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Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by blackprowler: 5:13pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
zaza999: You neva see anything. Veteran here, '40s. You need to look for Ebenezer Obey's song of the '60s, Shina Peters's song of 1989, even Tony One-week's of the 2000s to understand that you just start. There are no friends in Nigeria, even for some like me, no family. You never see anything. Everybody is fair-weather. They have no idea how they're ruining the country by that: ppl who could be very very great but stumbled and fall are trampled over by Nigerians and are very likely to die, and what great difference they would have made would never be known. I've always said it is the way we behave in Nigeria that is the cause of our failure as a country. The so-called government is composed of us too, with same evil heart. Go and find moni by any means or else you'll end up having no one at all; the ones you'll hang on to will make you feel like a 3rd class human being and that they're doing you a great favour. This society is very sick indeed 4 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by damiiee: 5:15pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
The truth is what you have described @ OP hurts but there are two sides to a coin. Some friends also, because you are working they assume you have all the money to spare and you can find them a job easily. Send me 2k.... They do not understand that because you work somewhere does not mean you can easily fix someone in that company Neither does it mean that you suddenly have networks and all the Dangote Connections. As yorubas would say.... Kashama shey dada ( always do good) Whether jobless or Jobful 6 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by simdam500(m): 5:16pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Op you should be thankful for this kind of time... some people have passed through this time and have came out strong, some hasn't so they no what await them. But in all everyone will eventually go through it... But what you should be appreciative cos it is better to go through this earlier in the stage of life than latter... Another thing is that it is an eye opener to choose your friends well when you get back to your feet! 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Techangels: 5:19pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
EVEN AT TIMES FAMILY DEY DISSAPOINT. WHEN I WAS IN SUCH SITUATION, MY MAMA SEF REFUSE TO BORROW ME 100K TO PAY PART OF MY HOUSE RENT., MY VERY GOOD FRIEND ALSO REFUSED TO HELP ME, KEPT POSTING ME. BUT GOD EVENTUALLY SAW ME THROUGH. NOW EVERYBODY DEY CALL ME UP AND DOWN. simplejayy: 3 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Nobody: 5:20pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
That is a normal thing. You would ping some in the morning, they would reply 3days later_ yet they keep changing dps (e.g) Friedplantain. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Digriz(m): 5:23pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
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Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by hedonistic: 5:23pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
sihom: Beautiful words on marble. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by blackprowler: 5:27pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
marshalcarter: Number 1 almost doesn't exist in Nigeria. Mistake ppl make is to equate someone on same level of nothingness with you as 1. If you were on a high level and you fall down, they're no longer excited to see you. People don't see ability in others in Nigeria, only success. While girls are the ones mostly blamed for this, I think it applies to everybody here. Interestingly I know someone who is 2 and 3 together: he's part of what ultimately put me in difficulty for the very reason that I wanted to help him as a friend, and he left me in difficulty when I finally fell face-flat. MAKE NO MISTAKE: this is not how the world is as some people are saying; this is how NIGERIA is...and I've been around and participated in a great deal of foreign discussions forums in my time 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Caracta(f): 5:31pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Never expect too much from people! In this life, I have learnt a lot. Family is everything. Like someone rightly said, invest in them because if it comes crashing down, good family would stand by you. Friends have failed me so many times that I've lost interest. So dear OP, suck it up and move on. Some friends are like brothers/sisters, they are so valuable they become part of the family. Invest in them. Don't depend on anyone. They are not obligated to help you. Just do good whichever way you can...especially to people you would probably never meet again. Help strangers. Sow good seed of faith and move on. Helpers and givers get out of difficult times easily. Don't wait until you are a millionaire. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Nobody: 5:35pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
is it only me or did you also notice that when the melodrama is just starting you that is when you begin to hear words like, "na so life be'? blackprowler: |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by ebengems(m): 5:35pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
it is one of nature's law 1 Like
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Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Daronyk(f): 5:38pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
This is real world u are experiencing now. you can never tell the comfort of people around u until you are in difficulties. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by kosokoadeyemi: 5:38pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
There is nothing like co-workers,it just matter of time,face ur family@home&God almighty,that my advice. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Caracta(f): 5:39pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Some of us are also guilty of this. If you were not good to your friend in time of need, don't cry a river in your own time of need. Remember Miss Karma! 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by sthugo: 5:40pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
@op u just discovered its all about OYO THINK,RECREATE,DARE and FORGE ahead Thats what makes us strong and successful,dont live on self pitty... Great ppl fall and stand taller.. 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by nigeriancuban: 5:41pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
That's life for you ,even the bible said that to those who have more will be give and when you lost them ,even the little you have will be taken from you.....no one wants to identify with a failure nowadays,even your close friends will even do the worse harm....only God can help in such crucial times |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by great664(m): 5:41pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Lol, the reason is simple: NOBODY wants to associate with you when you are NOBODY 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by simplejayy(m): 5:42pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Techangels:God dey! |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by enm(m): 5:42pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Someone rightly said earlier, everyone got problem. Some broke up friends are the cause of why their friends dump them or stay away. Being broke is not licence to be demanding for assistance from your friends and expect them to always meet up with your demands, they too have issues to take care of. I once have a friend who was always demanding. In his joblessness state he gave birth to another child and got his wife pregnant again. He has a second lady whom he intend making his second wife, an aged father and mother to take care of and here i am a bachelor at over 30 trying to settle down, and with my own financial responsibility. Even when you are complaining of cash crunch, he still expect you to attend to his need first. During all this i always remember my father who was dump by his friends and relatives, people that he help at the detriment of his family. There are friends he single-handedly paid their house rent, went ahead to provide them feeding money for them and their family, fuelling their cars and so on but they deserted him when things changed and some where saying " what did he do with his money" So before we critize our friends action let try and know where they are coming from. You will have friends who will want to help but their family first and some, is our attitude or reaction is what drove them away. 16 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by abdullkabar(m): 5:42pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
There is a saying that goes thus.....trust no one because even your shadow leaves you in the dark(it aint an ordinary saying) I personally use it as a guide.....if you are married,you will be startled when your wife too shows the aww act(not all of them tho).....Moral: pray,wish,hope for the best...expect the worst 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Nobody: 5:47pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
May God provide yhu with anoda job. M also jobless @ d moment, though my friends are not moving away from me but this unemployment of a thing z really getting out of hand and I think itz d trending topic on most sites @ d moment. 3 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by hedonistic: 5:49pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
daveP: I think family in this case means one's nuclear family.. Your parents and your real brothers and sisters. Forget cousins or uncles and distant relatives... 4 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by kaboninc(m): 5:49pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
zaza999: You made the wrong friends... |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by delors(m): 5:53pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Well, it depends on the friends and ur level of friendship with them. I have friends u r currently jobless but we still chat n BBM calls a lot...and even mock one another about their status...regardless, we help when we can...that's true friendship 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by hedonistic: 5:54pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
MadCow1: Well, Mad Cow? There's clearly a method to your madness. Excellent perspective. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by delishpot: 5:54pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
A lot of people are like that. In your weakness they dump you. Sometimes I also believe it is because we overlook those that trully care about us (we say they are too pushy too clingy always wanting to know how we are doing or what ever excuse we find to give just to avoid them) and befriend users who wont call us or even care to know how we are doing per se. 3 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by gsalvatore: 5:54pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
NO SUCH THING AS FRIENDS.... ONLY ALLIES AND ENEMIES. 5 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by StealthyMe(m): 5:55pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Don't be downcast. Its a phase that lets you know who your true friends are. You'll soon be back on your feet, but never forget what you passed through during these trying times. 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by vislabraye(m): 5:56pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Luizkid: Yes.There are both sides to it. Some people when they make money, they stop flowing with their former friends. But when money is no more, they come back to the same friends they've forgotten. I know a relative that when all was well with him, he didn't care about us. (It wasn't as if we needed his money, though.) He was rather friendly to other family members who though were rich, but they exaggerated their wealth. Things went bad for this particular dude and the relatives he was close to ignored him. But today he's no coming close to us and sometimes gets assistance. Life can be funny. 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Fweezy(m): 5:56pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Anger can only breed anger and hate only more hate. If so called friends can no longer support or in the least encourage each other in desperate times, It can only mean that everyone will eventually end up having only enemies in the future and no friends at all. But I think by now u can very well understand why most of ur pri. and second school teachers looked down on u while in sch so angrily as tho ur parents had offended dem by not helpin dem get better jobs b4 u were born 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by scobaba: 5:59pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Bros its everywhere. Its not that the friends are bad. It just happens. I hav shifted jobs three tyms. Wt an idle period of 6 months in between them. In those tyms i experienced same situation u are talking about. Some really hurt me wt the avoidance thing, but there were still some i dint expect any better from. Somehow when i rebounced, i found myself still rolling wih dem. I dont know sha. But i dont know how to keep grudges. My current job really placed me ahead of all of them financially, a good opportunity to pay back cos these guys all flock around now asking for contracts and reminding you how close you all were , where you all are comin from bla bla bla. I try to still maintain tyns, but its hard to forget. Just focus on getting back on your feet, then decide what to do with those kind of friends. All the best. 4 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by oyeezah(f): 5:59pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
zaza999:those aren't friends, dey r users, ppl who only come around wen d going is good n everytn is worth celebrating but flee at d slightest occurrence of hardship. True friends celebrate with you, remain with you when the going gets tough and look for ways to help better your life. |
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