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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Timoleon(m): 11:16am On Nov 21, 2015

iamrealdeji:
so,Nsuka is a town? I used to think it's just a name of a University

the university is in d town called nsuka. like uni ibadan, uni ife, ....

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by ifyjohnson(f): 11:17am On Nov 21, 2015

I just baffles me how some people came here to lie about other culture is annoying funny thing is most people saying one thing or the other have never been there to witness it themselves y lie to make fun of another culture. I even saw a post here someone mention Abia hmmm pls gather ur facts right before making any claim at least am from Abia and I can safely say that our bride price is cheap

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by 2sex(m): 11:18am On Nov 21, 2015

princejayboss:

Oga.... If you look at the list you see that there other things like the money for the cook, decorations and so on ....

As far as my personal opinion is concern...marry her if you have the money

Besides in Igbo land its not a must that you provide all that once .... You can do the important ones and complete them over the years as you live with the girl though this depends on the relationship between you and your in-laws.

My brother god forbid you are saying is that you have not yet want to marry or you don't have money to marry ..... Do you think is easy to find the right woman when the time comes ......

As for me .... I can pay that money 1000x to have wife over and over again cos she worth it

That's what many people don't understand. 500k isn't something to sneez at....

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by agarawu23(m): 11:21am On Nov 21, 2015

obum88:

Marriage is for the strong not the weak

weak my foot

I should spend 500k foolishly? undecided

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Nobody: 11:21am On Nov 21, 2015

Acidosis:
Any man that willingly sacrifice these goodies at the expense of his suffering and struggling family deserves to be beaten publicly.

I will never sacrifice this for any family in the name of marriage. It is not about being broke, it is about teaching a greedy and gluttonous family how to be considerate and loving.

I'm not buying a wife for crying out loud. I'm simply marrying a wife.

Funny thing is, most of these girls aren't virgins. Did her first man ~~paid~~ pay anything to the family?

I'd advise the girl to write a proposal soliciting fund from her ex and campus boyfriends in order to pay her family.

Assuming she had s exed 6 boyfriends on campus, they all should pay N80k each, then give the money to the new husband to pay her family OFF.
CASE CLOSED!

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Temmytea70(m): 11:24am On Nov 21, 2015

dubemnaija:
OK...It happened that I 'escorted' this friend of mine to Nsukka in ENUGU STATE to go meet the parents and the family of the girl he wants to settle down with. We were asked to come back the next day for 'The List'. Shaa, to cut the long story short, we returned the next day, and I was like WTF!!

Not that am vexed at NSK people for the high price/cost of getting married to their girls; BUT my anger is that this particular girl that my friend wants to marry is even yet to graduate from her school (a poly) ~~and she's not even fine~~ . So on what basis should the list be that high?

Also, what on earth will these guys do with the 50Gallons (NOT 50Gallon o, but Gallons) of palm-wine and 100 tubers of BIG yams that they asked my friend to bring??

NOTE: Cost of wedding no dey the list o! probably after the traditional and white wedding, the couple will resort to eating sand.

www.dubemnaija..com

Since the demands are in phases, I'll be leaving their daughter too in phases......at long last, dem go put their daughter for OLX..... .. Rubbish

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Timsilver(m): 11:25am On Nov 21, 2015

safarigirl:
the ones they marry for thirty naira are the ones that cheat. Those ones with five children from 3 different men. Igbo marriages are the most stable in the entire South.

A woman who cheats on her husband in parts of Igbo land will either die or run mad. Dem no dey train ashi

I had to login just to respond to this. Not trying to provoke you but it's either you are ignorant or chose to be ignorant on a lot of things. Ibo women don't cheat please... And all those stuff about going crazy is trash. The rate at which Ibo women cheat is extremely on the high side. They are only smarter at covering up.

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Fourwinds: 11:25am On Nov 21, 2015

MrAboki:

Wait o..

How much are my Cars worth?

How much is my House?

Total material asset value nko?

Then because you brought 1 million Naira to spend on marriage festivities, you think you have earned the right to get an invoice or bill of sale?

If I were to sell them as slaves, I wouldn't accept 20 million Naira for them. So stop feeling like you are entitled because you sent some lousy sum on a Traditional wedding ceremony.

This poor in spirit mentality is not something to be proud of.

If the girl is worth it, I will drop a stack on it. Jacob for bible do house boy for 14 years to pay for ehn wife bride price. 500k and you dey make noise.

14 years was for two bride prize...he was deceive and had to serve to get d rite bride....even d yaers could have been reduced... go and read about d man who is father to to girls and see if there is nothing peculiar to d present day fathers or relatives who sell their daughters in d name of bride prize

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by jumobi1(m): 11:26am On Nov 21, 2015

I'm an asset and my wife is not my property but God's. If I give her family 500000, it's out of love. If culture demands dowry, I'll pay no more than 10K out of respect for culture. No one is making me pay 500000 naira because they know I can pay it. Even my wife to be will tell her parents not to try that.
Good women are assets....so are good men.

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by safarigirl(f): 11:26am On Nov 21, 2015

lefulefu:
haha so dem still dey put woman for fattening room in this mordern age? Na waoooooh.by the way on the issue of culture.selling your dauther to the highest bidder and making it that its all about money no be positive tradition.even oyibo ppl fit frown at am the same way dem no agree with human sacrifices and d killing of twins way back.A man must pay dowry and other things cos its our culture but when parents they hike prices cos dem dey reason how much dem wan hammer dat one na greed oo.

nobody sells their child.

If there is any tribe that takes pride in female kids in Nigeria and even Africa, it's the Igbos. The most educated women are Igbo. The Igbo man trains his daughter to be an asset and not a liability to her husband, he will send his daughter to school till PHD sef and send his son to learn trade after his Secondary school.

To accuse them of selling these same daughters that they cherish is an insult. If you don't have 500k to pay for a well trained girl, then another man who knows her value will have it and pay without announcing to the world how much he paid like all these kids on NL.

The OP is very immature, is he the one getting married or did his friend ask for his help? Thousands of Igbo girls marry every year and their husbands don't go announcing how much he paid, many men have paid 2 million sef and this guy is coming here to announce 500k as if the girl's family won't be the one to organize the traditional marriage and foot all bills.

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by agarawu23(m): 11:27am On Nov 21, 2015

pet4ril:
this is serious... No wonder an edo guy fell in love with an ibo guy both living abroad and the huy knowing edo marriage ia not that expensive went ahead and asked for list from the ibo girls parents... O'boy you go fear list as e almost reach 2million. Na so the guy paranoid quit rlship sharp sharp go him town go marry and start another building with the remaining change as a sign of remembrance.... It was after his marriage that the ibo parents called him that they can amend the list butit was already late because omo guy was enjoying his honeymoon..... Till date 7years back, the girl is still single.... . No matter how wealthy a man is, is better they invest on physical things to show than making mouth on how much they spent on a mere wedding

thank you jare

I can't spend my money foolishly on a wedding that ppl will eat and drink not minding how the couple is ganna survive.

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by shogz89: 11:28am On Nov 21, 2015

safarigirl:
the ones they marry for thirty naira are the ones that cheat. Those ones with five children from 3 different men. Igbo marriages are the most stable in the entire South.

A woman who cheats on her husband in parts of Igbo land will either die or run mad. Dem no dey train ashi

Story ... Been a cheat no be tribe thing,, it's an individual thing... Even fulani wife way day carry cloth cover face day cheat

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Goldienana(f): 11:28am On Nov 21, 2015

I dont need to go through dt list. Am from Nsukka n my sis pride price was #1000. Ijedi meaning first visit to ur husband hus can be anything he gives u, like shopping for u n all dt. Nsukka town don't gv list.dis is nonsense.

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Krismart(m): 11:30am On Nov 21, 2015

Fourwinds:
keep selling ur daughters... after d payment whatever dat happens to her don't talk sha....because u have sold her

Yu talk about selling: how much do u think u can pay for a human being? What is 500k? nobody is forcing u to marry from there if you can't afford it. Urhobo and Benin girls full ground

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by oluamid(m): 11:30am On Nov 21, 2015

safarigirl:
nobody is selling anybody. Do you know how many cows you buy if you want to marry an Hausa girl? When you go to marry an Edo girl, you drop money to enter her father's compound, drop to enter the house, drop to see the chic.... spend at least 30k to see one girl wey you Don see finish. In Cross River, women go into a fattening room before marriage where they are fed till they gain weight, is it every man that wants a fat woman? Abi did he not know of her size before asking her hand in marriage? These are people's cultures, you may not understand it, but you shouldn't ridicule it either.

While a white man will try to understand a culture, the black man just ridicules it. This a bad attitude.

The fact that you are trying to rationalize it already means there's something not right about the practice. Culture is made for man not man for culture. Some of our cultural practises need reviewing in the face of modern realities. The issue of outrageous amounts of money to get married (bride price) is something that needs to be phased out .

Methinks a legislation is needed to compel families to lower their demands from their would-be son-in-law. No amount of money or materials can be equated with a human life. If you ask me to bring N3m to marry your daughter, does that mean that is how much she is worth to you? If she's truly valuable to you then her worth should be priceless.

#my2kobo

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Benbelor(m): 11:30am On Nov 21, 2015

Aitee1:

Is not even a matter of travelling, honestly yolobas are the most dumb what stops them from reading wide, these days information is so cheap but they prefer to depend on the stereotypes hateful stories told by their forefathers about other tribes

lol....abeg let's not start a tribal bigotry here,before Missiles start falling

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by princejayboss: 11:30am On Nov 21, 2015

dazzlingd:
op, thanks for this info....

girls for marriage or girls for sale...

Lets not kid around with every thing.

How much do you want to spend for marriage 2k naira?

People are really unbelievable.....

Assuming you want to marry...so you don't have to eat that day or drink.... Food and drink will obviously cost at least 200k considering the cost of things in Nigeria now

So people will sit on the floor not seat?

People will be under the sun ... No canopies ?

You will not buy your wife to be a good cloth and good shoes to wear that day?

Because you want it cheap ...you should also tell your own family to come by legs ... No transportation?

Or maybe that day on the traditional wedding you will not serve kola ?

Or maybe you will not provide the traditional right cos you want cheap article bah?

But you will spend such in your oyibo adopted white wedding?

Lets be realistic here.... There is no way a traditional wedding will not cost 500k at least.

If you think its too much for you then go find another girl from a cheap tribe but after everything you will still spend at least 300 to 400k

Because you think its costly will not change people tradition ok.

Am more concern about white wedding that oyibo brought for us.... .

Most people shouting its costly and all that are young boys who are not off age to marry or who are greedy that wants cheap things or people with no job.

When you are ready to marry... You should know

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Mekyno(m): 11:31am On Nov 21, 2015

dubemnaija:
OK...It happened that I 'escorted' this friend of mine to Nsukka in ENUGU STATE to go meet the parents and the family of the girl he wants to settle down with. We were asked to come back the next day for 'The List'. Shaa, to cut the long story short, we returned the next day, and I was like WTF!!

Not that am vexed at NSK people for the high price/cost of getting married to their girls; BUT my anger is that this particular girl that my friend wants to marry is even yet to graduate from her school (a poly) ~~and she's not even fine~~ . So on what basis should the list be that high?

Also, what on earth will these guys do with the 50Gallons (NOT 50Gallon o, but Gallons) of palm-wine and 100 tubers of BIG yams that they asked my friend to bring??

NOTE: Cost of wedding no dey the list o! probably after the traditional and white wedding, the couple will resort to eating sand.

www.dubemnaija..com

some things are nt adding up here. Is either u made up to plaint dem black or u want to show off for dem dat u are a rich guy.
If u rich u can even give dem more dan dat bt if u really want to marry, u can do it with lyk 100k. Call ur wife and a relative (or d family on one-on-one basis) dat know wats-up to give u a way out/ short cuts.

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by shogz89: 11:33am On Nov 21, 2015

Aitee1:

Is not even a matter of travelling, honestly yolobas are the most dumb what stops them from reading wide, these days information is so cheap but they prefer to depend on the stereotypes hateful stories told by their forefathers about other tribes

wetin carry yoruba come thus matter now

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by safarigirl(f): 11:34am On Nov 21, 2015

Timsilver:

I had to login just to respond to this. Not trying to provoke you but it's either you are ignorant or chose to be ignorant on a lot of things. Igbo women don't cheat please... And ask those stuff about going crazy is trash.

if you meant to say Igbo women cheat, then know that you logged in for no reason because common comprehension requires you to realise that I meant it's not rampant.

And my follow up said that 'in some parts' of Igbo land, I did not say everywhere. The fact that you jump to quote without comprehending is bad. Next time, don't waste your MB to prove a moot point

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Nobody: 11:34am On Nov 21, 2015

dubemnaija:
OK...It happened that I 'escorted' this friend of mine to Nsukka in ENUGU STATE to go meet the parents and the family of the girl he wants to settle down with. We were asked to come back the next day for 'The List'. Shaa, to cut the long story short, we returned the next day, and I was like WTF!!

Not that am vexed at NSK people for the high price/cost of getting married to their girls; BUT my anger is that this particular girl that my friend wants to marry is even yet to graduate from her school (a poly) ~~and she's not even fine~~ . So on what basis should the list be that high?

Also, what on earth will these guys do with the 50Gallons (NOT 50Gallon o, but Gallons) of palm-wine and 100 tubers of BIG yams that they asked my friend to bring??

NOTE: Cost of wedding no dey the list o! probably after the traditional and white wedding, the couple will resort to eating sand.

www.dubemnaija..com

Which part of Nsukka is that? I am from Nsukka, Enugu state, but your story sounds strange to me. We(our part) do not give you list but will tell you what will be required and even if you couldn't meet up, the family(your in-laws) will cover for you.

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by wethebest(m): 11:35am On Nov 21, 2015

pet4ril:
this is serious... No wonder an edo guy fell in love with an ibo guy both living abroad and the huy knowing edo marriage ia not that expensive went ahead and asked for list from the ibo girls parents... O'boy you go fear list as e almost reach 2million. Na so the guy paranoid quit rlship sharp sharp go him town go marry and start another building with the remaining change as a sign of remembrance.... It was after his marriage that the ibo parents called him that they can amend the list butit was already late because omo guy was enjoying his honeymoon..... Till date 7years back, the girl is still single..... No matter how wealthy a man is, is better they invest on physical things to show than making mouth on how much they spent on a mere wedding

exactly wht i wil do.

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by watchindelta(m): 11:35am On Nov 21, 2015

lefulefu:
if ur sister son no pay dat money in time im wife family fit drag the guy go court oo

na very serious mater oh. d guy Bleep up big time, because d two family na dey gbege each other because of d moni

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Fourwinds: 11:36am On Nov 21, 2015

Krismart:
Yu talk about selling: how much do u think u can pay for a human being? nobody is forcing u to marry from there if you can't afford it. Urhobo and Benin girls full ground

did I say its by force....I believe u most have read about a murder case here this morning...was it not about money.

two brothers murdering a woman because she succeeded in using d money her husband sent from his US base to complete d house he is buildind which his stu..pid brothers were building for long time...Anambra!!! Yes it hapoened there.!!

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Nobody: 11:36am On Nov 21, 2015

Tradition of slavery! Igbo people have been selling their daughters for long. It is nothing new! Ptui!

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by ifyjohnson(f): 11:37am On Nov 21, 2015

safarigirl:
nobody sells their child.

If there is any tribe that takes pride in female kids in Nigeria and even Africa, it's the Igbos. The most educated women are Igbo. The Igbo man trains his daughter to be an asset and not a liability to her husband, he will send his daughter to school till PHD sef and send his son to learn trade after his Secondary school.

To accuse them of selling these same daughters that they cherish is an insult. If you don't have 500k to pay for a well trained girl, then another man who knows her value will have it and pay without announcing to the world how much he paid like all these kids on NL.

The OP is very immature, is he the one getting married or did his friend ask for his help? Thousands of Igbo girls marry every year and their husbands don't go announcing how much he paid, many men have paid 2 million sef and this guy is coming here to announce 500k as if the girl's family won't be the one to organize the traditional marriage and foot all bills.

Saferi my sister your head dey there don't mind some people who come here to make wrong assertion igbo this igbo that but they won't leave igbo gals alone talking about stable marriages try igbo girls

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Krismart(m): 11:37am On Nov 21, 2015

oluamid:

The fact that you are trying to rationalize it already means there's something not right about the practice. Culture is made for man not man for culture. Some of our cultural practises need reviewing in the face of modern realities. The issue of outrageous amounts of money to get married (bride price) is something that needs to be phased out .

Methinks a legislation is needed to compel families to lower their demands from their would-be son-in-law. No amount of money or materials can be equated with a human life. If you ask me to bring N3m to marry your daughter, does that mean that is how much she is worth to you? If she's truly valuable to you then her worth should be priceless.

#my2kobo

What u get cheap, u can alwez miss use cos u can afford another, but what u sweat to get u will cherish and protect cos u knw what it cost u and even will cost you to get another

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by ideyhere(f): 11:38am On Nov 21, 2015

Timsilver:

I had to login just to respond to this. Not trying to provoke you but it's either you are ignorant or chose to be ignorant on a lot of things. Ibo women don't cheat please... And all those stuff about going crazy is trash. The rate at which Ibo women cheat is extremely on the high side. They are only smarter at covering up.

It is not trash my dear. She said some parts and I can confidently mention like 2 parts of Igbo land where it is still obtainable. The only thing is that there are clauses attached to the issue. In some parts, it is if you cheat and step foot in your village again. In some, you've to have taken part in a certain tradition before it can affect you...but if you do take part in that tradition, you in-laws will have 100% trust on you. So you see...it really depends on the particular village

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Nobody: 11:39am On Nov 21, 2015

agarawu23:
weak my foot

I should spend 500k foolishly?

My guy pray God blesses you not to challenge how much for wedding.

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by safarigirl(f): 11:39am On Nov 21, 2015

shogz89:
Story ... Been a cheat no be tribe thing,, it's an individual thing... Even fulani wife way day carry cloth cover face day cheat

The North has the highest rate of divorce in Nigeria, followed by the west before the East, even my Northern lecturer said this.

Why don't you all go ask Easterners how they manage to sustain their marriages rather than mock the pre-marriage process. What happens before the marriage means little compared to what happens during the marriage

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Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by shogz89: 11:40am On Nov 21, 2015

This list funny small sha,, phase 1, phase 2, phase 3... Na lekki marriage,,, if she no come born pikin na igbese re o

Re: If You Don't Have 500,000naira, You CANT Marry From Nsukka (pic Proof) by Nobody: 11:40am On Nov 21, 2015

ThisMeansWars:
they are living somewhere before marriage init?

Lol...
Na oshodi under flyover?

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