Trust is the bedrock for building a strong
relationship. However, lack of trust is one
of the most common themes to surface in most relationships. If you are struggling
with the issue of trust in your relationship
below are some tips to help you develop greater trust with your partner.



Trust means that you have placed your
confidence and faith in your partner, and
that you expect honesty, integrity, loyalty
and respect to be at the center of your
relationship. You also expect your partner
to keep promises and confidences and to stay with you when the going gets tough. Your trust should always be earned; you
should not give it to another lightly. When
you first met your partner, you probably
shared information that helped you to
figure out whether or not he or she was
“worthy” of your trust and of your heart.




As you got to know your partner better,
you most likely shared more vulnerable
information about yourself, expecting
that he or she would hold this most
precious part of you in a place of safety
and love. At some point, however, your wonderful partner may have either said
or done something that triggered you and
your trust was broken. We are all inherently complex beings who
bring our past experiences, hurts, fears
and expectations into every new
relationship we enter. Sometimes our
woundedness spills over into our
relationship and we lose our ability to feel safe in our relationship – regardless
of whether or not our partner actually
“deserved” our lack of trust. If you would like to deepen the trust between you and your partner, please try these 10 tips:



1. Keep what your partner tells you
within the confines of your
relationship. Telling others what your
partner has shared with you in
confidence destroys trust.



2. Don’t rely on email, phone calls and

texts to communicate with your
partner. Spend time communicating
face-to-face. Communicating in
person will help each of you to build a
greater sense of security as you become more open and vulnerable
with one another.



3. Consider your partner’s interests. The
more you do for him or her, the more
he or she will know that they can
count on you and that you have their
best interests at heart. If your partner
feels like they can count on you, it will make it much easier for them to
share the more vulnerable parts of
themselves with you.



4. Follow through with the little
promises that you make. For example,
if you say that you will call or be some
place at a certain time, be sure that
you do these things. Small action s
matter toward helping you to build a strong foundation of trust.




5. Learn to apologize when you make a
mistake or disappoint your partner.
An authentic apology should be
sincere and from the heart. To be
truly meaningful, take responsibility
for your actions and reassure your partner that you understand how your
action impacted him or her.



6. As you learn more about your partner,
allow yourself to share more personal
information and history with him or
her. Aim for balance between how
much each of you shares, since trust is
not built if only one person shares.



7. Spend time together doing things
that make each of you happy. Since
you are two different people, you will
naturally like some different things.
Being open to a new experience that
your partner brings to you will build the bond between you and trust will
follow.



8. Practice forgiveness when you are
upset with your partner, and let go of
a hurt after the two of you have
talked it through. Receiving a sincere
apology builds trust in an important
way.



9. Take some time away from your
partner to check in with yourself, and
get some feedback from your trusted
friends or relatives. By taking space
and speaking with a trusted friend or
relative, you may gain a new perspective about your relationship.
For example, you may discover that
you have been pushing aside
information about your partner that
tells you this person cannot be
trusted. On the other hand, you may discover that your partner is
ultimately worthy of your trust.



10. Trust can fluctuate over time as each
of you experiences the bumps of life.
Reassure each other that your love
and safety are still intact. This will
further strengthen the foundation of
trust between the two of you.




Culled from Sunday Idika's: Build a Stronger Relationship.

Anybody that will go into a relationship and trust completely is a fool..
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Just as the poster above me said, its advisable not to trust completely in a relationship, because the truth is humans will always fail you cos nobody is mr/miss perfect.. And the magnitude/dept of the heartbreak after a failed relationship is directly proportional to the amount of trust put in the relationship.. So why not save yourself of that shattered heart??
I no even trust myself completely, so how I wan take trust somebody finish?

people still go into relationships?
OMG!!!!! I'M so out of touch.

Never trust anybody put ur trust in God.

TRUST NONE, FEAR GOD

The only thing i read frm this thread is trust none,fear God.the poster abv me tho.op next time put it in summary

Am not judging here but i think we ALL know that you cannot LOVE or TRUST 99%, it has to be 100%. So does this mean 'you' can actually Approach, Date, Marry and have chiildren for a 'human-being' you don't TRUST 100%? Hmmm...human beings get mind ooooo...

Above all, i know He who created Marriage as a Union is not a 'Learner' anyway. [God isn't a Learner]

I believe trust is a necessary ingredient in a good relationship.

Trust no one