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Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by KingAdeOluomo1(m): 1:43pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny:Be prayerful. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Ikiriye(m): 1:52pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
The only option you have now is divorce.biblically you are free,else your head will enter the marriage.wisdom is profitable to direct.my own peace. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by nicedaddy(m): 2:11pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
Contact me on whatsapp 08032735539 for help. angelchinny: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Fourwinds: 2:33pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
Pidggin:hmmmmm. girls.!!! once a man has money dey hardly check his behaviour or background..some said she doesn't know y d OP checked d husband call log... yet same person is suggesting OP should use condom.. then I ask myself how do u know if ur husband is cheating if his call log is not one of d means... conflicting themselves 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by bummyla(m): 2:55pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Ngokafor(f): 3:23pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
....@op sorry about what you are going through.. i would have told you to give your cheating husband some distance for a while but you dont even have the funds for that so i guess you should just stay put,praying for the fortitude to accept your husbands philandering while protecting yourself from STDs as well.Try and make yourself financially independent as well cos i am sure your not having a job or business is not helping your situation. ..Please do not confront your husbands girlfriend(s).That is very demeaning and crass.Your husband is the one who has flouted his vows to you by chasing and having mistresses all over the place.Therefore he is the one you should have a problem with. ...We live in a soceity were the responsiblity for a successful marriage is placed on the woman alone with little or none expected of the man.Reasons why more and more marriages are hitting the rocks these days...Unfortunately most people do not realise that or perhaps has chosen to bury their heads in sand.Pathetic. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Omoiyaoshy(m): 4:27pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
@Angel Chinny.If You Dnt Mind Talking 2me On Phone About Ur Cheat Husband On How 2 Deal With Him In A Diplomatic Way,u Can Call Me On 08160124385 |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ginggerxy: 5:17pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny:rost his balls |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by gnchetts: 5:42pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
The best thing is to silence him. Start keeping to urself for like 1 month and face ur children. That means u only talk about important things but don't miss any of ur duties as wife. Greet him, wash his cloths, cook food and do everything u do as a wife but don't let his way of life border u again. He would be worried about ur change of attitude and would want to know y one day; ( if he still loves u). He would start looking for ur playful and smiling face, U can then use the opportunity to discuss ur family matters and where u actually went wrong. Take it or leave it, 80% of men cheat and the earlier u learn to face ur God giving children, the better for u. As for sex, insist on condon or abstain. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Ordinary9jaGuy(m): 5:43pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
D truth is dat no one in here knows d degree of wot ur going thru n truthfully can adequately advice u on wot to do but the truth about the whole situation u find urself cant be solved wiv vengeance as ur motivation. These are things u av to consider Do u still love him? Do u still enjoy being wiv him? And finally, do u see him only as ur husband and not ur friend? If ur able to answer these 3 questions positively, then d reaction to d first question shouldnt b u trying to get back at him for putting u thru all uv been thru. If u enjoy being wiv him wivout the thought of he being wiv another, then dat means he still lights ur and communucation between u 2 still exist so dats a plus.. And finally, ur husband shouldnt just be ur husband but ur partner/friend/gist buddy/advicer and all that his friends are to him, u shld be filling that space wivout being selfish in playin dat role. Ur more consumed by his actions and thinking wot counter-action to take to spite him but the truth really is if u saw him as ur friend, then all u need do is tell him d truth about his actions wivout bein prejudicious and take actions dat shows him dat uv lost trust for him like friends do. May GOD guide u as u decide on what next step to take but in d end vegeance solves nothing. It poisons u and poisons who ur vengeful at. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Chelseafan1: 7:22pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny: There's this Nigerian movie, Mr and Mrs, I'll advice you get and watch it, you are gonna learn a lot. I hope it helps you. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Shiningmama(f): 8:56pm On Sep 05, 2015 |
angelchinny: See my sister, your hubby treating you like this becos you are not working. You are even lucky he begged. Hmmmmmm! Mine did worse than what your guy did to me, if I talk he will even abuse me join. Pls find something doing and learn to ignore him. I know it is difficult but pls you have to learn it. Don't develop hypertension becos of him ooo, I beg. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Rhea(f): 5:47am On Sep 06, 2015 |
Leave the man. He does not love you. Probably never did. Leave am waka. Unless you wan go market buy faifai gee am make em drink kpai one time |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by egobetatoday: 4:33pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
try to get more money from him apart from the normal upkeep money he gives u. Get more money for food, clothing , drugs, school fees and other geniune house expenses ( things are getting expensive in the market u know). he wont go for girls if he doesnt have much money to spare |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 5:19pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
thelish:I wonder o, a man is who he is irrespective of whether the wife works or not .... So all men who have working wives don't cheat?? I however support financial freedom but don't think it stops an irresponsible man from cheating. ... |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by igbinigiejeff(m): 5:54pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
5minsmadness: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by thelish(f): 7:06pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
MarvellousGod:my point exactly. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by tammie24: 7:28pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
MISSNORA:God bless you for this comment! |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by tammie24: 7:32pm On Sep 06, 2015 |
angelchinny:That is the problem- his friends Op just protect ur self cos u need to stay alive and healthy for ur children |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Ifyjuli25(f): 9:57am On Sep 07, 2015 |
This is heartbreaking.... I also have a cousin her husband cheated on her and impregnated the girl.. They demanded 500k for abortion or else... God I feel for her because she found out on seeing the lab results and almost died of BP. I ll advice u to change ur ways of dressing.. Package ur self well, give him good and smashing bedmatics with condom! Look beautiful. He will start getting insecure when u looks cute. And above all pray for his repentance.. God bless u ND your kids. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ZeeAfrica(f): 11:30am On Aug 28, 2016 |
A wife who gives birth every year is a turn off. How de hell did u give birth to 3 kids in 4 years? He is cheating becoz yo big stomach and yo big kitten r just boring nw. Work on yo body, work on dat baby factory u call a tummy, get 6 pack, work on dat big vjj, look after yo body and wordrobe, make him remember de woman he fell in love wit, make him see wat he wil be loosing if he lost u, get a job, study, empower yoself economically. Blv me baby, dat man wil come home. Right nw u r nothing but a liability. He feels stuck with u, nt inlove wit u 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by pitipom: 2:10pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
Tunagee: This is a forum for mature minds and intellectuals,of which you are clearly not. It's disheartening to imply that it's the Lady's fault her husband cheats , She is not sexy enough, she does not do conjugal acrobatics ,she should act like a mistress, b***h and wife all in one Abi. Utter crap! Do you even understand the meaning of the word ''fool'', or did you come here to speak fancy words that you just recently discovered ? Please take a walk and waltz out of here if you have nothing useful to offer . Op, you ve been too focused on your husband and ve neglected yourself. Add value to your life, do a masters program, start job hunting,acquire business skills, develop yourself . Harness your inner strength . You will get too busy to feel depressed because of an irresponsible husband. Always pray, then insist on protection during sex. All the best dear 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by debspauly(f): 11:24pm On Jun 28, 2017 |
angelchinny:please do not cheat .. you would be doing yourself ...just give him the silent treatment ..pretend like he doesn't exist . while you are still living with him....it will make him think you don't love him ..and that would frustrate him .....and I bet you ...you are gonna get good results .......but if he is not repentant ...take the walk and leave ..he doesn't deserve you. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by nuele(m): 10:42am On Jun 29, 2017 |
" Forgive me for my long episode but I really need your help on how to punish him cos I went to his call log yesterday and saw the same girl that made me take the risk to leave with my children to another state calling him again and he is reciprocating the calls..his a very jealous person, he goes crazy when a male friend calls me..I want to make him pass through all the pains I have endured all these years.. What do I do pls? " Not necessary, wud complicate matters and might break completely down the marriage, a wise woman build not breakdown her home. That said, firstly I advice you go on your knees to God and then to him, even though u expecting the opposite, try it. Do good to him even though he does bad, continue in this, you wud see results. Don't kill urself on it, be calm, take time to build you home, make your kids happy, cook him great meals I mean d family o, but give him what he likes, that reminds me, ensure things are settled before giving resuming unprotected sex, since he has broken vow, ensure he s tested etc Just continue normal living, work etc God wud come in, just keep praying... |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by crunchyg: 9:13pm On Jul 07, 2017 |
MISSNORA:How can you be threatening a cheating man with lock up when he knows how and where to get it freely? Don't think this is the best solution to Op's problem. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 7:50am On Jul 12, 2017 |
crunchyg:you mean keep giving him until the day both of you test positive for HIV? |
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