The biggest mistake you made was continuing in a relationship where your boyfriend comes from a bigoted, uneducated and shallow family. You should have fled. You should never beg anyone to love and accept you, never. You are good enough just the way you are.

Your boyfriend is a shallow and childish person. He still thinks he is a baby. He is now a man and should stand up to defend you and his child. That his mother can advice you to have an abortion just shows the depth to the sickness in that family. My dear look, go back to your parents or ask them for a loan so you can rent your own apartment. Then find your way. You are already on the right path in your life and God will see you through. You will smile again. A lot of times our heart betrays us but everything that happens in life is a lesson. Take this as a lesson and be careful who you let come around you or your child in future. Stop all sexual relationships with the father of your child and start looking forward to a future without him. Even if he comes back to beg, until he has shown that he can think for himself, please don't let him come back.

Don't blame things on the fact that you are a girl. You made mistakes and some more when it was clear that you were heading for a very bad path, you kept on pushing. Take charge of your life, own your mistakes and forgive yourself. Move on and learn from it. Find your parents and discuss the next step for your life. Leave that boy's family house immediately before they harm you or your child

The only thing you should regret is your stu..pidity.You were very naive and didn't use your brain.

KanwuliaJara:
In this day and age, women are still careless about their REPRODUCTIVE health even WHEN FACED WITH UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES?

Talk about poor choices!

1. You dey school go carry belle?

I don't think being a boy instead of a girl would have helped you much. No hope for people like YOU with your inability to use "common sense"!

Good luck!

One of those times,I'll strongly align with Kanwuliajara.
In this day and age,girls can't take full responsibility for their reproductive health?The problem is not that you came into the world as a girl,the problem is that you fail to use that thing in your skull.
If you were a guy you'll still make decisions that will probably put you in prison.

Brace up to life as a single mother and make the best of your future.

If they tell some ladies to have self esteem and self worth, they'll think you're their enemy.

Shouldn't you have walked away from this no good marrafoka earlier before things got to this point? Eating shyt equals asking for more shyt.
You should have dumped him when he beat you and sent outside into the rain so he could bring in another girl for the night.

No lady with self respect will continue dating such a man.

At this point you're still asking what to do.

Pls stay there o.
Don't go anywhere.

thorpido:
One of those times,I'll strongly align with Kanwuliajara.
In this day and age,girls can't take full responsibility for their reproductive health?The problem is not that you came into the world as a girl,the problem is that you fail to use that thing in your skull.
If you were a guy you'll still make decisions that will probably put you in prison.

Brace up to life as a single mother and make the best of your future.

Thank you very much.

thorpido:
One of those times,I'll strongly align with Kanwuliajara.
In this day and age,girls can't take full responsibility for their reproductive health?The problem is not that you came into the world as a girl,the problem is that you fail to use that thing in your skull.
If you were a guy you'll still make decisions that will probably put you in prison.

Brace up to life as a single mother and make the best of your future.

It's soo annoying when girls blame everything and everyone for their predicament.

Because I am a girl...because the guy is Yoruba..societal pressure...it's the devil...where does this blame game really ends? How can these girls ever move forward if they don't realise their folly?

How on earth is anyone else to blame in this story if not the lady herself.

Kimoni:


It's soo annoying when girls blame everything and everyone for their predicament.

Because I am a girl...because the guy is Yoruba..societal pressure...it's the devil...where does this blame game really ends? How can these girls ever move forward if they don't realise their folly?

How on earth is anyone else to blame in this story if not the lady herself.

I tire o.It's always easier to blame someone or something else.

cococandy:
If they tell some ladies to have self esteem and self worth, they'll think you're their enemy.

Shouldn't you have walked away from this no good marrafoka earlier before things got to this point? Eating shyt equals asking for more shyt.
You should have dumped him when he beat you and sent outside into the rain so he could bring in another girl for the night.

No lady with self respect will continue dating such a man.

At this point you're still asking what to do.

Pls stay there o.
Don't go anywhere.

Gbam tired of low self-esteem peeps ladies and gentlemen.... The world has over a billion people why kill yourself over one nonentity...just baffles me.

So what could you've done differently if you were a boy?

The day most of yall long throat start taking responsibility for your actions; keep your legs closed and earn yourself some self respect... Is the day things will fall into place for yall.

Cohabiting with a guy you're not engaged to and worse of, his mom dislikes you. What is wrong with your head?

@the talk about Yoruba men being irresponsible, I guess same can be said about numerous Edo and Calabar dead beat dads & husbands around here too? Mtcheew.

To the Ladies who really want to command respect in every areas (workplace, marriage/relationships etc) of their lives..

Stop being desperate & insecure .. You're wonderfully made.

Face your studies ... That's your future and a lifetime security to hold your own.

Good men DONT chase worwor girls.

freecocoa, Timbuktou pls you guys should stop, am begging you pls. Thanks friends....

That man doesn't deserve you one bit. Has he paid your bride price? If no, then why suffer yourself? Move out of the house and start a new life for yourself and child. There is one man out there that will treat you like a queen

Well!
As silly as the thread sounds, MOST NIGERIAN LADIES behave like this. If this were 20 years ago, I would have empathized. But in the year 2016, this is extremely irritating.

This is NL sha! Make we h-enjoy the abundant STUPIDITY!

KanwuliaJara:


Well!
As silly as the thread sounds, MOST NIGERIAN LADIES behave like this. If this were 20 years ago, I would have empathized. But in the year 2016, this is extremely irritating.

This is NL sha! Make we h-enjoy the abundant STUPIDITY!

You don already leave us reach 2016? You are enjoying o.

freecocoa:
You don already leave us reach 2016? You are enjoying o.

Yeeeeeeessssss ooooooooooh

KanwuliaJara:


Well!
As silly as the thread sounds, MOST NIGERIAN LADIES behave like this. If this were 20 years ago, I would have empathized. But in the year 2016, this is extremely irritating.

This is NL sha! Make we h-enjoy the abundant STUPIDITY!

Nigeria is in the year 2016? Last time I checked the country was in 1955.

innervoice:


Nigeria is in the year 2016? Last time I checked the country was in 1955.

Wetin remain na?
October
November
December

You still dey 2015? With only 3 months left?
I don cross o!
Kpele my dia!

KanwuliaJara:


Wetin remain na?
October
November
December

You still dey 2015? With only 3 months left?
I don cross o!
Kpele my dia!

Me, I am a visionary, I am already in year 3050.

to be a woman is not at all easy. i suggest u go bk to ur parents,m sure dy wont forsake cos ur relationshp with d guy and d family is not working. u need to go back home and start all over again,itz even good dt u aint formally married to him. give urself a second chance rathee dan wasting away @his family house....dey dnt want u dia.

Kimoni:


It's soo annoying when girls blame everything and everyone for their predicament.

Because I am a girl...because the guy is Yoruba..societal pressure...it's the devil...where does this blame game really ends? How can these girls ever move forward if they don't realise their folly?

How on earth is anyone else to blame in this story if not the lady herself.

Thanks

I wonder how marital infidelity which is a human thing suddenly became a tribal thing

I guess Yoruba men are the subscribers on Ashley Madison

Freecocoa
And for you to be reiterating such stereotypic tripe is astounding

pickabeau1:


Thanks

I wonder how marital infidelity which is a human thing suddenly became a tribal thing

I guess Yoruba men are the subscribers on Ashley Madison

Freecocoa
And for you to be reiterating such stereotypic tripe is astounding

You people sha, Like you all haven't been seeing stories on that on here, I merely said that the 'talk' about it is becoming something else, how is that a crime?

Make una free me biko.

Though there is always another side of the story.

This is same people o.Not inter things o.

Hmmm, it is well.

freecocoa:
You people sha, Like you all haven't been seeing stories on that on here, I merely said that the 'talk' about it is becoming something else, how is that a crime?

Make una free me biko.

I guess because its talk on an online forum it has become canon..-_-

Infidelity is a human trait

pickabeau1:



I guess because its talk on an online forum it has become canon..-_-

Infidelity is a human trait

Like I don't already know infidelity is a human trait.

I didn't mean anything by that comment, I was just stating an observation but I leave it to familylanders to create a war where one isn't necessary, that one na una business sha.

freecocoa:
Like I don't already know infidelity is a human trait.

I didn't mean anything by that comment, I was just stating an observation but I leave it to familylanders to create a war where one isn't necessary, that one na una business sha.

If u know infidelity is a human trait, why perpetuate an unfortunate stereotype