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Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by MizMyColi(f): 3:15pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
edwife: First off, the post you are about to read is not meant for those who go about ranting and raving that they don't need no one in their lives to make them happy. While that may be true, you still need someone to share your happiness with....it is in giving that we receive. This post isn't intended for the extremely independent ladies/men either. It is mostly meant for those who have stopped identifying with their life situations and have begun to identify with their Life. (two different things). Ma'am, Still,Fire has a point. One which I think you should ponder. Your first post on this thread gives the impression every girl out there who has no boyfriend and no one looking her way is sad and filled with so much negativity. From your post, one can glean that you mean the writer of the OP up there is silently dying inside and claiming one kyn wannabe happiness to console herself. I take it you got the texts you quoted from Stella Dimokorkus' website. Like the title suggests, they were ranting. Now here's what my thought process is like... Don't we all have our low days? Even the supposed "married and extremely happy" among us? Can anyone on this thread confidently proclaim that they do not have anything, anything at all which at one point or another, or even this moment, causes tears to well up in their eyes or send them into depression? Can anyone on this thread confidently say to themselves that they are happy BECAUSE EVERYTHING is working out for them? Even if you are, is that a moral ground to rub it on the face of others? I think happiness is a choice which we all make at one point or another. No one's life is truly perfect. If it were, you'd stop existing. I dealt with a similar topic on FP lately. Here's my take....now for the purpose of this thread, I am putting myself in the shoes of a jobless---35 year old--not too attractive--men never hit on me kynda girl. (That's the worst it can ever get to, right?) While it is true that she desires a partner, first and foremost, because it's a natural law....while it is true that she needs someone to show her care and love, a shoulder to cry on.....while it is true that she just needs someone to notice her. Is it an excuse for her to remain in a perpetual state of frustration? Is there any chance that she can perhaps focus on living in the here and now, absorbing the positives in her life and actually giving herself a chance to be happy, and truly so....despite not having closure in certain areas which would in this case be husband/boyfriend/attractiveness. At the age of 35 and unmarried, though society has labelled her a failure for not hitching a dude, should she really identify herself with what society says? When doing so portends a great risk to her emotional health, life, and by extension, that of her loved ones? Even though at 35, she tends to sound so frustrated (like those on that blog) and always lamenting.....is that really the best she can be? Should such attitude to life be encouraged and celebrated by those who want to prove at all cost that women are lonely and failures and incomplete without men in their lives? Even if this were true, does taking such stance actually help them? More oft than not, even when the bible or quran has told her that "SHE IS COMPLETE IN HIM (HER CREATOR) who is the head of all rule and authority"....she still thinks of herself as incomplete, why? because society and everyone thinks so. Just like everyone else has their issues and certain conditions they are not comfortable with, especially one which they have no direct control over, there are people out there who have chosen to rise above. And they are better for it. They have chosen not to let their situation limit them. They are taking one day at a time and doing their best to make the best out of what they have. They have an understanding that love will find them, yet they have chosen not to make it the prime focus of their lives. They have chosen to become hardened to naysayers and those who put their spirit down. They are dreamers. They are the future. The author of the contents of the original post is one of them. It is only imperfection that complains of what is imperfect. The more perfect we are, the more gentle and quiet we become towards the defects of others. - Xy,nerise 2015 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 3:23pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou: You spend most of your free time on NL claiming how women need and desire marriage more than men. Even here on this thread you have been making fun of the original post and women who agreed with the OP, shouting how the woman is deceiving herself. And now you provide an article that states howMEN ARE USELESS WITHOUT WOMEN? You are a joke! And you want to teach me about critical thinking? You who accepts a highly questionable article because it suits your delusions? 7 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 3:24pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Mizmycoli , you have said it all!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by crackhaus: 3:24pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Baba, you don disappoint me... I was expecting a serious rebuttal to that infantile psycho-babble she put up there. Or maybe you didn't read it all.. Let me break it down for you bro, this is the summary of that junk: 1.) Women don't need men for reproduction because if a woman wants a baby, all she needs is some frozen sperm. Question: Where does this frozen sperm come from? Whales? Answer: Yes, self-impregnating women only need frozen sperm that come from whales to conceive, ergo, men are really not needed at all in the process of reproduction. 2.) Men only contribute some very odd tiny cells during reproduction, these cells did not merge with the egg or add any cell membranes or nutrients — just an infinitesimally small packet of DNA, less than one millionth of the entire mass. Question: But Basic biology taught in junior school all the way up to research carried out by biological scientists and anatomists of global repute have discovered that in human reproduction, each human cell contains 46 chromosomes, 23 pairs, except gamete cells, which only contain 23 chromosomes. A child will have 23 chromosomes which carry DNA sequences from each parent which are genetically recombined into 23 pairs. Are they wrong? Answer: Yes, they are all totally wrong...they don't know what they are saying, only I do. Sperm cells only contribute an infinitesimally small packet of DNA, every other thing needed for fertilization and ultimately reproduction comes from the egg. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Stillfire: 3:24pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou: The sustenance of the human race existed long before the advent of skyscrapers, and continue it shall even by the extinction of men. Humans have the natural ability to adapt to changing environment. As default women are humans too. So we wont miss ya! Besides without men, there would be/have been no restrictions to the female existence and females would not have to suppress their intelligence so as to kiss male egos. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by crackhaus: 3:27pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice:No shiit, they do? 4 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 3:30pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
crackhaus: Not if the father is useless. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Stillfire: 3:31pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice: Of course I agree, innervoice. My first comment on the thread recognized the importance of marriage with the one you love and how kids are better off in the institution. But on the grand scheme of things, it is very questionable who needs who more between a man and a woman. If you look at the way society is going and how easily you can get rid of fathers from the equation, I do not think as a man I would be worried about if a woman marries or not, but rather how to prevent my gender from extinction. 3 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by crackhaus: 3:35pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice:1.) Who is a useless father, and what does that say about the woman who married and got pregnant for him? 2.) What happens when the mother is useless? 6 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by MizMyColi(f): 3:37pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
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Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 3:41pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Stillfire: Only those with a fvcked up self-esteem are concerned with such questions. The rest know their worth and do not need neediness to feel better. If you look at the way society is going and how easily you can get rid of fathers from the equation, I do not think as a man I would be worried about if a woman marries or not, but rather how to prevent my gender from extinction. But if you were insecure and needy, you would. Misery seeks company. And if I were not married, I would tame the tigress in you. Men like Timbumumu need the intimidated ones. Intimidation is his mission on NL. All of my bachelor's life I have been bored with needy, boring, weak females who were no challenge at all and whose life revolved around getting married. Where have you been? 2 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 3:47pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
crackhaus: I don't think I need to tell you who a useless father is. It say a lot about such a woman, for example, that she was so intimidated that she decided that it was better to marry a useless man instead of not marrying at all BECAUSE she has been taught that her value and the survival of the species depend on her marriage. 2.) What happens when the mother is useless? If a mother is useless, the kids will most likely end up being miserable and a menace to society. 2 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 4:01pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: If marriage is properly practised and properly represented and properly taught, there'll be no need to impose it on anybody. Even now, anybody who fails to see the importance of marriage is an unfortunate soul. The world and such people individually have benefitted from the existence of strong marriages. The only people you could excuse for not getting married are those who are contributing so positively to the world that a marriage could be detrimental to their task. And while you can't force a spouse down someone's throat you should know that they are an anomaly, and their unmarriedness should not be due to any trivial reasons. Also, there's no such thing as "the right one", marriage is not something you handle with only emotions, more important is the sense of duty and responsibility; and a casual look through divorce records will reveal that these estranged lovers once considered their exes "the right one" at one point in time. Marrying because you love someone is almost always a mistake, the fantasy often comes crashing without mercy. You will find that everything revolves around the family; career, education, etc. A family is more important than a career. I agree with your submission on why many young women say they don't need marriage; bad experiences and all. However, I take exception to what you term master-slave phenomenon. Perhaps, our African brothers could say the same thing and claim that they are victims of the system. There is a book by Ester Vilar "The Disposable Man" (you can download a free pdf and finish it in 2-3 hours), and she talks about marriage being an indirect slavery of the man. The truth of the matter is marriage is hardwork and both sexes have their job cut out for them. Ask the women claiming to be enslaved if they would switch roles and see the hypocrisy. It was just a few months ago when there was a trending twitter hashtag in Nigeria where our young women were bemoaning their experiences as if that's all that happens in relationships; oh, the hypocrisy. What do you mean by not finding somebody worthy? That is laughable. Everybody has found someone worthy of marriage but they blew it at one point or the other because they were busy chasing fantasy and shadow, looking for a guy that does not fart. Really? Noone worthy? Because they are Cleopatra or the Queen of Sheba? This Mr. Right trope is responsible foe a lot of mgbeke proliferation in our society today. Before you know it, they've already had 3 kids from 3 different men, are they then worthy? Single men are also ridiculed for not relinquishing their single status and marrying. The truth is men have their own sets of pressures and handle it stoically as men are wont to do, doesn't make these pressures non-existent. What the married women in this forum should be doing is guiding their younger and less experienced sistren on the right path not lying through clenched teeth that marriage is overrated when they themselves would choose to marry if given another opportunity to not do so considering their current experiences. Tha 1 Like |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Stillfire: 4:05pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice: This is my first time noticing your username. Hehehe, tame the tigress...it's only when I'm on NL I unleash that part of me, because on a normal day I can never ever come across such things or people. I exalt femininity with an extra touch of practicality with no apologies!!!! Funny thing is men are usually kind and respectful to me. It takes a lot for men to have the effrontery to ask me out too as well. So innervoice, it would take a lot to tame my tigress...if you were not married of course. 3 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 4:11pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice: You are an intellectual midget who goes about arguing with himself raising up strawmen like viagra. Here on this thread, I have made fun of people who say marriage isn't all that but have married before age 22, and also those who say they don't need men but have got pregnant outside wedlock in their 30s in a bid to trap the men they love and claimed they didn't need. Innervoice, you are an unfortunate fellow and I cannot help you if you don't want to be helped. Take your imbecility and go play with people on your level Whether I think women need men more or not is not the purpose of this thread. If you want to argue with me on my ideas and ideals find a more opportune moment or open a thread. Don't go about being a nuisance and contributing nothing to the issues on ground. A highly questionable article you say? You are a fool. How about you actually research my claims and prove them false. Are you now to be regarded as an authority on marriage trends, faggit? Google is your friend, you miserable dint. Come at me with real research findings not your cuckolded opinion, you unfortunate lab rat. 3 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by crackhaus: 4:14pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice:Ahaa finally, someone else who doesn't have a stick up his/her azz seems to be getting it. My issue with women who type long articles trying too hard to prove how happy they are and can be without men, is that they are actually fighting themselves and disguising it. Who cares if you don't need a man, or which gender needs the other more? Have you not noticed that it's almost always women writing long articles and academic projects about how they don't need men and marriage to be happy, but NEVER men? A man will never try to justify his single status by writing articles in the name of self-love trying hard to come off and convince people how he doesn't need a woman in his life to be happy - in fact, most will brag about how they want two or even more women in their life at the same time (minus the baggage) ...I know I do That my friend, is the hypocrisy of it all... 6 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 4:17pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
crackhaus: I answered that way to bring the argument from fantasy back to living reality. As you can see, I refused to shift ground and have saved myself from going all unnecessarily scientific. I didn't even read it all. It's all within the sphere of fantasy that these women want us to live by. So, my answer is: women without men, are useless. Full stop. Anybody that needs formal science to understand this is tobe pitied. . Hope you get my drift now? |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Stillfire: 4:17pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice: That is why I am here to counter their position, before young girls are threatened psychologically to aspire to something as disastrous as that. 5 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by crackhaus: 4:18pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice:Summarrily, a child needs both mother and father for proper development... A useless father is detrimental to his/her upbringing, a useless mother is also detrimental to his/her upbringing. Thank you for your time. 7 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by crackhaus: 4:22pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Indeed @bold text, indeed... 2 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Stillfire: 4:24pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Lmao, na true... 1 Like |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 4:25pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Stillfire: the so-called science you're recoursing to will suggest otherwise . I know you don't like masculine men, it's ok, but it's not based in reality. Men have always led the way in the pre-skyscraper days and will continue to do so till our species goes extinct. In those days of forceful dominance by men, what stopped women from killing off all the men in their sleep and taking over the world. Or if they needed some form of maleness, why not enslave them and have them out only as needed? Were those women too timid to envision a world without men, or were they too stewpid to control the male population? Afterall, the midwives must have been exclusively women, they could have killed every 9 of 10 male children and presented fake data on natural infant mortality. The truth is women are useless without men in the world. Look at finland and their neighbours that boast more equal gender statistics than the rest of the world. Their women are content with being hairdressers and salon owners and there is no gender there o. Nature has a way of evening bvllshit out in the long run. The men in Finland are still the ones doing the dirty, tedious work. Finnish men are slaves. |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 4:31pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Stillfire: Of course, you're at liberty to believe what you want, but it did achieve that effect didn't it? However, you're free to take up Crackhaus's counter-argument to yours if you find it misrepresentative of your point of view. He seems more inclined |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 4:34pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
crackhaus: Innervoice is incapable of critical thinking. He cannot extrapolate and connect phenomena to arrive at an intelligible conclusion. He would rather bring up strawman arguments and then attempt to counter them. He will soon come and say something foolish now. Give him 10 seconds. 2 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 4:37pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Says the 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 4:38pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
innervoice: I'd rather be fighting men? Isn't that a bit sexist, you brain-dead chimp? 3 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Stillfire: 4:48pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Apparently women are doing all these now without resorting to violence or even going to war. Men are currently being enslaved as ordinary spe.rm donors who still have to pay for child support. There is now a support group for these slaves called 'MGTOW' - men going their own way...Many of you would eventually join it after intelligent women like myself who have studied this inequality unravels this age long misnomer in society. If we were stu.pid before, we are no more stu.pid. That is why Feminism is here to stay!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Finnish men have created a better society than your great grandfathers can ever dream of. What is to show for African men's 'un-emasculatedness'? One would expect that since African men are not a slaves, pose to be the man of the house, olowo ori of all the women in Africa, your society would be better, meanwhile Africa is the laughing stock of the world! I do not get it? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 4:58pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
crackhaus: So you want women without baggage but believe that it is a lie when a woman says that she can have a happy and fulfilled life without a husband? The hypocrisy is that it is unacceptable for a woman to brag about the number of men she would like to have when it is perfectly ok for you to do so. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 5:02pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou: I knew you were stvpid but now you have even gone beyond the limits of your stu.pidity. I feel like I killed some of my brain cells for having read this insanely stvpid comment. When a man fights a man, it is sexist. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by innervoice(m): 5:04pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
crackhaus: Who said anything else? 2 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Nobody: 5:04pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Stillfire: My forefathers built wonderful pyramid and were the first to write worldwide. Historical trends would suggest that world super powering is turn by turn. It's the turn of Finnish men. However, one should be careful about projecting the myopia of their greatgrandfathers upon others. I assure you, I have a sound legacy and the expectations are high. So, if your greatgrandfathers only dream of cassava farms it's ok; don't just think we're all on that level MGTOW is men who understand their value and are depriving leeches from parasiting on them. While I don't approve of their methods, I see it for what it is; a symptom of a dying society. The men in MGTOW are the ones that will give the west you fawn over the hope that they can be great again, as you know the culture of the west is dying at an alarmingly quick rate, or do you? You're beginning to sound like Innervoice your new friend, strawman me not. 2 Likes |
Re: Diary Of A Mad Single Nigerian Woman. by Stillfire: 5:05pm On Sep 22, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Of course, the female and male gametes supply a haploid number of chromosomes (23). The writer in my article compared the percentage effort between the species about the survival of the human race and concluded that the female is more important in the grand scheme of things. Scientists have cloned a sheep named Dolly without involving any male spermatozoa. Dolly was born on July 5,1996 and had three mothers (one provided the egg, another the DNA and a third carried the cloned embryo to term).[8] She was created using the technique of somatic cell nuclear transfer, where the cell nucleus from an adult cell is transferred into an unfertilized oocyte (developing egg cell) that has had its cell nucleus removed. The hybrid cell is then stimulated to divide by an electric shock, and when it develops into a blastocyst it is implanted in a surrogate mother. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dolly_(sheep) You men just need to be careful and pray this technology is not allowed in humans, otherwise you would be reduced to redundancy and irrelevance. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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