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Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by nanauju(f): 1:44pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
You better tell your brother the truth. He'll one day accuse u of not telling him |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by DAVE5(m): 4:09pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
lofty900: point taken but remember that even the parents hav left the mata for Matthias |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by sucobaba(m): 4:12pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
This is tough and delicate;just like an egg shell.....no one knows where it going to crack. All said and done,I will go with the family meeting crew. The parents as born again should tell the un-edited story openly to every member of the family. Old wounds has to be re-visited,clean and treated for complete healing.....your brother and sisters deserve to know the truth because when push come to shove.......the family is home. Court cases are bound to go either ways, even in victory...every party should play be the rules. Happy healing |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by jordanice007: 4:25pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
tell ur brother the whole truth but dont advice him on breaking the relationship. just tell him so he can. have an idea on who his to be faather inlaw is. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Codyt(m): 8:21pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
yinkus4u2c:Accepted. Go and Sin no moremor |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by emmayodata(m): 9:30pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
@Op, don't try to visit the sin of the father on the child, you no be God.The lady has her own life to live and her fathers wrong doings should not be a barrier. Put ur self in her shoes, would you have wanted to be denied ur privileges because of ur parents shortcoming? |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Petroking: 10:30pm On Jan 18, 2016 |
stonecoldcafe: Your Point is Observed. Please observe what i am about to say carefully... Let him just tell the brother the truth. If the supposed in-law is so nice.. why did he not wait to ask the man to pack out. why sell the house to the bank immediately... so many questions left unanswered. Let me explain something here i don't plan to inherit my father's property or fight over it with my brother.. I will work for mine and i will also follow up the legacies to my kids. Before you do things to people put yourself in their shoes. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by sweettinz20(m): 7:04am On Jan 19, 2016 |
ben1daEbiri:it is hard to tell some parents are very conservative |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Tequilah: 1:38pm On Jan 19, 2016 |
akinsmyk: Na true word you talk my brother. In fact, there are more questions than answers in the whole story. 1). If the OP does not tell his brother, and the marriage goes ahead, how will his brother feel towards him if he eventually finds out that the OP kept the whole thing from him? 2). Has the prospective, tyrannical in-law who threw them out of the house all those years ago changed his ways? The man or his people might end up looking down at the OP's brother and family after the marriage, or may even humiliate them during the wedding preparations when he eventually finds out who the OP's parents are. When people go to court over an issue, it is difficult for them to fully reconcile and become friends again after the whole process is over. A lot of bitter words would have been exchanged and lots of bad blood would have been raised. 3). Is the OP's brother sure, that even his prospective bride does not harbour some of the bad traits exhibited by her father in the past? She may appear all docile now, but believe me an apple does not fall far from the tree. 4). If the father of the girlfriend of the OP's brother could do all that to the OP's family, isn't it possible that the same man or his people could treat the OP's brother in a far worse manner, if a similar situation or another problem were to raise its' head in the future? 5). The OP's brother is a grown man and not an adolescent kid. He should be made aware of all the facts. If the revelation is a pill that is too difficult to swallow and it eventually breaks his relationship, so be it. He will get over it and move on. Heartbreak has been happening from time immemorial, and people have recovered from it. If the revelations do not break the relationship, then he and the girl should be able to weather the storm, and move on. Hiding the fact will only cause problems later on. All the parties involved should thrash out the issue openly, and not sweep it under the carpet. There should be open admission of faults on both sides, and efforts should be made to seek true reconcilation and forgiveness, months before the wedding to prevent any kind of crisis down the line. Just my 2 cents. 2 Likes |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by abimbawealth(f): 1:40pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Do you feel we can convince you to not tell? If not, do as you wish |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Nobody: 8:10am On Jan 21, 2016 |
I will never advice anybody not to marry anybody whether it is my brother or sister. Make your decisions yourself. I will only support you in prayers and fasting. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by chigoizie7(m): 9:53am On Jan 21, 2016 |
holusormi: Isnt that decision to be made by the brother? Dont u think that d brother might also feel misreable and terrible when he eventually finds out? Ofcourse he will find out, what if his threats of giving up everthing to fight the man is actually what he intends to do actually, what do u think will happen to the marriage? In my own opinion, i think this pained brother should forgive those family, but he deserves the right to tell his brother the truth, infact he owe that to the brother. Let d brother be the judge of any consequences. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by chika1996: 7:11pm On Jan 21, 2016 |
Even God knows u can't mess with my family and go free |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by lovemaths(f): 5:23am On Jan 22, 2016 |
I think you should tell your brother before the wedding because as I dey look you make you no go spill the beans on the wedding day o. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Prettiepearlz(f): 8:15am On Jun 13, 2016 |
adozie:Na wa oooooo, after a written will sharing all the properties and I am sure he got his too and probably got a large chunk of the property as the first son, yet he still had eyes for yours and was even selling it claiming he is the first son? hian wetin we no go see for this life, I thought this only happens in movies? This is greediness ooooo |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by Amicable24: 9:58am On Jun 13, 2016 |
SSpeter:And so what happened afterwards.. It's been 5months, how did everything go?? Me no dey like tori wey no complete o especially when e don elapse im timeline 3 Likes |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by sisisioge: 7:14pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
Sspeter...how far? How did it go? Did they get married? Were you the best man? Have you forgiven them? Biko come and up. Thanks a Quintillion. |
Re: Why I Don't Want My Brother To Get Married To Her by ChemicalReaction(f): 11:33pm On Oct 21, 2016 |
SSPeter, pls coman update this story.. |
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