SOMEONE WROTE THIS-----Spoke My Mind.

I think you should read it also.__

.******"A lot of people who constantly go on about wanting a perfect husband or wife are quite miserable when they do get married because they want something that is just not possible; they want the kind of person that just doesn't exist.

As long as you want to marry someone who has flesh and blood, you must accept that person as limited, flawed, and error prone! They will have to accept this same truth about you too! Please know that you will have to give your future spouse room to be imperfect; it will relieve you of so much stress and frustrations.


It doesn't mean issues should not be addressed and dealt with; but even when you have to do this, be respectful with each other. It doesn't mean you should be walked all over. It doesn't mean that he or she should not work on improving themselves, particularly if it is damaging your relationship.


But it means that you acknowledge your own imperfections and weaknesses too! My point is that don't expect perfection! They may be working towards perfection; aren't we all? They may be genuinely trying their best to say and do things the right way, but they will sometimes make mistakes, even the best husbands and wives do, and that's ok.


You will too. I will too. That's all a part of marriage. What determines our experience is our perspective and our perspective determines how we handle each other! In fact, I'll say this - if you are in a relationship now and the person is just perfect, they don't offend, they don't do some things that irritate you, if you claim to love EVERYTHING about the person, take it from me- it's all fake!!


It's not a sin to want them to improve on some areas, it's not a sin to acknowledge their weaknesses. So stop looking for a perfect spouse. If you want perfect, then maybe get a pet. In fact, a pet will still offend you. Or maybe just have a good looking statue; that one too may annoy you. LOL.


As I said, if you want flesh and blood, you must accept them as they are and work together to bring out the best in your relationship. That's the best way you can experience the true beauty of marriage" - Excerpt from a Courtship Foundation Class taught by Kemi Oyedepo