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To me i dont see anything wrong with telling him. What kind of man are you getting married to that you feel so ashamed to share your past with him?

Life is a bastard o, cant think of what to advise. let me boot

have told him some of the things that has happened to me and that I have been raped before

End of story.. Let him know now.
If he LOVES you, he will stay.

Irrespective of how or who, rape is rape.
The most important is... You've told him.!

Just be sincere and tell him the truth... I believe he will understand. What is yours will always be yours

tell him everytin that happened before its too late
d truth shall set u free
I concur

so OP in essence..life is a b!tch.

E be like sey na dem don dey chase you for village o














just joking..I think you should run away, but before you do, tell him the truth..he deserves it.

tell him everytin that happened before its too late
d truth shall set u free
I concur

Tell him first na
And stop whining like a Lil bich
If he loves you,he'll not be moved
If he doesn't take it well OYO is your own

hmm just tell him the truth and if he is meant for u he will stay.thank you

im just thinking, why is the devil like this?

He just want to steal your happiness ni.

Do you two attend the same church?

Talk to your pastor about it

99% of Nigeria girls who have lost their virginity were rape so the girls claim. Just 1% lost theirs willingly.

i read that piece all over again and i cannot find where she talked about virginity there

amajato:
99% of Nigeria girls who have lost their virginity were rape so the girls claim. Just 1% lost theirs willingly.

Obviously, he's sensed a bit of uncomfortableness in you and definitely, those people that know/knew you wouldn't start narrating to him instantly.
Now, since it's inevitable that he'd get to hear about it, and you've already brought to his knowledge that you were raped, just let him know it was there the whole sh*t happened and it's the reason for you acting as though you weren't cool with the house, hence the stomach ache lie.

Good luck

Believe me, if he can find it possible to accept u d way u r even after telling him u v been raped before, then telling him this may no likely move him....

Sorry

I even tried.........its no easy to read this epistle...#summary ti take over!

ehya
why not explain everything that happened to your fiancee......
it was your past and you are a better person now

our past doesnt define us. what we make of today determines our tomorrow. dont be afraid.. your story will turn out beautifully in the end. Tell him everything... but not before you pray about it first

This is a very touching story
Op i dnt even know wht to tell you...how i wish you can open up to him bc dt Man will definitely tell him


if i were u i will just tell him and face the consequences simple


u might just tell him dt the man dt raped you is in d compound

if this story is true,and not fabricated then it is indeed touching.

just tell him.... its difficult

fruitie:
When I was a teenager, i was brought to Lagos to hussle, i started doing minor jobs like sales girl, i was living in Surulere with the lady that brought me to Lagos, she was loosed and will have many boy friends, I knew she wasnt living a good life and i had prayed to be different, one day as i returned, one man who was also her boyfriend before, started being nice to me, i told her about it and she told me she is done with the man and that i can start with him, i hate the sound of every word from her mouth, and the way she said it, so i ignore the man, the environment where we were staying, everyone boast of boyfriends, they keep them in numbers and change them like wrapper.

So the man kept on disturbing me, he will come and give my aunty money to cook, before i arrive home the aunty will tell me he gave us this, that and that and i asked her, hope not cos of me cos i will never have anything to do with him, long story short, it got to the point where my aunty said if i cannot agree for the man to sleep with me to continue his good will on us, i should find my way and leave her house, so that evening came and i was sleeping on the ground, the man came and started playing with my aunty and then wanted to touch me, i screamed my life out, i almost fainted, my aunty just change the topic and said i was a witch and that she got me in the act of witch craft, she screamed and everyone in the compound came out, and she was telling them i was a witch, threw me out of the house that night and i cried, and carried my bag.

That morning, where i was working there was a man, he was a courier man that use to bring something for our boss, so when he saw me he said there was something wrong, he asked what happened and i narrated the story for him.

He told me sorry and said he will help me, later he told me he has a 6 years old son, that he could rent a house for me to stay with his son, just for me to bath him to school before coming to work and cook for him in the evening, that his son mom had died, i said no problem, i was excited, then he took me to the house where i stayed with his son and he only comes around, later he started passing night in the house and told neighbors i was his mistress, it was only sometime before he started demanding for sex and since i would not give him, he will beat me up those nights and neighbors will come to ask what happened and he will say all sort of things, this continues for almost a year and sometimes he will rape me but people could not understand why i was living with him, i was too ashame to tell them the story of what happened, i couldnt raise my head in that compound until i was able to find a place and moved on with my life.

Fast forward to 2016, because i never wanted to live the type of life i met in Lagos, God helped me to stand out, have pull through all of that finished my education and gainfully employed, I met this young man at work and we dated for over 2 years, he proposed last December and plans are already on the way for our wedding.

We wanted to rent a house because he lives with his parent currently, but his father decided to share his properties among them and gave him one of his house, and coincidentally one of the tenant in the house his father gave him quit last December too and so he wants us to move into the flat as couple.

I was excited cos that will safe us the rental fee we were planning, then last week he took me to the house so i can see what furniture we need to buy etc.

First when he told me where the house his father gave him was, i told him i know the area well that i have lived there, so when we were going to see the house last weekend, i almost died, like died when he drove into the street where i lived with that man 8 years ago and while i was still holding my breath he stopped and went to open the gate of the same compound where this incidence happened. before he drove in, i put on my eye glasses i didnt know what to do or to say, entering the compound, i still find some of the families that use to come and separate our fight in the night, while he was busy greeting the tenants, i just pretend im answering a call, then rushed to meet him as he made to enter the house, i couldnt go out and when we wanted to go, i was tip toeing like a criminal.

He asked what happened if i do not like the house, i couldnt say no i said i have stomach ache instead cos the house is very okay, i cant possibly bring up any excuse etc.

I am so disturbed, half of the tenant will know me, how will i carry my face, what if they tell him, i am so sure they will know me very well, yes they will.

And even though i never told my fiance im an angel, have told him some of the thingsand that I have been raped before, i just didnt tell him how it happened. WHAT SHOULD I DO OOO... I FEEL LIKE RUNNING AWAY ALREADY

too long mehn...didnt read

op...i dont advise ladies at all.

I will try to tell him tonight