Amberon:
Take your problem elsewhere, not my mentions. Travel outside your village first before you talk shit. The fact remains that the an average Nigerian girl sees marriage as her [/b]highest achievement in life and is ready to forgo her certificate to be a stay-at-home wife[b] just as long as her husband dolls out regular pay check to her.

White women are the exact opposite. They dont see their partners as father christmas. An average Nigerian girl is always on the look out for a rich man and has zero goals and ambitions outside being a graduate.

Toks2008:


Nope,its not somehow.

Its the most stupid,foolish and inconsequential facrual write up that many ladies guilty of the act will never like.

Look around you and you will see countless ladies scouting for a made guy to attach to after their parents spent hugely to make them self reliant.

I dont write articles for people to love but to open their eyes to reality.

Gerrard59:


At the bolded, when they decide to stay single it's the same people like you who remind them of their biological clock ticking. Rita Dominic, Genevieve and a host of successful single ladies have been maligned on Nairaland for being single. You accuse the ladies of marrying for money, tell me, who wants to marry a poor individual? Even the average guy would like/want to marry a successful lady.

When Nigerian ladies decide to behave like western women by being independent(an average Nigerian man detest such ladies and smart ones too, yet cries everyday about the non-availability of such ladies) you remind them of culture, tradition and the need of a man to be the head when relationship/marriage is a partnership.

What do majority of Nigerian men want from their women? The height of hypocrisy can make the tallest man look like a dwarf.

Toks2008:


Another empty post from an empty brain.

I bet you did not comprehend as usual.


Many ladies are brain dead.

Amberon:
Take your problem elsewhere, not my mentions. Travel outside your village first before you talk shit. The fact remains that the an average Nigerian girl sees marriage as her highest achievement in life and is ready to forgo her certificate to be a stay-at-home wife just as long as her husband dolls out regular pay check to her.

White women are the exact opposite. They dont see their partners as father christmas. An average Nigerian girl is always on the look out for a rich man and has zero goals and ambitions outside being a graduate.

How many female entrepreneurs or successful business women do we have in Nigeria relative to the men? 1:200??

I'm not saying that there aren't goal driven girls in Nigeria but its infinitesimally low when compared to the male counterpart.

I won't trade words with you, you can accept the truth or you can choose to live in oblivion.

ENIMONEY:
Now that you are sounding Mature let's talk. This is Nigeria, who is KING in Nigeria? This is a country that has forever put women in the shadows and have fed us with lies for years!! Lies like '' If you are too rich you can't get a man, you should not aspire to greatness so you don't intimidate men, you are not complete until you are married with children. An ideology passed down from generations to generations and you just want to break it within a minute?? You can't compare Us to the West. We are getting there and you have to at least applaud us and not castigate us for our little efforts. Soon they will call me a feminist.

HaneefahRN:


Come out clean, u're a guy and a chauvinist at tht, are u so scared to accept ur sex? Women can chose to marry anyone they want to whether rich or poor. Is it goats tht are marrying the poor guys? Educated women marry struggling guys every wkend bt u guys will always come here and cry abt women always running after rich men.
If they do, it's their choice. As an educated woman u can chose to marry a pauper it's ur choice. The roles women play in the home including financially can't be over-emphasized unless the husband is extremely rich, so stop talking like women are dummies. Irresponsible men too will also come here to run mouth.

Abt white women being exact opposites, are u saying we dnt av white women who wld rather marry rich men or are stay at home wives? Even in the schs, the rich and handsome dudes av the most female flock, so I dnt quite understand ur point. It's a matter of personality

What truth? All wht u wrote was misogynistic balderdash.

Amberon:
Yes you have a point. This isn't about feminism tho, its just reality. Its time we as women break the jinx. I want to see a Nigeria where women surpass men in many ramifications. I want a situation where women are building business empires and carving niches fror themselves, apart from just doing regular jobs.

Some women are going great tho, but I'd like to see more women come out.

Amberon:
Yes you have a point. This isn't about feminism tho, its just reality. Its time we as women break the jinx. I want to see a Nigeria where women surpass men in many ramifications. I want a situation where women are building business empires and carving niches fror themselves, apart from just doing regular jobs.

Some women are going great tho, but I'd like to see more women come out.

Gerrard59:


At the bolded, when they decide to stay single it's the same people like you who remind them of their biological clock ticking. Rita Dominic, Genevieve and a host of successful single ladies have been maligned on Nairaland for being single. You accuse the ladies of marrying for money, tell me, who wants to marry a poor individual? Even the average guy would like/want to marry a successful lady.

When Nigerian ladies decide to behave like western women by being independent(an average Nigerian man detest such ladies and smart ones too, yet cries everyday about the non-availability of such ladies) you remind them of culture, tradition and the need of a man to be the head when relationship/marriage is a partnership.

What do majority of Nigerian men want from their women? The height of hypocrisy can make the tallest man look like a dwarf.

God, I Lawv you Already!!

Amberon:
I may have been wrong for generalizing but its really no news that a larger percentage of Nigerian women will humbly accept a regular pay check rather than work hard to be independent. I'm not arguing blindly. I've lived with foreigners for years and I can tell you that, just by spending a few minutes with most white girls, you'd be able to spot a glaring difference. Marriage to most Nigerian females is the highest achievement for a woman in life.

Gerrard59:


At the bolded, when they decide to stay single it's the same people like you who remind them of their biological clock ticking. Rita Dominic, Genevieve and a host of successful single ladies have been maligned on Nairaland for being single. You accuse the ladies of marrying for money, tell me, who wants to marry a poor individual? Even the average guy would like/want to marry a successful lady.

When Nigerian ladies decide to behave like western women by being independent(an average Nigerian man detest such ladies and smart ones too, yet cries everyday about the non-availability of such ladies) you remind them of culture, tradition and the need of a man to be the head when relationship/marriage is a partnership.

What do majority of Nigerian men want from their women? The height of hypocrisy can make the tallest man look like a dwarf.

HaneefahRN:


Come out clean, u're a guy and a chauvinist at tht, are u so scared to accept ur sex? Women can chose to marry anyone they want to whether rich or poor. Is it goats tht are marrying the poor guys? Educated women marry struggling guys every wkend bt u guys will always come here and cry abt women always running after rich men.
If they do, it's their choice. As an educated woman u can chose to marry a pauper it's ur choice. The roles women play in the home including financially can't be over-emphasized unless the husband is extremely rich, so stop talking like women are dummies. Irresponsible men too will also come here to run mouth.

Abt white women being exact opposites, are u saying we dnt av white women who wld rather marry rich men or are stay at home wives? Even in the schs, the rich and handsome dudes av the most female flock, so I dnt quite understand ur point. It's a matter of personality

What truth? All wht u wrote was misogynistic balderdash.

doveda:


Aren't the same white women that don't think twice about divorce because of the financial benefits?

They can cry us a river

Bunch of losers

Amberon:
I may have been wrong for generalizing but its really no news that a larger percentage of Nigerian women will humbly accept a regular pay check rather than work hard to be independent. I'm not arguing blindly. I've lived with foreigners for years and I can tell you that, just by spending a few minutes with most white girls, you'd be able to spot a glaring difference. Marriage to most Nigerian females is the highest achievement for a woman in life.

HaneefahRN:



Abi o

I really dnt understand the basis for those stupid comparisons btw Nigerian and western women, at the end of the day it's flawed

ENIMONEY:
We will, many women are seeing the truth and the reality. We have a Female governor now. Many more to come! It will take a short while and we will see results... We are getting there.. Thanks for being civil.

Amberon:
really? This is why Nigeria isn't evolving. I'm a girl, one with a difference. If you're in doubt, then that's your cup of sandwich.

I was very clear, i didnt generalise. Like i said, the over whelming majority of young girls and women in Nigeria are not purpose driven, neither are they "big dreamers". They tend to "lose it" after having a kid and just stop striving to be relevant to the society.

It can't get truer than this.

doveda:


They don't tell a white woman that at the end of the day, she will still end up in her husband's kitchen

They don't tell her not to aim too high.

They don't tell her not to sound too intelligent.

They don't tell her that the home is her primary responsibility

At the end of the day, Nigerian women manage to combine a full time job with a full time wifely and motherly roles.


But no....you will still continue to complain

Toks2008:


I can show you the way to the lagos lagoon.

You dont like my threads yet you keep visiting them.

What is my own with ladies?im only stating the obvious and i sense its touching somewhere in you.

Amberon:
You think white women don't combine both? Lol

Amberon:
You think white women don't combine both? Lol

HaneefahRN:


When u want to compare, then consider the situations they are in too. This is Nigeria, and we all knw wht the economy is saying. Combining, housekeeping wt a job is something, and tht doesn't mean men will appreciate u for it. Some women are breadwinners of their family bt no they can never be gud enof.

Stop castigating women, that's the problem I av wt u. Many of these pple u're talking abt as majority don't even av access to basic education, av to struggle thru odds to survive, they av to contend wt being told they ain't gud enof, but at the same time a huge responsibility is placed on them. Everyone looks at women expecting perfection when men nor the society is perfect.

HaneefahRN:


When u want to compare, then consider the situations they are in too. This is Nigeria, and we all knw wht the economy is saying. Combining, housekeeping wt a job is something, and tht doesn't mean men will appreciate u for it. Some women are breadwinners of their family bt no they can never be gud enof.

Stop castigating women, that's the problem I av wt u. Many of these pple u're talking abt as majority don't even av access to basic education, av to struggle thru odds to survive, they av to contend wt being told they ain't gud enof, but at the same time a huge responsibility is placed on them. Everyone looks at women expecting perfection when men nor the society is perfect.

doveda:


I know they do! But do you think the employment situation and the social services are the same in Nigeria

Nigeria women are not this, Nigerian women are not that yet we have more STEM females in comparison to western countries. If that is not an acknowledgement of where the money is, I don't know what is

doveda:


Are you also forgetting the fact that men are getting married in their late twenties and early thirties and that is because that is when they actually become financially capable. However most of them end up getting married to younger women. If a woman should wait that long, tongues will start wagging and the possibility that her bf will jilt her is also high.

So can you blame her if she settles for a man who is financially capable instead of a man at her financial level? Who no like better thing:

cc Amberon