zaza999:
Our company folded up and was closed down without payment of some months salary, let alone paying off. Since then it's not been easy financially and otherwise while seriously looking for job.

The one that surpises me is some friends' attitude since i am jobless.These are people when we were doing well in our office, we mingled together etc, but since the jobless saga started, many of them started disssociating themselves.They wont visit you as usual, they can't even give you a call, most time when you call them, they won't even pick your calls after seeing many missed calls from you on their phone but that wasn't the case when things were okay.

Telling them about helping you in search of jobs seems like a disturbance, many of them you will forward your cv to, will simply ignore making efforts while claiming as if they are doing anything on it. You will be seeing yourself as an abandoned fellow.The story is endless.

I begin to ask, are these as a result of wrong friends or normal thing. Advise or share your experience.

simplejayy:
no friend, no foe. spend your time with your family. no friends in reality. many will clinch because of the benefit they are getting or will get.

yvesboss:
OP...i can only say congratulations.

I stopped the issue of of friends stuff when my most deadliest secrets went up the air like breaking news..it can only be friends.

When my fone rings..if not bae, na glo, mtn or airtel (as my itel fone with 3 sims make me friend to all telecom coy).

Love yourself, Never b distant from fam, they are all yu v got.

But remember wen the tables turns, fans go yapa...its better keep them as fans, cuz they turn their backs wen a 'mourinho' starts exhibiting with you.

I now understand when dad tells me he neva keep friends.

sihom:
Lol - OP welcome to life and the real world. I was in the same situation once but I came through it a stronger and better person.

These valuable lessons helped me at the time and they continue to do so even now;

1. No one can change your life except you.

2. Everyone has problems and challenges of their own, do not expect anyone to take panadol for your headache.

3. Success in this life is your personal responsibility (Zainab) do not put it on any one.
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marshalcarter:
Never forger 3 types of friend in life


1-those who were with you in hard times

2-those who put you in hard times

3-those who left you in hard times

blackprowler:


You neva see anything. Veteran here, '40s. You need to look for Ebenezer Obey's song of the '60s, Shina Peters's song of 1989, even Tony One-week's of the 2000s to understand that you just start. There are no friends in Nigeria, even for some like me, no family. You never see anything. Everybody is fair-weather. They have no idea how they're ruining the country by that: ppl who could be very very great but stumbled and fall are trampled over by Nigerians and are very likely to die, and what great difference they would have made would never be known. I've always said it is the way we behave in Nigeria that is the cause of our failure as a country. The so-called government is composed of us too, with same evil heart.
Go and find moni by any means or else you'll end up having no one at all; the ones you'll hang on to will make you feel like a 3rd class human being and that they're doing you a great favour. This society is very sick indeed

Techangels:
EVEN AT TIMES FAMILY DEY DISSAPOINT.

WHEN I WAS IN SUCH SITUATION, MY MAMA SEF REFUSE TO BORROW ME 100K TO PAY PART OF MY HOUSE RENT., MY VERY GOOD FRIEND ALSO REFUSED TO HELP ME, KEPT POSTING ME. BUT GOD EVENTUALLY SAW ME THROUGH. NOW EVERYBODY DEY CALL ME UP AND DOWN.

daveP:
As much as il like to totally agree about this friend syndrome


those of you saying 'nothing like family' hope you know its hurts more, worse when what the OP is saying is done by your blood?

Lalasticlala, Fp o

zaza999:
Our company folded up and was closed down without payment of some months salary, let alone paying off. Since then it's not been easy financially and otherwise while seriously looking for job.

The one that surpises me is some friends' attitude since i am jobless.These are people when we were doing well in our office, we mingled together etc, but since the jobless saga started, many of them started disssociating themselves.They wont visit you as usual, they can't even give you a call, most time when you call them, they won't even pick your calls after seeing many missed calls from you on their phone but that wasn't the case when things were okay.

Telling them about helping you in search of jobs seems like a disturbance, many of them you will forward your cv to, will simply ignore making efforts while claiming as if they are doing anything on it. You will be seeing yourself as an abandoned fellow.The story is endless.

I begin to ask, are these as a result of wrong friends or normal thing. Advise or share your experience.

MadCow1:
OP..

Stop whining.. Its not personal.

Out of sight, out of mind. The moment you leave their line of sight, the less they see you. Its just natural.


Also your mindset awould make you see things that don't exist. You may be reading things that are not there. I have friends who are jobless that feel that because I am working and doing well I should be able to get them a job which in all honesty I cant. Not everybody who has a job has the ability to influence recruitment. Even those that work in H.R.

I hear a lot of anger and self pity in your post. I felt the same way too. I was just looking through my account statement a few minutes ago and was seeing transactions with colleagues from my old job that I have not even heard a word from ever since I left that job. They didn't even call to ask me how I was faring and stuff. I don't hold it against them, everybody is too busy trying to make a good life for themselves to be bothered with me.

However let me tell you about how I got my new job.. It was via recommendation by an old colleague who wasn't even that close to me sef then. But apparently, he was with his uncle who works in another company when their conversation got towards work and his uncle mentioned an availability for a job description that I used to do. He just mouthed off that he knew someone who did similar job in his company that just got laid off ad that's how I got a call out of nowhere from the guy saying to send my resume to his uncle. Till tomorrow its like a miracle of sorts because the person who did this for me was not my friend, just that guy that I would stop by his office to have some small talk with. I don't know his surname, never been to his house, never sat for drinks with him, never hung out with him. Just hang shakes and how are you sort of friend. I never even told him what I did nor do I know his job description either.

Basically, stop expecting too much from other people. Help will come when help comes. Maintain all friendships as best as you can as I believe good and bad friends have their uses.

Wishing you the best.

Luizkid:
it's always been like that. When u're successful, pple will run ur ba3 down with calls, but when d table turns u hardly even get a flash..

zaza999:
Our company folded up and was closed down without payment of some months salary, let alone paying off. Since then it's not been easy financially and otherwise while seriously looking for job.

The one that surpises me is some friends' attitude since i am jobless.These are people when we were doing well in our office, we mingled together etc, but since the jobless saga started, many of them started disssociating themselves.They wont visit you as usual, they can't even give you a call, most time when you call them, they won't even pick your calls after seeing many missed calls from you on their phone but that wasn't the case when things were okay.

Telling them about helping you in search of jobs seems like a disturbance, many of them you will forward your cv to, will simply ignore making efforts while claiming as if they are doing anything on it. You will be seeing yourself as an abandoned fellow.The story is endless.

I begin to ask, are these as a result of wrong friends or normal thing. Advise or share your experience.