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Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by jabojafa(m): 6:33am On Nov 16, 2015 |
HaneefahRN:hw sure are we if d bf is able to support a family yet? |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by firstking01(m): 6:38am On Nov 16, 2015 |
Op, sm ppl are wired to be useless, i knw sm like that, except God intervens, my sister, there's nothinhg u can do. I have a sister like that. |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Rhemmymatician(m): 7:05am On Nov 16, 2015 |
octopusfreaky:"...at D's stage..." I see what you did there |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Emade(m): 8:25am On Nov 16, 2015 |
you guys fail to let her learn from her mistake too bad expect her to bring another pregnancy because she no suffer for the first one |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by hicent: 8:38am On Nov 16, 2015 |
cyprus000:bro u have sed it all...u just spoke wat i had in mind to comment. |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by fpeter(f): 8:56am On Nov 16, 2015 |
take the child from her and send her to a disciplinary school. 1 Like |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by NET1(m): 9:24am On Nov 16, 2015 |
Encourage your mum to send her away. It will be painful for a while, but I bet you, when she sees how hard life is, she will come back to her senses and obey. Sometimes, that;s the only way to correct these adolescents wey no wan hear word. .NET |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by NemzySeries(m): 10:28am On Nov 16, 2015 |
as far as I'm concern d most painful part of d story is d Egg stealing part she transfers to her visionless babypapa & so called moda in law.....if she wanna b useless dos she nids to include ur farm into her life style?......17yrs is no child so itz beta u warn her wella...dem neva born any of ma younger bros to talk to mumcy anyhw talkmore of bin rude to her....ma fada wunt use police on u b4 d new gets to me sef.....ma dear talk to her or push her out....life is too small 4 nonsense & orda stewpid acts |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by GerogeI(m): 11:06am On Nov 16, 2015 |
Agathabishen: So OP, there is nothing like "she is already a drop out". So the first thing is that since you and your mum are the ones funding the baby, and your sister is still a minor being 17 years, Your mum should take the baby from your sister and take over care of the baby. This will free your sister to continue building her young life. Secondly to refocus your sister, since having a baby as a teenager is not the end of the world. You need to change the environment for your sister. Change of environment will also disconnect her from the man that got her pregnant, else she will get impregnated again. Remember females think first with their hearts. So fight tooth and nail to move your sister to a new environment if you want to save her from a life of regrets. Best is also to get her into school, even if it is a diploma school. She could learn simple things such as secretarial studies and start from their. If in school, she will meet other girls of her age, which will challenge her to make better of her self. If you cannot afford school, see if you have a relation who can, or who she can stay with for a while. She can also become an apprentice during the period. Basically just get her to learn something in exchange for taking care of her baby. By the way, her arguing and stealing is not strange if she is just sitting at home doing nothing. She and her baby have needs that must be met. Sincerely hope that by this post makes an impact on moving your family forward 1 Like |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 11:24am On Nov 16, 2015 |
Flashh:Guy Abeq send yur acct no. Mek ah send 9k insyd 4 wetin yew jst talk nw... |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 11:30am On Nov 16, 2015 |
Agathabishen: As a lot of people have said she seems to be someone that will only learn by experience. Listen you guys should sit her down. Very calmly and firmly tell her that you want her out!. List all the reasons why you guys are telling her to go!. No ranting and raving be very calm but deadly serious. Tell her she can come back when she has come to her senses and is ready to follow house rules and is ready to go back to school. Have a list of what you expect from her if she wants to return. Pack her loads and drag her to her baby daddy's house . Let her suuufffferrr. Then her head will be correct. But tell her you will not under ant circumstances welcome her back if she gets pregnant again!. Get her birth control tablets to take with her. You people are molly coddling her. She doesn't know what life is. Let her go and find out and realise all the rubbish she has been doing. Please do it before she destroys her life even more. |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 12:06pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
Agathabishen:This is what happens when parents train their daughters to worship men. You hear them say "is this what you will do or how you will talk when you get to your husband's house"? Now,your 17yr old sister can think of nothing more than 'man'. She is now a man pleaser and doesn't see the need to empower herself. Poor home training. 1 Like |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Akhere1: 12:53pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
[Live her let her finish what is her mind when she finished she we get herself back |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Seculent: 1:16pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
GalzLuvYomy:You mean this thing wey you talk at all? |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by TheyStoleMyName(m): 2:19pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
Dear Agatha, my advice would be to detach yourself, emotionally that is, from your little sister as I believe you might be a major contributor to her waywardness through your propensity for overpampering. Your mom is the one ultimately responsible for her future, not you, and you should definitely stand back and let your mom correct her previous mistakes concerning your sister. She may get it right or not but it's not for you to micromanage. I believe you have your own life to live. She is not your daughter. The best you can do is live by example, and I'm not talking about just behaving right but about results. Show her your way works, then hope she gets a few cues from you on the best way to approach life. I know because I had a difficult little brother who literally worshipped me. I was his role model, he listened to me and followed in my footsteps more than he did his parents, a bit too closely if I might add, right up to the time he passed due to an ill-managed congenital defect. But before then, I had tried in vain to beat some sense into him when we was much younger but had to stop when I got tired much like the state you're in now and let nature take its course. So don't live precariously through your baby sister, instead live FOR her if you love her that much. Ps: might I suggest you take away her poultry/egg priviledges. It's your farm. Tell her, start your own poultry if you want to feed for your baby daddy's family, see if she stays away from them. You have to be strong, if not tough on her. Take away other priviledges if you need to. Don't know if you know about "tough love". 1 Like |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 4:30pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
Send her to go and live with the baby daddy and his family! she will come back begging and loaded with sense after she has experience hunger and perhaps a little neglect from them. she is taking u guys (her family) for granted. I tell you thats how to make some people learn. |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by simdam500(m): 8:19pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
I hate to say this but i will, if choices are to be made during child begat-ing, i wont opt in for female child but unfortunately since it had happen i'll say d op should do as this quote says: Politicos: Parental failure. Before I put forward workable suggestions, let me state categorically that you all have failed to raise a child. Who feeds her? Who buys her clothes? Who shelters her? Unless this story is fictional, I am shocked that after begetting a baby through reckless sexual exploration you guys still cannot stamp your authority over her. You gave her too much room too early. Here is the return! |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by simdam500(m): 8:27pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
Seculent: Beating as nothing to do with this.seriously? My broda it sometimes do and it works like magic besides she's not 20yet |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Nobody: 8:33pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
simdam500: Female children are no curse. I have got four as siblings. Neither of them has brought us shame nor pain. The last one will be walked down the aisle in a few days. It is not the gender, it is parental handiwork. |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by Erums(m): 8:33pm On Nov 16, 2015 |
onatisi:....nice one, but if she's still nailing the boy, then she must be ready to dance to thier negotiations, for me also, the boy is irresponsible so expect thee worse |
Re: Help Me My Sister Is Getting Out Of Hand by sham2007: 8:33pm On Mar 15, 2016 |
Stories that touch the heart. But Agatha this is a wrong forum. |
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