PM nairalnds. I decided to opst this bcoz I need urgent advise on a matter dat will affect some1s live.

Drz dz girl I meet last year january nd we started dating.
During d period we dated it ws lik romeo nd julieta. It ws so real dat lot of pple were jealous.. I loved her nd it ws obvious dat she loved me too.. In fact she loved me more dan any grl I dated b4 her..

While we wr dating. I noticed she ws a kind of sex freak.. Not like she doz it every time buh anytime she nature calls she jst can't help it..

I also noticed dat she ws kinda obsessed wit marriage.. We ar very young. But she pressured me many times 4 marriage. She evn suggested we had a secret wedding.. Of course yhu knw my ansa WS a capital NO..

Fast forward... We started hav ish wit d relationship due to my busy life.. One day she cried nd told me she kissed a guy.. I said nothing, she kept begging me to say sometin or do sometin.m she begged dat I shld shout or hit her.. I jst smiled nd told her "all z well"

Den d calls reduced.. She leta told me a guy proposed to her nd she is tinkn abt marrying d guy.. I felt sorry 4 her. I tried convincing her not to rush dz marriage tin nd try gain admission into higher institution.. Buh she wasn't convinced.. Dz went on 4 some months.. I got tayad nd ended d relationship.. She ws shocked, she tried fixing tinx buh I ws done..

We maintain a 'greeting friendship' bcoz she leta travelled to her home town in d east to write her post UTME.. Nd wsnt goin to return until dz year..

Jst today I decided to call nd wish her a wonderful year.. Afta she picked d call.. I greeted her nd she greeted back.. She den ask who ws speak(I called her wit m new line) I told her to gus who ws speaking nd she gusd rite.. She mentioned my name.. We den xchanged greetnz.. Nd I asked abt her admission package oo.. She den told me dat its not sure.. I asked what her nxt step is nd she told ME SHE'S GETTING MARRIED.. I stop walking nd stood 4 a while in total silence.. My heart stopped.. I jst couldn't blv my ears..

I told her its not d best option. She said she can skul afta marriage I told her she might not be lucky.. I told her abt her dreams of been a top journalist.. I told her abt al d dreams she shared wit me.. She jst replied nd said she's a designer nd she can do dat to live..


I av been troubled after talking to her.. My mind says I shld text her to convince her not to make such decision as she might not be lucky..

I need every1s advise on wat to do..

NOTE. I av a GF am dating nd am very happy wit her... I jst want to help her..

Pls every1 I nid ur help on dz 1..

MODs pls help

Leave her alone.

It is her life and her decision.

Since you have your own girlfriend.

Mind your business.

You people shu coman advise o.
Blows kakaki
COME AND ADVISE!

There's nothing you can do since she want to get married and circumstance might have led her think that way. Her family might be mounting pressure on how to get married and her parents might not even be able to sponsor her education. Do you have an idea of what her family financial background is like?

ronald4lif:
There's nothing you can do since she want to get married and circumstance might have led her think that way. Her family might be mounting pressure on how to get married and her parents might not even be able to sponsor her education. Do you have an idea of what her family financial background is like?

I don't tink doz ar d reasons.. I tink it sexual

Romeo and Julieta. Lol.

its nt because u want to help her.... its because u still av feelings for her.... and u beliv u r abt losing her forever if she gets married... lobatan
.... deny it mak amadioha burst ur balls

Oga helper, mind your business nd leave her alone, it's her life.
"He who hasn't made a mistake hasn't made a discovery"

valdes00:
its nt because u want to help her.... its because u still av feelings for her.... and u beliv u r abt losing her forever if she gets married... lobatan
.... deny it mak amadioha burst ur balls

I don't av fellongs 4 her agn...
Am done wit her..
I told a woman we both respect y I broke up wit her nd d woman was lik 'wats her problm'

I av a GF am happy wit.. She givs m love nd joy

WHen will people start minding their business ?

You send am School ? She refuse...

Btw, you dumped that girl because you never wanted the financial burden of sending her to school.

400billionman:
WHen will people start minding their business ?

You send am School ? She refuse...

Btw, you dumped that girl because you never wanted the financial burden of sending her to school.

Bro its not dat.. I knw I shld av stayed nd try help her.. Buh d pain she ws causing m ws too much.. Nd moreover she as decided to leave lagos..

I jst fl maybe m advice can make her slow down wit dz a decision.. She might be making a big mistake..

Her parent her ok

@lordprosh
how can you say to someone (that you havent seen for months) that getting married to the man she desires is NOT the best option?!
obviously, from the start, we can clearly understand that you guys are not meant for one another, as you desired different things in life, and you didnt care about what this gal was doing (whether kissing other guys or getting marriage proposals). her ultimate dream is to GET MARRIED, and now that she is about to achieve her dream, you want to derail that?! how selfish of you. let her leave her life with or without the dreams she shared with you

MRBrownJ:
@lordprosh
how can you say to someone (that you havent seen for months) that getting married to the man she desires is NOT the best option?!
obviously, from the start, we can clearly understand that you guys are not meant for one another, as you desired different things in life, and you didnt care about what this gal was doing (whether kissing other guys or getting marriage proposals). her ultimate dream is to GET MARRIED, and now that she is about to achieve her dream, you want to derail that?! how selfish of you. let her leave her life with or without the dreams she shared with you

I was hurt by her kissing anoda guy.. Am jst d kinda guy dat don't knw how to react.. M silence ws golden to her.. I tink her reason 4 marriage is jst to enjoy d pleasure of sex without committing sen of fornication. But I ttink drz more to life dan SEX.. Pls try nd see tinx 4rm my angle.. If dz her decision turns out to be a big mistake nd I didn't warn her.. I tink I'll die of d guilt in my heart..

The fact she's my EX does not mean we aint friends.. My closes frnd now is one of my EX.. She advice nd help wit my relationship.. Nd I do same to her.. I had an ish wit my GF recently nd she ws d 1 dat help m solve d prob

lordprosh:

I was hurt by her kissing anoda guy.. Am jst d kinda guy dat don't knw how to react..

sadly, yes you dont show your feelings especially when its needed by your partner (who may do crazy things to get your attention)... your type is the reason why so many women are miserable in love. its no better than them being single.

M silence ws golden to her..

your silence was WRONG, no matter how you wanna look at this issue.

I tink her reason 4 marriage is jst to enjoy d pleasure of sex without committing sen of fornication.

whatever her reason may be, it makes sense to HER... as a not so close ex, accept that as her choices. you may advise her that it may be too early, but if she is dead set on getting married then accept that

But I ttink drz more to life dan SEX..

thats YOUR opinion and you are entitled to them, and i suggest you use that in YOUR life to evaluate who you seek for marriage.

Pls try nd see tinx 4rm my angle..

i CANT/WONT because it is not your life we are talking about here, its HERS. so only her angle matters, and so far she is ok with it, its all good.

If dz her decision turns out to be a big mistake nd I didn't warn her.. I tink I'll die of d guilt in my heart..

this will be the consequences of HER actions, and thats much better to accept than if she did what YOU wanted her to do, and it turns out to be a big mistake.

The fact she's my EX does not mean we aint friends.. My closes frnd now is one of my EX.. She advice nd help wit my relationship.. Nd I do same to her.. I had an ish wit my GF recently nd she ws d 1 dat help m solve d prob

the important word here is ADVICE, and not enforce. yes, you have all the rights to tel her how you feel about this marriage (as you have already done), now that she has heard you and she still want to go ahead with this marriage, accept it and move on with your life.