cold:

Ladies,if your man whom you thought loved with all his heart the same way you did suddenly suggests a pre-nup, say a month to walking down the aisle, how would you take it, what would be your reaction,would you accept?

ezinne1212:

hmm, there's love in sharing

NaJa HaJe:

To me Pre-nup feels like am preparing to fail and that am expecting this relationship to fail. I understand why its done but i dont agree with it.

TheSeeker:

Me too. If I'm opting for a Pre-nup why getting married in the first place?

sistawoman:

Depending on the terms in the pre-nup I would sign it and walk down the asle.

ikamefa:

we are both getting pre-nups! 

am giving him[b] mine[/b] too,

no mugun for jungle again oh! 

Abi oo

NaJa HaJe:

To me Pre-nup feels like am preparing to fail and that am expecting this relationship to fail. I understand why its done but i dont agree with it.

biola44:

is marriage now a sort of business deal?

izeek:

@all.
sorry but what do you guys own that needs a pre-nup to secure in the event of whatever?

pre-nup for the small bungalow or the second hand honda wey u buy?

abeg make we leave pre-nups to those who should apply it.


_{prenup are for mega-stars like me!}

whitelexi:

Marriage as we know it has started looking more like a business cartel where men [but especially women] who add absolutely nothing to a marriage walk away after a few yrs with nearly half of their spouse's life time savings or hard-work.

I think, going forward, pre-nups may be the way out as it places a restraining order upon whoever is involved in it, stopping them from having monumental claims if the marriage resulted in a divorce. It may also be a yardstick for measuring how much love actually exists in your union rather that what can be raked up from life insurance and net worth!

izeek:

@theseeker,
then u have agreed to the fact that hindsight came into play when choosing a wife?

izeek:

yes it is,
that's y one is adviced not to rush into it.
and when u make a decision base it on the fact that amongst the millions of leeches u saw out there,
she is most likely going to stay with you and work things tru.
that's what a wife is.
the most tolerable woman u ever met.

izeek:

or prospect, or just the mere fact that she wants a man to call her own.
that's my point exactly, find out why she stays around you.
and if its not for the right reason, she ain't your wife.
u just have to definethe kinda wife u want, and go outthere and find her.

that's y the bible says "he who findeth a wife" finding a wife requires and act of searching, scrutinizing,
and also eliminating until u get the right choice.

take ur time is what u are adviced.

pc guru:

Wetin concern me i go just slide the pre-nup during court marriage as she dey signing mood she might sign it not knowing by the way i don't think the woman has anything to be worried if she doesn't have any ulterior motive.Left to me assassination in Hitman style is cheaper than loosing $400m(insert:sense of humor)

Secretz:

Ha ha,

I had this convo with a friend recently too. lol
Personally, I don't initially agree with a pre-nup especially when you both come into the marriage with basically nothing. However, I think when people split, the amount of years they were married regardless of the reason for break up should play a role in who gets what and at what percentage. There is no way, I am marrying a man at 26, we both have equal amounts of qualifications and to high standards, but asset wise we have nothing. We build a home and career, he requests I stay at home for the sake of raising the children because he can afford to take care of us. We then die-vorce 30 years later and I leave with nothing because of some stupid pre-nup?

I agree some women are VERY VERY greedy and take the pizz, especially after only being married for 4 years or so compared to those who were married for over 15 years and a built a life and success with that person?

I only agree with pre-nups if someone is extremely rich and has been bitten once before. In circumstances like this, its not a matter of not wanting to trust a person, but not being 100% sure what the person is really after.

TheSeeker:

Classic comment. You just said it, however, most women don't want to start building a home and career. They want a ready-made, ATM-like guy who they can strip off of some of their money in the name of a divorce.