For men who think it fit for whatever reasons, to leave there young wives and little kids back home in Nigeria while they stay abroad, you might or might not be suprised at this.
Afam checked on a female client whose hubby stays abroad, in one of these asian countries, probably Malaysia, to close a lingering buisness deal he had with her, as he knocked on her apartment and was let in, her 2 1/2 years old kid, who was in the living room rushed over him happily, shouting "daddy daddy daddy", the kid was allover him as he hugged Afam tightly, Afam was quick to understand what was going on, a quick look into the searching eyes of this kid revealed that he is in desperate need of something and is searching for it, as he took him in his arms, he was suprised that the mum who was standing right in front of him did not correct her little boy that Afam was not his dad, something he came to understand to mean that this might not be the first time the kid is playing out such behaviour. It was his older brother, about 6 yrs of age who rushed in due to the commotion and said" Favour it is not daddy" then sighed, frowned and left the room dissapointed.
But Favour never left as he was busy making Afam his daddy.
Their dad rarely comes home, the last time he did was during Favours birth / church dedication, Favour is one among so many Nigerian children who only talks with daddy on phone, looks at daddy's picture, but rarely sees him around.
It is the height of man's irresponsibility to his home to abandon his young wives and little kids behind to seek greener pastures elsewhere, i choose the word "abandoned" because even if your sending back tons of dollars every now and then, it still doesnt compensate for that something they are missing.
Start making arrangements for their relocation over there as well, or better still come back to them, your family needs you.
Afam is a good christian, with strong morality, who knows if he hadn't be, what might had become his thoughts towards that young lonely woman.
Or take for instance, nature plays her sweet tricks on the young wife one cold night, and the imaginations of Afam's handsome physique, and the way he played lovingly with Favour in his arms calling him "daddy" takes over her senses, and she began to approach him, yearning for his touch , don't get mad or start fighting people, FIGHT YOURSELF FIRST.

FTC

OP, my favourite moniker

*modified*
I agree vewi much. Leaving ur family for any extended period of time, is unwise and unhealthy. Especially when the children are young or when the marriage is fresh, but TBH, at any time.

You married so u could live TOGETHER and that's what you need to do. It's not a hard and fast rule, but it's better to live with your family in Naija then to be struggling in various countries "abroad", separately.

MrsPhyno:
FTC

Oooh OP, my favourite monicker

i see you 'the only mermaid in my ocean' @ mrsphyno, sleep no gree me oo. And yes i have seen such attitudes wreck unimaginable havocs on young homes, its high time these kind of guys wise up.

Why marry when the intent is to live apart?

Had a friend then whose father came home once a year then while we were in secondary school.

Father and mother's presence has a role in the psyche of a child development.

Never marry if you plan staying apart.

I grew up in a broken home,i know the effect on me. When other kids are saying things their dad did for them,i always look like a drunk goat with nothing to say.

Till today,i see my dad as a stranger in my life.
Nothing beats living under same Roof with both parents.

Yomieluv:
Why marry when the intent is to live apart?

Had a friend then whose father came home once a year then while we were in secondary school.

Father and mother's presence has a role in the psyche of a child development.

Never marry if you plan staying apart.

you got it so right bro

#rawfact

Preach it bro! Preach

worse off are the innocent kids who pay for it. some of them grow up with psychological issues bordering on lack of a leader in the house. #twoheadsarebetterthanone

One of nature's call is sex. Don't call your 'abandoned' spouse a cheat if he/she answers the call of nature.

One if the shortest and informative thread

Afam4Eva are you there?

Its usually the reverse. Leave wife and kids abroad and be "flexing" in naija.

What happens to wife abroad.. kids and husband in 9ja??

true that

Good one OP.

Erhmmm.. let me read

Good one.
Worst is such men are busy enjoying with several girls out there while the innocent young wife spends time nurturing her wet urges.

Nonsense! Abeg body to be firewood o, Afam can still lend a helping hand if he doesn't mind *winks*


Afterall father Emeka is still at the parish. K'anyi gaba nu confession! !

Op op op am sure you are not married

Hmmmmmmmm

Bro I get ur point, but... One thing I know for sure is, when he decides to stay home and things are not as rosy as they feel it should be... That same woman go find other means... Its d kids I pity most tho

so Afameva don dey go malaysia abi

True talk OP ... Couples should endeavor to stay together regardless. Because, it's only when there's a Crack in the wall.....

God forbid any long distant marriage. I want my man with me always, everyday. if he has to travel for a short time we go together. Yes, i'm abokoku like dat

Exponental:
One of nature's call is sex. Don't call your 'abandoned' spouse a cheat if he/she answers the call of nature.

If you are watching or monitoring your spouse's sexual activities you are not a serious being

MsGlobalwonder:
God forbid any long distant marriage. I want my man with me always, everyday. if he has to travel for a short time we go together. Yes, i'm abokoku like dat

Hmmm
Yinmu

yellowbars in UK una dey hear

Skibo wait are you kidding me ?

Charity dey say begins at home....bro next tym learn to lay proper foundation an thinkin be4 leavin ya family behind..

Ok... U shld stay with dem in naija starvin abi if u dont leave d girl, she'll definately leave u ni.