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Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by SSpeter(m): 4:51am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Petroking:Bro Egbon na werey oooo....He has done some silly stuff in the past. I think I think I will tell him everything when he comes back for any formal marriage stuff so that if he wants to do anything rational or irrational it will be here in Naija.... |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by JayJustus(m): 4:53am On Jan 18, 2016 |
my nigga...my nigga!! they destroyed your property, they made your mum weep...?? if na me I no go gree...so send that bloody mail and let the truth be known cos you sound to me that you might even take a physical revenge later if they get married..(maybe put ikuku antropopo in the girls food..lol)...so send that bloody mail or you wan make i help you construct am with big big grammar?? see that girl may be nice today but the traits of her dad will resurface someday...even the Bible says a curse extends up to the fourth generation so better eliminate this one before your brothers kids start destroying properties too... SO SEND THAT EFFIN MAIL...we dey your back!!! 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by arsetalkshere: 5:12am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter:Your brother surely needs to know the truth. Maybe if he had known the truth in the first place he would not have gone to the extent of wanting to marry the lady. However, if he still chooses to forgive what happened, it is his choice and it is noble to forgive as well. Send the mail then seat back. And although sending the mail is the right thing to do here but I think you should also forgive the girl's family. Unforgiveness is worst than cancer, it will eat you up. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by IamLEGEND1: 5:35am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Oliviaarims:that kyn thing dey pain pesin no be small na. as a kid,to see someone drag ur parents-who are the best people in the world to you at that time, through the mud,cheat them out of their possessions,make the family business crumble,disgrace them and send you guys packing! I would say forgive & forget,bt good Lord knows I would do way worse. if I was to be in the OP's shoes, ruining their relationship is just the beginning. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by asatemple(f): 5:58am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Creamish:it's in the bible, read exodus chapter 20. It's better he let the brother know so that the girl's father will know how it feels to relieve one of his source of livelihood. Let him watch his daughter suffer heartbreak and know what that family passed through but I know the guy will still marry her. Nollywood movie on nairaland |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Sultan5(m): 6:02am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter: Its a painful thing to experience. It cuts very deep to see your parents harassed and disgraced. It is truly unforgetable. But with Gods grace it can be forgiven. Look everyone deserve to know the truth. Your parents are wrong. Lets put your stance aside first. What if your brother found out later, possibly after getting married he would not be happy. He would be bitterly disappointed in all of you and he may resent you guys. So please tell him everything. Dont dilute it. If possible, send the same mail to ur sisters so they can know the whole story. Am guessing your a christian. Irrespective of the decision your brother takes after reading the mail. You need to try to let go of this bitterness. Its extremely difficult, possibly impossible, but you still need to try. We all make mistakes some more terribly than others but we should try to forgive. Trying and failing is ok, but you should still keep trying. It is a greater sin not to even try at all. Not after Jesus DIED for you. You forgiving them is not for their sake but for yours. Though it may seem impossible but in trying, much more have been accomplished. Please try to let it. Please dont influence your brother's decision. Just tell him the truth and let him decide. If he choose to marry her, please accept it and support him. Give the lady a chance, for we are not our parents. Bottom line let it go. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by pimpo: 6:21am On Jan 18, 2016 |
adozie: My friend, better sue your brother now cos he is the person you have a problem with not the people who bought the land. They should at least get some restitution not just forfeiture if you win the case. You will be an enemy to them if u can't man up and do the right thing now. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by AAABBB123: 6:26am On Jan 18, 2016 |
If u truly respect your brother, u have to tell him the truth....he deserves to know the truth...sooner or later he truth will surface...tell him now... |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Nobody: 6:31am On Jan 18, 2016 |
IamLEGEND1: Yea... I could understand how the OP must have felt... It hurts real bad! |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by chigaemezuogu: 6:52am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Thus says the lord " vengeance is mine' live everything for him beside the girl did'nt wrong you rather her parents, remember the execution of christ reconciled Herod and Pilate maybe God wants to call for their repentance through this, oga let bygon be bygon |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by waliezi(m): 6:55am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Inform ur Bros Jor! |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by zynzyn(m): 7:04am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter: Well, my take is, what if he marries her and gets his fingers burnt?! Won't he blame u for not telling him?! |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by ben1daEbiri(m): 7:15am On Jan 18, 2016 |
sweettinz20:And you think the girl knows nothing about it?if she has a conscience she would even feel uneasy going there! 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by trilobite: 7:15am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Why is nobody analyzing the court decision. I don't think that the parents should have lost the case in the first place. If the man's brother has no legal right to sell the property then how does the man have. His brother was designated as the will executor (this gives him the power to redistribute the assests as he wants whether or not he had a dialogue with the man). The man should have gone to court immediately after the house was sold and not so many years after his brother's death. I won't be surprised if money changed hands for this court verdict. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by arinzest: 7:19am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Dear Op, pls why are you sending an email? Cant you call your brother on d phone or Skype or see him n tell him to his face? Unless ur story is not true. Brothers ALWAYS look out for each other. Your parents have their reasons n i respect dt. Dont let your brother marry dt girl without letting him knw All these' vengeance is for d lord crap' pls ignore it. This is not vengeance, this is survival. Survival of your family. Please also be bold enough to tell the man's daughter. Your brother had d effect attenuated but u felt it first hand. You are a gentleman OP. I would have told d girl n my brother right there wn they came to ur house 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Nobody: 7:24am On Jan 18, 2016 |
maybe u pple sud settle it before wedding so dat the new bride will not be maltreatedwhen ur bro get to knw |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by atoleybaba(m): 7:30am On Jan 18, 2016 |
lofty900:legally...don't forget that |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by jamela(f): 7:37am On Jan 18, 2016 |
Why do I have a feeling the op's brother already knows she is the man's daughter and is trying to find a way to ruin her life somehow? Well with a name like that op, I expect you would be more reasonable to forgive them but if you do tell your brother I hope you ask him not to ruin her life cos then her future children might come after yours just as you have gone after her dad's daughter. Your parents are right to let it go. Don't be the one to make this a generational thug of war. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by geez18(m): 7:38am On Jan 18, 2016 |
my brother,you have to tell your brother or he'd be living a lie if he married her without knowing the truth.let him know,let him decide if to go on or not with the marriage.it is the truth that sets one free.there is no forgiveness without confession.the father of the girl knows your brother as the son of the man he disgraced.how,in good conscience,can he allo his daughter marry your brother without settling old scores first if he does'nt have an ulterior motive? |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Walexsammy(m): 7:41am On Jan 18, 2016 |
jopretty:and have u thought about how his brother will feel when he finds out? knowing fully well his kid broo is aware and didn't tell him? |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by nakaofficial(m): 7:42am On Jan 18, 2016 |
If you don't tell your brother now, what happens when he finds out after marriage? He will not be happy with you for keeping such away from him. Please inform him, it seems he feels the same way as you towards the supposed inlaw. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by EugeneGee4(m): 7:52am On Jan 18, 2016 |
You are young and inexperienced and that is why you don't know the ethics of LOVE N Hate, your parents and your elder brother have seen beyond the wall of hatred, and decide to do the needful, marrying the daughter of your supposed enemy will weaken Him, cos he will begin to regret e era evil he has portion to your family and might even start looking for a way to pay back for his sins, and that is what your parents have seen but anger have blocked your eyes. It's a blessing in disguised kudos to your bro. He is already Revenging the pains. Cheers. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Tallesty1(m): 7:57am On Jan 18, 2016 |
jopretty:Peace kee. Keeping silent is just postponing problem. He may 4give but can he 4get? Remember his elder also swore to deal with the enemy, meaning that he hasn't 4given them yet. The whole ish is messed up, I think he should reveal everything when there's still time for amendments cause the brother will find out someday. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Jay5000(m): 8:01am On Jan 18, 2016 |
If i was your brother and I found out that you had such info and kept it from me, it will be extremely hard to forgive you. My advice is, tell your brother. If he loves the girl that much and still wants to marry her, then let them be and forgive and accept her. Peace is sweeter than war. 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by festusperry(m): 8:01am On Jan 18, 2016 |
lofty900:we support am ohh... What nonsense.... 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by waistaa(f): 8:07am On Jan 18, 2016 |
OP no vex is your egbon that dumb? Does the girl not have a surname and does your brother not know anything about his gf n her family not even surname Some pieces are missing here |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by tottinova: 8:10am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter: Bro, this is coming late from me My advice for you is to tell your brother bout the girl. But on the other hand, god said we should forgive and forget. It's easy to forgive but forgetting is the hard part. Buh you have to try as much as to forgive. Just take it that it's the father of the girl that offended you and not her. Don't push the sin of the father to the daughter. Thank you. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Daguccizgreat(m): 8:16am On Jan 18, 2016 |
themilanway:you spoke wit wisdom bro. More greeze 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Wolfbrother(m): 8:22am On Jan 18, 2016 |
@OP if your brother finds out himself later ko? , better he finds out before he gets marrried after would be worse |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by DAVE5(m): 8:23am On Jan 18, 2016 |
lofty900: property wey dem for don regain/rebuild by now, wat hapind to the word "forgive", 1998 till now and d op is still carrying the wrong deeds on his mind, mehn dat guy can kill if u comment wrongly on his thread if he can't forgive even after about 18yearsa, so u sef for no 4giv, so u sef for no forgive if nah u? ull choose to ruin ur loved one's happiness cos of a wrong from 18years back 1 Like |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by innocentchuks(m): 8:32am On Jan 18, 2016 |
He needs to know the truth, both u and your parents owe him that irrespective of anything, but that notwithstanding if ur brother wish to marry her lend him ur support. U can as well forgive, the lady in question is innocent of the deed at such u can't judge her based on her father's action. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by adanny01(m): 8:34am On Jan 18, 2016 |
SSpeter: Your brother deserves to know, i agree. You are pissed off. Your parents are more matured and see no point in holding such grudge to the grave, i agree with thm too. I feel telling your brother will make you feel better and will save a lot of future misunderstandings. Be prepared, your brother may not feel the strong feelings you have since he wasnt a witness and may still want you to make peace for the sake of his desire. If he decides proceed with the marriage (which almost certainly would), i encourage you to tell him how you feel but support him the best you can. If you declare war on your family, the enemy would have won another fight with your family. If you remain close to your brother, your family may survive. Vengeance is God's. Justice delayed is not denied. |
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