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Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 7:31am On Sep 05, 2015 |
babaD60:maybe na laxity of Toto. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 7:40am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Rukkydelta:u sure say op no fucck other pple husbands b4 marriage? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by meetlanre: 7:43am On Sep 05, 2015 |
ok angelchinny: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by meetlanre: 7:57am On Sep 05, 2015 |
My own advice is that you know better and seen better,I believe you know what to do but you are scare to take the step,You know the Good side of your husband and the bad side,People here are judging base on the bad side,am a married man and i know what you are facing from your explanation.Did you just notice that after given birth to the 3 lovely children or before marriage,Secondly Did your husband have new friends or same old friend with same character,Is just very simple.Am 100% percent sure,Your love for him have reduce but the problem your parent doesn't want you to be a single mother and No financial aid to them,No one is going through the pain but you..I want you to make this bold step,First divert all the attention to your children,secondly,If you are graduate.Dust your certificate,Dress nice and tell him you are looking for job as least three times in a week,Make sure you dress to attract other men who will always make you feel happy again But dont make mistake of given them chance.Thirdly,Ask him for alternatives option that he should invest on you,Like opening a mini mart and or shop,You notice your husband cheating because you dont have a job or nothing do,All your attention are on him and you notice simples things as well..So if you can have a job or a shop,Your attention will be on the job and the children and he will be the one who will now monitor you because on his conscience and gradually,He will change.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by globalfanz(m): 8:25am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Hello madam you need do a lot work here. There are many advice there but what will come out of them may not be what you expect. You will not know the value of success if you have not failed. So believe today you are lunching into great success. This is what i suggest you do. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by globalfanz(m): 8:28am On Sep 05, 2015 |
I see you succeeding cos you decided to seek wisdom. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ahnie: 8:40am On Sep 05, 2015 |
No marriage z indeed perfect.every barri gat issues.some might not cheat,but gat a temper. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ahnie: 8:44am On Sep 05, 2015 |
GBAM kosplateau: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 8:51am On Sep 05, 2015 |
toksbisola:ur priority nw should be ur career and ur childrens welfare since he has chosen to be a goat,he is an adult and cannot be told how to live his life,u choose urs,whatever wld make u n d kids happiest.prayers work |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Kennedyiheme: 8:53am On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny:do the same thing he is doin but be careful, don't give him much attention, always pretend like you are speaking with a male lover, just make him jealous |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by thelish(f): 9:02am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Mrs0J:ok , thank u. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by 1beat(m): 9:06am On Sep 05, 2015 |
don't involve in any anti social behaviour, savage means to hurt him or keepn male friends around you acting as your boy friends (you are a mother ) Negro will not take that from negress in black race. it might not work because he as friends that wl meddle in you affairs with him is evidence to leave you. Don't even spend time thinkn how to hurt him. I wish you knw power behind peace, be peaceful with him and solve your crises maturely pick what ought picking from all the advice and do what ought doing. dffrnt application for dffrnt issue @ the end of the day people will tell you, you did not do it vrywell. Your story is not new that is why your parent prentend that they don't knw how you feel. you shld have invlve ur mummy not daddy your mumm wl advice you and also pray along with you My advice for you. 1. Move close to God... let God fight for you 2. try to look more interestin, you play the role of girl friend, role of wife and role of a mother. this method is mostly adopted by most prostitude despite the fact that such ladies are the most dreaded and perilous to move with yet they still secure good husbnd for them self. Whatch movies with him (comedy), play games with him, call him lovely names, whenever you are cookn try to find a means for him to stand with you gisting, is avenue for you to remind him the comedy line you both watch togther, put on small trousers that wl show ur size verywl, touch him anytime you feel like not when he feel like touching you 3. Be submissive 4. start doing somthing lucrative, i think dis is what is using to confuse that woman outside that his the only one respndn for the needs @ home he might even tell her that he gave you money to start business but you did nt 5. Don't pack out of your house again you might leave and before you come back meet dis girl performing your duties to your husband |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 9:06am On Sep 05, 2015 |
thelish: You welcome |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by BTT(m): 9:12am On Sep 05, 2015 |
5minsmadness: And when he comes home without buying them, raise hell. Kikikiki where im wan get kulikuli and garri buy for 11pm. Omo, you mean gan o. My wife must not see this your advice I swear. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Seventeen(f): 9:36am On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny:My dear, forget this ur "punish him" strategy... This issue is not a 'do me, I do u' game, unless thats hw u want to play it. My "ordinary man" says: life is too short to waste with an unrepentant cheat. But My "Spirit man" says: Weigh how gd a father and husband he is in other aspects. If its just d cheating, it may not be worth throwing away ur marriage over. In this case, prayer is the way to go. The truth is that no one can guarantee any solution. There is no clear cut formula to make a cheating partner stop. Good luck. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by thelish(f): 9:43am On Sep 05, 2015 |
raayah:my dear, nothing stops d op from getting a job now dat she is married. A man who will respect u will, irrespective of ur career or not.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by tommysparks: 9:45am On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny:involve his friends by telling them of your predicament, especially his very close ones, they will start calling him to order even if they might be birds of same feathers but involving them will help with time. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by precious1967(m): 9:50am On Sep 05, 2015 |
how dd u manage to ve three children within four years. na wa for u o. may be u are now old in d faceo of ur husband. put more cream. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by precious1967(m): 9:52am On Sep 05, 2015 |
how dd u manage to ve three children within four years. na wa for u o. may be u are now old in d faceo of ur husband. put more cream on ur face. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Missmossy(f): 9:58am On Sep 05, 2015 |
This is heartbreaking!!! And the rate of infidelity keeps increasing. Three kids means much already i really doubt if you could leave him. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by styles2009: 10:08am On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny: Honey,please am not supporting your husbands infidelity but please call that girl, your husband always calls and ask her for advice,then know,what your husband is getting from her that you don't give,problem solved |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by afynwa(f): 10:51am On Sep 05, 2015 |
If u ar working, concentrate on ur work. if u ar not pls find something doing . Ensure dat u keep ur home clean. Keep ur self clean all d time & pretend as if nothing is happening. Cook n eat good food if there is money. Be happy n play around with ur kids. B4 bedtime have ur birth,rub powder , pack ur hair well n put on good night wear. If u continue stressing urself ur immune system will become low n disease will set in while he continue his lifestyle. Try n b happy. With d above steps,he wil b feeling guilty,dont bother him bc of dat again,he wil b forced to stop. NB: NEVER U LEAVE UR MATRIMONIAL HOME BC OF UR HUSBAND'S INFIDELITY. * My opinion* |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by KennyMKO: 11:10am On Sep 05, 2015 |
Sorry about the predicament Angel. Over 80% of married women had gone through the situation at one point in their lifetime. So you are not alone and some of them had come out of it successfully without breaking up their marriage and I'm hopeful you too will by God's grace. Abandoning your marriage or paying your husband back in his own coins would only get things worse and will definitely affect your children adversely if not you. One of the reasons this kind of things happen is because of the way human minds work. The human mind appreciates things best when it has not possessed that thing or when it has los it. And that's what affects over 90% of men during the course of their lives. The fact that a man married the most beautiful lady in this world does not mean he can't be distracted by another lady or other ladies. The following are my suggestions: # The most important thing is to GO TO ALMIGHTY GOD. Pray, pray and pray. Pray for God to deliver of him of the spirit. Some men don't plan to cheat on their wives but they just find themselves involved one way or the other. It's not easy stopping once he has started so he needs both physical and spiritual help. He too needs to be ready to stop anyway. # Don't keep your bitterness to yourself so that you don't get chronic disease called 'Depression' . Try and devise a good communication channel to talk to your husband and appeal to his conscience. Patiently advise him with modesty and with all the emotional intelligence skills you've got. Remind him of the consequences of these extra marital relationships on your kids. Appeal to him using his religion, no religion encourages adultery or fornication. # Advise him to stay away from immoral websites and bad influences/ friends. He should try and be ignoring the calls of those girls because they will keep pestering him even if he wishes to stop. He should be firm and fill his spare time with his positive passions and games. # Try and dress and smell well even if you are at home. Some ladies don't take care of themselves again because they are married. Be appealing to him at all times in terms of your appearance. # Keep anything females to the minimum in your home: sisters, friends, maids etc. Employ male or old women as maids if possible. If not warn and watch your female maids to refrain from wearing seductive dresses. Remember, Men are moved by sight while Women are moved by words. # While he is trying to stop the affairs, just like others have advised, go for tests to know your status and guard your status jealously and remind him too to guard his to avoid stories that touch. # Attitude is everything. Be a good wife and mother in order not to push him away. Remember that 'Marriage is a relationship between two imperfect people trying to make it work' . And it's the one of the best relationship created and encouraged by God. So give it your everything you've got. Never abandon your marriage because it might be your best. It's when you leave your marriage for another that you will appreciate the one you left and realize that this issue is not really a big issue if it's diplomatically handled. Best of luck in your union. It's well with your family. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by kushsy: 11:15am On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny:3 children, take a break and rebrand your self..get a job or occupy your self with a solid business..bet you he will make a u turn.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by zeb04(f): 11:28am On Sep 05, 2015 |
life over marriage |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by hYpErbOi: 11:43am On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny: OP_cheating husbands tends to feel remorse n sorry when suddenly surged with undeserved (fake) affection and angrily get afraid of their woman when they can't predict her next move. Pretend to double ur love n affections coupled with ur woman weapons and a 'NO' to regular Bleep or with protection if u can't hold. When he notice part of that, u won't ask before he confess his sins then u can begin a Man&Wife Dialogue. If he's not insane, u gradually should win him back #no offense Don't appear too weak to him cos he'll only keep taking advantage of u known to him u have a soft mind to forgive. Stop going tru his call log cos u'll only be hurting urself more n stop calling d side chick so u don't end up like a nuisance. Weigh any advise u get from 3rd parties with ur instinct b4 putting it to use...den PUSH IT (pray until something happens) Your kids r ur future...focus more on them rather than a cheating husband and get a work asap for ur upkeep n backup.. ***shoot @it when it face u...shoot @it when it back u but think twice when u r left alone*** |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by waldigit: 12:06pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny: At this stage of his the only thing that can save him is Regeneration- it is a miracle of being born again a process which can be initiated by him, you other who know about. Outside that be prepared to move on with or without him. But I prefer the former. Hence it begins with you on your kneels. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by sayoberry(f): 12:26pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
Marriage sef. Its a lifetime punishment |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Kimoni: 12:28pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ezenik: 12:36pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
My advice to you don't leave your husband tell him to use condom and be prayerful because we wrestly not against the blood and flesh but principality,the wicked of the world ruler of darkness,devil want to use that to destroyed your marriage pls don't give up because is not yet over. God bless you |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 1:22pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
useless African & Nigerian culture mentality dat approves a man to cheat & d woman not. both partners are d same . I still do nt understand why some men aren't satisfied with one woman. Are not all Kitty cat d same again? there is nothing other women has dat ur wife do not. d VEE na same as for u d op , my advice to u keep loving & praying for d man as one day he will change but not without pains and patient . waitin don spoil no easy to fix. Don't walk out of dat marriage or seek divorce if u are truly married (pride price payed) . truth is ur husband was a cheater before marriage and likewise u & all d signs were there but u pretended not to have seen it in d name of so called love & to leave spinsterhood status at all cost . We all are suppose to be perfect humans as commanded by God but nay our self deceit will not allow us to IT DOES NOT MATTER ATTITUDES, ACTIONS & BEHAVIORS. for now please bear d cost of not being watchful before marriage. sorry for being blunt. truth hurts |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 1:34pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
sayoberry: yes outside God u will weep bitterly like a baby through out it. marriage ought to be for better for best. I know a couple who dated for 15 years & just 3 months of marriage they are now misbehaving. people na endure rather than enjoy marriage. people thinks it's boyfriend & girlfriend stuff |
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