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Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Akexstinger(m): 1:15am On Oct 28, 2015 |
Yeah sometimes we feel lonely and abandoned when we are down but that's because we chose to. Like me, i don't expect too much from friends so that i don't get disappointed in them. When i was about finishing my nysc, i was so disturbed concerning the aftermath of my nysc. With all my popularity, i had friends that were and are still working in the oil industry, i had a second thought about going to stay with them, cos i know what it will feel like 'another load' so i decided not to bug anybody with my own wahala. I had to go into marketing stuff 2 months before the close of my nysc and this kept me busy and made me to stop expecting much from people. only one of my guys working in chevron calling me and meeting me "A true friend and a brother for life, TIMZY Ogu " No time to even call friends who were doing great and i didn't feel their absence. Lemme tell u something, whether you like it not, those guys u know that are big shots and are your friends, anytime u are down and u decide to call them, so many thinking/thoughts go through their minds when you are calling ' why is he disturbing me, he is calling me for cash, this guy get wahala, guy i no get time for you". And when you do that constantly, they start avoiding you. The bottom line is : get yourself busy and if you feel that u need to say hello to them, a text message will do and believe me, majority of them would prefer you sending them text. And one thing you should know , after helping you out or picking your calls, they will discuss ur matter with their friends. so its better you keep your head high and earn the respect. 4 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by CertifiedSamuel: 5:18am On Oct 28, 2015 |
More reason why I really don't have or place much emphasis on making friends. Family sure rocks my boat. 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by aweezy001: 6:13am On Oct 28, 2015 |
hedonistic: Family is not defined that way anymore.... Family is who you can stand for and can stand for you also. Can be your family, friend, stranger, whatsoever! ... Now thats a family! God bless us all. God bless our country! 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by aweezy001: 6:33am On Oct 28, 2015 |
Tamakay:Nice one sir ....Lool To remove the goats from the sheeps! |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by favourlove1: 6:46am On Oct 28, 2015 |
daveP:nice one. My family is a turn in my flesh right now. Diff strokes for diff folks 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by aweezy001: 6:48am On Oct 28, 2015 |
OlayinkaM1:You know say Naija nor dey carry last ..Lool Trust our people nah |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Adortem: 7:09am On Oct 28, 2015 |
Never rely on people,don't expect too much from them,"we are only human"...
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Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by pomsky: 7:17am On Oct 28, 2015 |
marshalcarter: [size=14pt]........4-those who brought you out of hard times![/size] 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Lordnewton1(m): 7:29am On Oct 28, 2015 |
now you know you never truly had friends |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Blackfire(m): 7:35am On Oct 28, 2015 |
I hate that word friend.. I will rather have a devil, than an unrealistic contraption called friend. *In 2pac voice * F.u.CK FRIEND 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by rukkyland(m): 7:37am On Oct 28, 2015 |
Jesus is a friend you need... he is the only hope for the hopeless. 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by rukkyland(m): 7:38am On Oct 28, 2015 |
fix your eyes on Jesus. do not look at the storm. life goes on. help will come your way. ijn. 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by marshalcarter: 7:52am On Oct 28, 2015 |
pomsky:2 bullets for you |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by kaboninc(m): 8:02am On Oct 28, 2015 |
dearpreye: Words on marble! Thanks 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by victoriousgems: 8:42am On Oct 28, 2015 |
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Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Ndeewonu: 9:15am On Oct 28, 2015 |
400billionman: All you wrote would have been excellent but for one thing: saying Jesus had bodyguards. Jesus had no bodyguards. Which Oga washes the feet of his bodyguards? Which oga eats on the same table, and the same food with his body guards? Which Oga wears the same clothes as his body guards? Today, you can easily point out all our GOs and Bishops amidst a crowd of praise-singing sycophantic worshippers and bodyguards. Do you know why it took Judas to point out who was actually Jesus? It is simply because they all dressed alike, ate together, had no class distinction and differentiation, which made it difficult for the Jews to identify who was actually Christ. Get corrected, please! 2 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by PUMPIN11(m): 9:22am On Oct 28, 2015 |
4C2215131:5. Those you left in hard times Let's all stop being selfish n c tru our own short-comings 1st. OP, keep ur head up......(in 3min3m's voice) dnt let nobody tell u u aint beautiful 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Nobody: 9:39am On Oct 28, 2015 |
kaboninc: You're welcome brother. Where have you been? Happy to read from you once again. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by SylarsMcQuins: 9:44am On Oct 28, 2015 |
I know this is actually not the right time for this buh your beautiful and Yahweh bless ur hustle queenfav: |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by 400billionman: 9:49am On Oct 28, 2015 |
Ndeewonu: It is normal for followers to protect their master. It is in that light that i mentioned bodyguards, moreover Peter removed someones ears to prevent his arrest. The disciples mostly screened visitors who got to meet him. These things are evident in the scriptures.. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Nobody: 10:45am On Oct 28, 2015 |
OP, experience, they say, is the best teacher. But I believe it's the worst kind of a teacher. What you're currently passing through was where exactly my dad was a few years after he lost his only source of income. Prior to that time, our home used to be filled to the brim with all sorts of unwanted and wanted visitors. My dad was literally solving almost everyone else's problems. In fact he wanted to take the place of Elshaddai. LOL. But when he lost his job, the grim reality that greeted him was so dim and deep that he steeped into a long period of depression. I played no little role in encouraging him to restart again. And today he's doing just fine, and won't spend a dine without a good reason. When he lost his job, like an ATM out of cash, his so called dearest folks abandoned him, refuse to pay back the debts they owed him, mocked at him and even extended that mockery to us the children. All those he used to hang around with were gone. No more friends. He was left alone to the stark reality that when the chips are down, you're on your own. Once you're out of job, many folks see you as the newest burden and pest in town. Your phone number becomes disgusting to them. It's nature. It's human nature. The average Nigerian is burdened with their own challenges that they hardly have anytime to think or ponder about the challenges of others. But this is where the genuine friends come to play. Oftentimes we mistake those we always hangout as our friends. That's a grave mistake. Our friends are those who will stand by us, admonish us to save for the rainy days while we are working, criticise us for being financially wasteful and myopic. Again this is where emergency fund comes into play. At any point in time, as workers or employees, we OWE ourselves the duty to have a minimum of 6 months living expenses saved for the rainy day. Being temporarily out of job is one of those rainy days. OP,this is another opportunity for you to evaluate yourself. It's a growing season. It's a learning season. It's another opportunity to prune and identity the true friends. It's yet a time to seek other means of survival. I feel your pain. Being jobless is a threat to our dignity, honour and peace of mind. When the chips are down, YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN! This is a wakeup call to those who are employed and working. Save your money. Invest your money. Pursue Your own financial target. Stop trying to solve all of others problems; it's not your duty. You will never know the value of money till you're out of job. Thank you. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Bobnotrouble: 10:49am On Oct 28, 2015 |
Guy, you sound as if you're equally guilty this scenario as well when the going was good. How come you know what your previous colleagues/friends were doing now without any benefit of the doubt? Never mind. May GOD give you a befitting source of income soonest. Trust and rely on GOD only to avoid disappointment. Best of luck. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by cupidhero(m): 11:23am On Oct 28, 2015 |
Below is the code i live by and it has never failed me, and i think people should limit their expectations when it comes to man in other to avoid disappointment. I have never been wrong about those i labelled as potential bad friends,they always end up acting out my predictions about them. In a world filled with liars,pretenders and opportunists it realy pays to to be wise and observant. I never give out help to people and expect help from them in the future so i'm never disappointed when they say NO to me when i reach out for help. Apple or no apple man will always be man , i no even sure say e reach one month before adam and him babe come fall baba God hands and i think those bitching bout helping people and not receiving help back from them should STFU.....dem use gun force you to help them abi una sign any agreement saying they must help you? You got served in your own game you dull opportunist. I hate "Weta ishi were ishi". Matthew 10:16 Behold , i send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves : be ye therefore wise as serpents , and harmless as doves. 1 Like |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by OlayinkaM1(m): 1:14pm On Oct 28, 2015 |
aweezy001: Some pple will just be forming sha |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by kaboninc(m): 1:46pm On Oct 28, 2015 |
dearpreye: I've been around bro. I just don't comment as I used to do but am always around. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Nobody: 1:47pm On Oct 28, 2015 |
kaboninc: That's good shaa.....as far as you're OK. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by odaniel1(m): 4:30pm On Oct 28, 2015 |
I currently suffer d same thing and can relate with OP. Most distasteful is the fact that you could have done more for most of these desertee friends. Life is not tit for tat but sometimes, because of the sacrifice you put in for others, you expect you will at least get a recompense even in the least form. However, what you get are insults and rejections that would be otherwise meted out to inanimate things as toxic waste. My advice; Be strong and look ahead for better times, you've been on top before: know your enemies and your friends better so that when you bounce back, you can defend your space. Some friends you reach out to for assistance will ridicule or belittle you, take note of them. Not for jealousy but for motivation. No problem lasts forever, press buttons until there are no fingers nor buttons to press and you'd strike gold soon! |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by titosantana(m): 10:09pm On Oct 28, 2015 |
mykel231: You have a point, but you should have asked how much he was earning before the insult. Some people's salary are not savable. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by MYMINDER(m): 1:39am On Oct 29, 2015 |
sihom: [color=#000099][/color] It is God that reveals our enemies (those that do not sincerely wish us well) to us. A good number of times it is those who we deem close that turn out to be far when events of life take center stage. |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Debayurr: 8:16am On Oct 29, 2015 |
arabianights:Like seriously..in this context am talking about ur immediate nuclear family(Dad,Mum nd siblings of same parents)...Do we still have those who's nuclear family even desert them in times like this?that's completely insane o..except I don't get the point you're making |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by Ganjafama(m): 8:20am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Am currently passing thru same situation as the op. Worked in a company that was liquidated and our salaries and payoff weren't paid. It's being tough having to take care of a wife and 2 kids. My brothers and cousins who used to call me for help all abandoned me. They don't even call and am not bothered. I have done all sorts of jobs - even security job just to take care of my kids. I have made up my mind to fight alone and I MUST win alone. 4 Likes |
Re: The Attitude Of Friends When You Are Jobless. by arabianights: 9:57am On Oct 29, 2015 |
Debayurr: boss, i know of a lot of nuclear families that sibling rivalry, eny etc is soo much that they dont wish themselves luck or asist each other.People claim blood is thicker than water, in waht sense ? i beleive has to to with you as an individual as some people are more of blood relatives than even the blood . If one is blessed with a supportive nuclear family, then they need to be very grateful |
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