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Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 4:18pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
eyinjuege: I just love the openess of Some cultures about death, but it still spooky wen they advertise funeral insurance asking folks to pay for their funerals expense in advance . |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by Ewuro4: 5:49pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
Aunty Bebe thanks for sharing this and giving us another life lesson to learn. I work in a Palative Unit where terminally ill patients are being comforted till their last day . So I get it. But like Tearoses emphasized, it's a culture thing, I tried to let people understand this fact but we have a long way to go. I read about a UK doctor this morning, that was fired because he kept referring his terminally ill patients to TB Joshua for 'permanent healing' What they don't understand is that when Death comes knocking , there's no going back, fact but very true. May God help us all. bebe2: That is my request- Cremation. It has nothing to do with land shortage. Then spread my ashes to ogunpa river so my enemies can sniff it in their brains. Hehe hehe |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by crackhaus: 5:49pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
bebe2, lovely and emotionally-deep piece. I'm a little bit curious as to why you tagged me in the OP though, I could swear I did not see my moniker there when I read it earlier. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 5:59pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
crackhaus: I was chatting to Ewuro4, and I thot oh I shud tag some sensible pple in that thread , lol |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 6:06pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
Ewuro4: Hahaha u no dey disappoint I knew u where a health care work never new it was palliative care, u must be very strong. U need to see me crying dat day, our Rev and the man's wife were laughing at me. Thank God I had a scarf kept using it cover my face. Lol @ the doctor's referal to TB Joshua, Am sure u heard of the nurse that was screaming jesus while her patient was having a fit , I love my pple jare. Think I will join the cremation crew, doesn't seem so bad afterall. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by crackhaus: 6:14pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
bebe2:Ohhh, thank God... Lol And here I thought you were trying to pass a message to me specifically regarding death and the after-life...my mind don cut before 1 Like |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by damiso(f): 6:17pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
bebe2: sharp man Yeah it's so lovely to have those memories .. We miss Him a lot but that's life 1 Like |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 6:57pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
crackhaus: No ooo, u still atleast 100 yrs left in u, I need break record na |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by eyinjuege: 7:09pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
bebe2: It is o. I trust my Naija peeps- "God forbid" , " I reject it IJN" Who wan die... 1 Like |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by cococandy(f): 7:56pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
bebe2:The matter of life insurance is not even widely discussed much less asking one to pay their funeral insurance. They will ask you if you're planning for them to die soon. We love life too much. Hehehe. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 8:01pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
cococandy: My 80yr old mum was giving them holy ghost fire wen she was here oo The thing used to get her angry, how can they be asking someone to pay for their own burial wen they are still alive? I go try explain to her tire |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by cococandy(f): 8:04pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
Lol. I guess they see it as a bad omen or something. God help you if you tell someone something like one day and they die a few days later. You'll go to the village to explain before the oracle how you didn't kill them . bebe2: 3 Likes |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by Godpikin4: 9:35pm On Jan 23, 2016 |
crackhaus:Lol..Crackie is scared How cute! |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by crackhaus: 12:54am On Jan 24, 2016 |
Godpikin4:Cute? Hehehehe. . okay na |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by crackhaus: 1:04am On Jan 24, 2016 |
bebe2:Lol, at least? |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 2:51am On Jan 24, 2016 |
crackhaus: yes na, u go be nairaland great great gran pa |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by Nobody: 7:54am On Jan 24, 2016 |
Thanks for sharing, guess it will give some people something to ponder about.. I strongly believe that its easier to bear our pains than pains of those we love Now back to the woman..... I can just imagine all she went through and was left with no option than to be strong. The husband in pains and her having sleepless night, praying earnestly for some sort of miracles The husband in tears and she will be the one encouraging him but deep down she is having a bleeding heart. She asking God too many questions because she feels helpless ...... My thought Is she happy he died? No, but does she feel better now? Yes because he is out of the whole pain and resting in peace... |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 10:23am On Jan 24, 2016 |
favoured234: You are so right, And They ve made alot of adjustments to fit his care around their lives. His daughter just paid £40k to have their house extended so he can move around the house without the stress of using the stairs. He was so loved, most have been painful for them to see him suffer. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by Royver(m): 10:43am On Jan 24, 2016 |
bebe2:This is a very deep and insightful topic. Kudos. I remember one of the first deaths I experienced as a fresh intern just out of med school. The guy was a young dude in his late 20s and had HIV. I came to his bed when he was taking his last breaths. At that time HIV was still highly stigmatized disease and all his family had abandoned him to his fate. I saw his struggling and gasping for breath, sweat streaming down his face and very restless. I asked the nurse if anything could be done and she said no, he was already moribund. I could see the agony in his face as he struggled with death. I had just finished watching an American movie where the guy had been talking to his comatose friend nd consoling him. And they say the last sense to go in death is hearing. So I bent close to him and whispered encouragement and told him he would be OK on the other side, that he shouldn't be afraid. The guy calmed down almost immediately. I squeezed his hand for a short while and then let go. It didn't take long after the fellow died. I honestly felt the talk helped him. It would be nice if people keyed more into this instead of screaming and sometimes hitting and pinching the dying. Nice thread. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by cococandy(f): 10:55am On Jan 24, 2016 |
That was so nice of you. One can only pray for strength to be that calm and collected in the face of losing a loved one. Royver: |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 11:00am On Jan 24, 2016 |
Royver: Am glad U watched dat American movie right before hand, if it was nollywood u wud ve picked him up and shook him he gets broken bones, lol. Ok, pple pinch the dying? I guess they think dat will bring him/her back to life. Very sad. 1 Like |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by KzY(f): 12:22pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
This is such an interesting thread and hope some people will share their experience too. Death is inevitable and all of us will die for sure. But most of us feels its a taboo and are reluctant to discuss about it. My Mom's health condition changed my view towards death. It's a heart breaking thoughts but I knew Mom is going to die anytime, only God knows when. The good thing upon knowing that somebody is going to die anytime is you have ample time to prepare for its coming, both emotionally and spiritually. The remaining years and days of my mom was wonderful because we had given the time to show and let her feel that we care and love her so much. I know in my heart, she died with joy and peace. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by 4nobody4every1: 12:27pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
Nice and informative |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by GodnGold: 12:42pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
Very nice. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by UjSizzle(f): 12:03pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
This is a beautiful post bebe2. The man is blessed to have a such a wonderful wife. I hope he rests in peace. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 6:07pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
UjSizzle: Tnk u sis, His family adores him, he too have shown them love . Can u imagine even wit an amputated leg he used to escort his daughter to appointments just to keep her company on long drives. The daughter is an international lawyer, she once told her dad day she didn't trust this particular client day if she us not out of the office in 30mins he shud call the police. She came out of the office over an hour later only to meet her dad fast asleep , the poor man was too tired from the long drive. 1 Like |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by wman(m): 6:53pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
UjSizzle: Hi. In one of your earlier posts, you mentioned something about a reading club. Please I'll like to join. My number is 08069557440. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by Nobody: 7:16pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
Nice post. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by bebe2(f): 8:23pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
wman: really?? dat must be a long time ago, am so busy these days i hardly have time for reading but, if u lead, i will follow |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by UjSizzle(f): 10:39pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
wman:Are you in Lagos? |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by wman(m): 10:46pm On Jan 25, 2016 |
UjSizzle: Only during the holidays. I'm in Osun state most of the time. |
Re: MY experience: Helping to Have A Good Death. by Caracta(f): 7:42am On Jan 26, 2016 |
Very nice thread. Thanks so much for sharing. Now my question: How are you so sure they are going to die? Reminds me of when my dad was very ill. He had a heart disease and everyone thought he was going to die, including the doctor. Oh well, we said our goodbyes. We cried, we sang. Listened to a dying father bla bla bla. This is the 5th year. My father is still alive. I think we just like to wish things away. Like someone said, it's a culture thing. We just do not want to accept or 'give' up on our loved ones. I can't imagine a Nigerian widow sharing funny experiences of her late husband at his funeral. Even Linda Ikeji would blog about it. I really appreciate this thread. I think it's a privilege to even know when one is dying. 1 Like |
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