Yomieluv:
Le t me summarise it.

Went to visit my mum with my wife.didn't meet her at home,because she went to a party nearby.

My wife and i went to meet her there.while i carried my wife's bag.while she carried her small bag,and the gift she bought for her.

Was in office today when mum called me specifically to tell me never to see me again carrying my wife's bag. That it makes me less of a man. She was in the midst of her friends at the party.

I just cut the call,and i have been brooding over that since.

Is she right?

Yomieluv:
I am a dog!

Yomieluv:
i can't na.

Else the animosity won't end easily.

I love my mum.and cherish my wife.

McSquishi:


You sound like the perfect hubby & your marriage is obviously destined to continue to prosper. It's important that a man/woman be able to balance the duties of husband and son simultaneously. From everything you've written, you seem to be doing that.

Your mom is old school & when folks from the old school preach to us, we listen respectfully, perhaps try to impart some modern thinking to them, but if they don't accept it, just let it go. Continue doing what's best for your marriage. Mom seems more concerned abt appearances in this instance while you're concerned about your wife's health and practical things. The latter wins out.

You did good OP.

PresVA:
You made the mistake of not calling your mum to order before cutting the call..

Tell her it's what you love doing and the woman no use juju hold you. . Tell her she's your wife and you can do anything for her... you can also go on to explain that your wife had too many bags hence you decided to help..

When a husband treats his wife rightly, na juju the woman use hold am... nawa oo... You'll see so many husbands who desire doing 'stuffs' for their wives deter or even give up because of what people will tag them...

A priest in my parish will always tell men that when other men or people ridicule you because of good stuffs you do for your wife/family, they ridicule you because they can't have the kind of lovely family you've got! They're so jealous in their minds! Some of them will be jealous that you're always running home to your wife/family instead of staying in the bar and drinking hence they end up mocking you to feel good about themselves. ..

My husband carries my handbag often especially when I have put so many things in it and it's heavy! I see nothing wrong with it!

Miami11:


Who are this mothers, that people have to hide or dodge them even to do a simple task like carrying their wife's bag, are mothers God now, even people don't hide from God.

Instead of advising poster to educate his mom, you are busy mis advising him not to do the necessary.

teevodaprinz:



You shouldn't disrespect your mother to please your wife... Meaning you shouldn't place your wife over your mom likewise your mom over your wife so that none wil not feel rejected... A man is always a man and one of the worst thing that can frustrate a man in marriage is to incur enmity btw the wife and the mother if care is not taken it will cause him a great loss either on the wife part, the mother or his siblings... I think you should just try to make you mom understand your reason for doing that... Be wise

kilode100:
You sef!!
Why you wan put your innocent wife for trouble??


Your Mum is right!!

My hubby washes my pants and Bra and other household utensils which is normal thing to do.. But doing such things outside sends wrong signals.

My hubby goes down on me, do you think his mother will like that kain thing?

You no do well Nna. Abi she don cook efo-riro for you chop??
Think am o..

Acidosis:
There are certain things you don't do in the presence of people.

A female poster said her hubby washes her pants and bra (I won't do this certainly and I'm sure my wife will never demand such or allow me to..), but will the same hubby wash such in his mother or father's presence?

Assuming you wash your wife's underwear, would you be proud to do such in the presence of your friends or landlord? and even walk to the line to hang them with pegs?

Carrying a woman's bag is not wrong, but it can be done in a wrong place/scenario.

Nobody will kill you if you wash underwear or carry a woman's pink bag; but nobody will kill you if you don't, and you're likely to command better respect.