriage. I am sorry but the chances of him changing is really small unless he puts his mind to it. So this option really is more like you developing a coping mechanism. Can you continuously turn a blind eye, suffer emotional torture, know you are being lied to, appear stupid to his other women, share him, fight off other women etc. You and your children are at risk if one of his women decides she wants your position . She could kill you. You could contact HIV. I know you wrote that you have agreed you will not have sex with him. Sweetheart, for how long? Soon, you would want your husband and the moment you do it, you are at risk of getting diseases from him. Another thing also is that you will be teaching your children that that is what a home is supposed to be like. You will bring up boys who would cheat on their wives and girls who would accept it. Option 2. Leave the marriage. In the society where we live in, you will be called a failure. People will think you were not patient. Your kids would not grow up with both parents and you would have to go into the dating scene again if you want. Whatever option you choose, it's not going to be easy but you need to go back to work immediately. You need your independence and savings. Women needs to have their own money . I know it's a difficult situation but you have to choose which one you want. Don't let people do the choosing for you. 10 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by noblegrex: 9:01pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny:NOTHING!!! Pray for him,be a good wife and mother,he'll change.any other thing will be more devastating,you had kids for him already,keep them,take care of them,pray for him like a said earlier and don't hurt youself. Above all,let him understand you know all his vices, some how,and pretend as if you don't know or care.I bet you he'll be more worried than you.although,it might not be that easy but persevere and pretend as if you r not hurt.shikena |
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