“Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in”. Shannon L. Alder



Last week, we examined some of the tell-tale signs of insecurity in relationships either married or dating. Don’t forget, we defined insecurity as a feeling of uncertainty, a lack of confidence or anxiety about one self. And when people are so unsecured in themselves, they carry the attitude into their relationships and make a negative impact on it because insecurity is all about negativisms. When an unsecured person starts a relationship with a positive person, such an individual contaminates that relationship with envy, doubts, bitterness and control which are all products of negative feelings that get him or her consumed with jealousy.



I need to state categorically at this point that contrary to beliefs from unsecured people, insecurity which manifests through jealousy does not in any way draw your partner to you; rather it drives them away from you each passing day. Each time you display jealousy expecting your partner to conform to your wishes; on the contrary, it only makes him or her get withdrawn further from you and he or she will have some sort of reservations for you. This is not good for relationships especially if it’s at the initial stage.



We can understand that some things happen that make some partners become so unsecured in their relationships. For example, if a partner is known to be a pathological liar or there had been history of unfaithfulness these experiences could trigger insecurity in someone. But then, there are other periods that this is just the person’s nature, rather than keep damaging your emotions and the other person’s, it is better you voice out your concerns so that both of you can walk through it together constructively.


Having laid the background on this, we shall examine the different ways in which your insecurity harms your relationship.

http://expressng.com/2015/09/how-insecurity-harms-your-relationship-part-2-realitywithtid/