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Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 10:39pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
AfroKnight: Well, you really can't blame the people for being wary. Some Nigerians really do dubious things, which makes people view Nigerians with a little suspicion. Blame the bad apples who ruin your image to the world. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Dilemma by abbssx(f): 10:40pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
AfroKnight: Why are you saying this? I never judged him on his background. I still dated him and gave him my number when I found out he was Nigerian. The paper thing unfortunately became an issue. People were warning me and I could not fully trust him. It's sad but that's how it was. You can read the replies on this thread and they are all mostly saying the same thing. This is why I even came here because of this |
Re: Dilemma by abbssx(f): 10:44pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
all4naija: I was laughing at the fact that you said I should break up so that I don't come complaining that all Nigerian men are bad lol 1 Like |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 10:44pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
abbssx: Gotcha! Well, good luck. What can I say? |
Re: Dilemma by abbssx(f): 10:45pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: Thank you my dear. I guess it's just life. |
Re: Dilemma by AfroKnight: 10:47pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
all4naija: Bro. Don't blame her. She has probably had bad experiences with Nigerians or heard of such. However myopic or hasty her opinion about Naija seems, it is certainly not going to change. She actually thinks she can help protect the OP. Prejudice exists everywhere even in her country. It's the way she sees the world. 1 Like |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 10:48pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
abbssx: IKR. Resting are the dead lol. Life is just so flippin hard hey. What doesn't kill you... 2 Likes |
Re: Dilemma by SemuhleB(f): 10:51pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
all4naija:I apologise if I hurt your feelings hun. Just know that you are not included in the ones I am talking about . You are an exception to the rule 2 Likes |
Re: Dilemma by Candyrain(m): 11:00pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: ... makes you strong |
Re: Dilemma by AfroKnight: 11:02pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: Every country has bad eggs. But not every product from China is a counterfeit. Not every Indian is Hindu. Not every Zulu is xenophobic. |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:09pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
AfroKnight: Yeah but you just can't change how people view these things no matter how many times you preach it. It just is what it is. I've also been accused of being xenophobic just for being South African, even though I've never carried a knobkerrie to clobber any foreigner living here. It's ignorance but hey *snap snap* |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:12pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
Candyrain: Puts you in coma 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Dilemma by ronald4lif(m): 11:13pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
SemuhleB: An illegal immigrant have same motive and exhibit desperation to regularise their stay when in a foreign country. No country is left out, not even yours. |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:23pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
abbssx: |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:25pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
SemuhleB:No hard feeling, hun! Just trying to correct your view in that area. Nothing more than that. I know you are a good person. |
Re: Dilemma by Candyrain(m): 11:25pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: hahahahaha |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:28pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
AfroKnight:I understand her more than most people here. She is more or less an old friend. We have gone through lots of arguments and we remain friends. Seriously, she is a cool lady I wish(more like my dream) a very descent Nigerian man should have her but she is already with her ethnic man! |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:28pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
PunkyVeer:With what? |
Re: Dilemma by AfroKnight: 11:30pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
abbssx: You said ALL your friends who dated Nigerian guys had issues with them and you thought you'd never date one of us. You gave him your number with a mind prepared to block him. He rang you several times for 3 days and you knew it was him but refused to take his calls. He told you he loved you and you dismissed it because you didn't believe it. You said you don't generally get involved with "fresh off the boat" guys cos they just want papers. You even expressed doubt at the authenticity of the breakup conversation he had with his Nigerian girl. These are just a few hints from within a year of your friendship/relationship with him. Reading through your story, anyone would think this guy is a crook and that is only because of how you have been defending yourself from him. I wonder if you would have treated a guy from another West African country the same way. As a rule I don't bother with people who doubt me. I have learned not to spend precious time trying to prove myself. I think that Nigerian guy deserves a break from you. He's been trying too hard to please someone who will never be convinced. The best you can do for him is to be frank. It will never work because he will never be believable. 3 Likes |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:31pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
The dilemma that this is requires that you just chill have your fun and keep your eyes open real wide yknow. Just take this easy with yourself gyal, you can't be too sure. |
Re: Dilemma by AfroKnight: 11:36pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: It's just sad. But hey, I don't think you're xenophobic and I'm sure you don't think I'm a crook, do you? |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:36pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
pinceprinz:I am on the idea they should separate for good. There is already mistrust and elements of wrong advice. With all I have seen here it will not end in a good relationship! |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:49pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
all4naija: You guys talk brkup like its bread n butter But well, its up to op to decide but am af that opinion that you gotta be absolutely sure before taking decisions to guard against possible regrets. However, don't get me wrong , the guy could have his own evil intents, left for the op to drive safe. Personally , I love adventures |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 11:54pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
AfroKnight: Lol |
Re: Dilemma by AfroKnight: 12:00am On Oct 04, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: I'll take that as a "No". |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 12:19am On Oct 04, 2015 |
AfroKnight: Lol, you must be thoroughly investigated before any official statement is made I told you I deal with evidence, not ASSumptions Just joking, buddy. I'm sure you're law abiding. |
Re: Dilemma by AfroKnight: 12:23am On Oct 04, 2015 |
PunkyVeer: |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 6:05am On Oct 04, 2015 |
abbssx:Hey, your story was nice. Really enjoyed every bit of it. Most Nigerian guys are chasing their dreams. The good ones are still around but it's kind of difficult to be with them. First, they're so busy with work. Second, if they're students, they're so busy too. Third, they are somewhat controversial because they often do stay away from women with "misconceptions" about love, and many more. To me, love should be equilibrium and not one-sided. |
Re: Dilemma by abbssx(f): 3:50pm On Oct 04, 2015 |
AfroKnight: You are wrong but let's just agree to disagree. I really don't have the energy to argue any further |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 4:48pm On Oct 04, 2015 |
abbssx:Aren't you a South African? |
Re: Dilemma by abbssx(f): 6:17pm On Oct 04, 2015 |
all4naija:Is South Africa located in West Africa? |
Re: Dilemma by Nobody: 6:31pm On Oct 04, 2015 |
abbssx: Lol, ask him again! All4naija, stop your obsession with SA 1 Like |
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