Dating calls for more mature moves,
such as not telling your friends every
little detail about your relationship.


While spilling some things to your
roommates is perfectly okay, there are
experiences that should be kept private between you and your SO for the sake of honoring your relationship.

Here’s
what not to tell your besties (as tough
as it may be).


1. THE PRIVATE DETAILS OF YOUR PARTNER'S LIFE:

Your SO tells you something really
private and asks you not to tell anyone.
This is absolutely a contract you cannot
breach. Failing to respect your partner’s wishes could mean the demise of the
relationship, especially if word gets out. “You shouldn’t tell your friends any
secrets or private things your boyfriend entrusts in you,” says Suzanne Oshima, dating coach at Single in Stilettos.

“Don’t even think for a moment that it
would be okay to just tell your best friend.” Oshima says the consequences of doing
so are dire.

“Why? Because if your boyfriend ever
finds out that you shared something
that he entrusted in you, he will never
trust you again with anything else that
he holds near and dear to his heart,”
she says. “Men have a hard enough time opening up about their feelings, so don’t breach his trust.” Seriously, don’t. It means a lot that he
told you this in the first place!


2. EVERY SINGLE DISAGREEMENT YOU HAVE WITH YOUR PARTNER:

Sometimes it’s okay to consult your
girls when you’re not sure who’s in the
wrong. However, telling them about
every single tiny argument you have
with your SO can’t end well.

“You shouldn’t tell your friends about
every single fight you get into with
your boyfriend,” Oshima says. “If you
do, it will start to taint how they feel
about him, and they’ll just try to get
you to break up with him.” It’s best to keep some of the smaller
arguments to yourselves.

Plus, you
should be able to work it out with your
SO without the aid of your friends.


3. THE SUPER INTIMATE STUFF:
If you’re experimenting with sex for
the first time, it’s totally natural to
have questions that you want to ask
your girls. Remember, though, that
divulging every single detail of these
intimate happenings between you and your partner can take away from the
importance you should be placing on
these occurrences.

After all, having sex
with someone you deeply care about
doesn’t happen all the time. “I know so many like to kiss and tell,
but you shouldn’t tell your friends about your sex life,” says Julie Spira, online dating and relationship expert as well as founder of Cyber-Dating Expert.

Spira says if you do tell one of your
friends about your sex woes (or
intimate details about your partner’s
body and abilities) and you happen to
get in a fight with said friend, those
dirty details you spilled could get back to your SO.

Now that would be
awkward. Make sure you have sex discussions with a person you totally and completely trust, because the situation Spira described could be nightmarish —
especially if you attend a small college.


4. EXACTLY HOW FABULOUS YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS:
Things aren’t going well — they’re
going amazing. And we’re totally
happy for you! However, keep in mind
that you don’t want to be excessive
when talking about it to your friends.

“You shouldn’t gush and brag all the
time to your single girlfriends about
how great your boyfriend and
relationship are,” Oshima says. “Being
in love and in a great relationship can
be one of the most amazing things. But it’s important to be sensitive to your girlfriends who are single and not in a relationship right now.”

Remember when you were single and
one of your friends was totally
infatuated with her boyfriend? You had to hear about it all the time, and after a while, you were a bit fed up.

Chatting about something adorable your SO did is fine from time to time, but don’t go overboard. As Oshima said, you should
be considerate of your friends’ feelings. Relationships are awesome, but with them come some expectation of privacy.

After all, would you want your
SO sharing every detail with his or her
buddies? We didn’t think so.

Honor your SO by keeping the intimate aspects of your relationship just that – intimate.



Source: http://www.lifestyle.ng/things-you-should-never-tell-your-friends-about-your-relationship/

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