Kindly drop your comments also at the comment section of this post on Esther's blog at http://esther.com.ng/special-i-do-not-want-to-lose-my-marriage-what-do-i-do/

I have been sending most of your responses to the lady and she really appreciates it and would love to read more as I have not been able to keep up with sending all the replies to her.

Thank you

eyinjuege:
You have unfortunately married a man with no regard for you, and despite being the 'legal' wife your husband has become "our" husband. Way forward? It's a tough call, but you shouldn't suffer in silence. Inform his pastors, and this is just for record purposes. His family obviously don't want you in his life so there's no point seeking succour there.
It's time to face your self and improve your self for the sake of your child.
Hope you work, look for ways to get more financially empowered. Do new things, learn a skill, meet new people, join a club or social group that adds value to others. Have you gone to a higher institution? If you haven't, time to do so or go for some professional exam certifications. You need to keep busy so you don't wallow in self pity cos that depresses further.
What has happened has happened and you have learned an invaluable lesson.. Never trust completely a human being cos they are just humans and will always fail. Don't have expectations of people cos most times you often get disappointed.
Sorry about your heartaches.