cococandy:
Meanwhile your cousin should get help for his mom instead of expecting a new mom to be available to wait on her hand and foot.
Like you said, she's not strong enough on account of the CS to start a business. How come she's strong enough to do other things?

This one una dey count wetin the man do for am. SMH. Such nosiness. Nawa.

Granted that she should show more compassion and concern but who your cousin chooses to marry is his business and you have no say trying to put asunder between them.
All in all, you sound very derogatory towards the lady.
Na your kind sabi meddle in people's affairs until things become too bad to salvage.
Shebi your next plan is to convince your cousin to break up with her so that that kid becomes fatherless or motherless depending on gets the kid. Will you be the father or the mother when they part ways because of you?
Did you take your time to read the write up?
The said Aunty is the lady future MIL.
If the lady took the aunty as her own mother she would show care and concern for her well being afteral the babe get her own mother
what if it was her own mother
Una mind una business o. Nosy marriage spoiling relatives.

I wish your aunt quick recovery.

cococandy:
Meanwhile your cousin should get help for his mom instead of expecting a new mom to be available to wait on her hand and foot.
Like you said, she's not strong enough on account of the CS to start a business. How come she's strong enough to do other things?

This one una dey count wetin the man do for am. SMH. Such nosiness. Nawa.

Granted that she should show more compassion and concern but who your cousin chooses to marry is his business and you have no say trying to put asunder between them.
All in all, you sound very derogatory towards the lady.
Na your kind sabi meddle in people's affairs until things become too bad to salvage.
Shebi your next plan is to convince your cousin to break up with her so that that kid becomes fatherless or motherless depending on gets the kid. Will you be the father or the mother when they part ways because of you?
Did you take your time to read the write up?
The said Aunty is the lady future MIL.
If the lady took the aunty as her own mother she would show care and concern for her well being afteral the babe get her own mother
what if it was her own mother
Una mind una business o. Nosy marriage spoiling relatives.

I wish your aunt quick recovery.

Onegai:


Please do yourself a great favour: YOUR IN-LAWS ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. Draw those lines and boundaries in black paint and guard it with a cutlass. Or you will end up one day bitterly regretting that you wanted to "show Love". Nigerian society isn't filled with kind, well meaning people who will understand your mistakes. One of my BiLs gave me this advice.

KanwuliaJara:



*yawns*

Yet, you nor fit hire care-giver for your auntie?"

ismart:
Thanks. I really appreciate the way you presented everything.

My apologies to every woman who may have felt hurt by my disposition.

armyofone:
awww group hugs...
Just be good and ask nicely without expectations.
You never know what she is going through.

ismart:
Thanks. thanks to everyone and apologies.

The title of this thread was deliberate but not real . It was intended to get this result... Spark viral rage and hit front page.

Would a thread like: "I will rape this girl till she bleeds" make front page? How About "Igbo Man Killed In The North By Fulani Herdmen"? Or Yoruba Man Kills Igbo Business Man To Inherit His Wealth. Igbos feel they are wealthy and they feel that yorubas envy and Marginalize them dem go say ehen we said it . Or "I am in Love: She Is 15 and I am 60. Can I Sex Her?"

But the part of not showing MIL she care is. They will sort themselves out.

Anyway, thanks to you all and apologies.

ismart:


life has gone beyond 9-5 madam. You are still living in the early 90s

https://www.nairaland.com/2594236/elance.com-upwork.com-other-freelancing-site

I mentioned upwork.com and today a thread about it made front page.

Keep masturbating on this thread. This will be my last quote or interaction with you.

Aude:


You must be a VERRRRRRY sick individual.

Aude:


You must be a sick individual.

ismart:
may be cos I don't take nairaland serious . Learn to do same too.

Aude:


Keep on deceiving yourself. Even the topics you mentioned show how warped your mind is. So you just created a thread to denigrate women and make you feel like a man. Like I said earlier on you must be a sick individual.

Sparkles003:

Did you take your time to read the write up?
The said Aunty is the lady future MIL.
If the lady took the aunty as her own mother she would show care and concern for her well being afteral the babe get her own mother
what if it was her own mother.

BlissB:
Op no nid for many talk......I nor knw hw e happen o but there should b an extent to which d DIL shows concern n d MIL won't complain....she may not be washing her clothes and all dat,all of ona wen day shout d MIL nids a maid what stops d DIL frm discussing wit her husband to get d MIL a maid,then visits frm time to time and also call like everyday or every 2days to check on her at least her concern will be felt and if d DIL is even busy no time will be taken frm her while she is calling n d rest....some ladies sha on Nl....look at tinz frm d 2 sides of a coin.....nor b to CME Nl con dy talk wetin u nor knw.....she is abt getting married to d man n at d same time his family...nobody is asking her to b a slave....na sense they tk day follow family matter......I will b old one day and I pray neva to treated like dis neither will I treat my future MIL like dis.......who quote me talk nonsense I nor go reply am.....its my opinion say ur own n don't insult me

SAMBARRY:
exactly my point.

It's so unfortunate that good mother in laws have unfeeling daughter inlaws and the patience ozokwor monster inlaws have sweet and kind hearted daughter inlaws

if ismart aunty was a wicked and heartless moth in law I would have supported most of the female posters here

for crying out loud the lady is a mother and that makes her a potential mother in law. How will she feel if her son's wife treats her the way she's treating her child's grandmother

and by the way children follow their mothers behaviour. Its the way they see their mom behave to their paternal granny that's how they will be have towards her

a friend was telling me that anytime she scolds her son she will say waka.iya baba e.and so one day the paternal granma scolded the child for pouring food on the floor while eating she then said waka iya baba e to his paternal granma.of course she knew where the boy learnt that from and she carried her bag and left

of course that was the beginning of cold war between the 2

ismart:
My dear, the jobless one dey him house now oo many nairalanders are from non-cultured home, no offense intended.

I am a Nigerian and an African, the whites, (whom many are emulating) can shove their teaching into their azz.

I have deep respect for my elders and wouldn't stand by and watch anyone treat a mother anyhow. That is me because mothers go through a lot to raise a kid and this my aunt isn't any different. In fact in my family, the women are like AMAZON. I am not saying this as an exaggeration. They take the lead in place of the fathers, even my mum was not different when she was alive.

In the end a daughter in law would not show any feelings to the woman who laboured day and night for her husband?

I left my base in Lagos and travelled back for function but left within 48 hours, the woman still called me and started praying for me on phone.

I wonder the kind of family some people came out from sha... where I come from, we are well bonded!

If something happens tomorrow (God forbid), this same people who tagged me jobless, stranger,home wrecker etc would call me heartless for not "HELPING" my cousin abi? Let's assume he got an accident and they called me to help with money for medical bills... which I refused and stated categorically that I am a stranger and therefore, it is not non of my business.... what would these same people call me? I leave them with their own sha.